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Old 12-07-2011, 04:11 PM   #91 (permalink)
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I don't understand why women are expected to do a bj when they are not arroused.
Don't you know, according to some people, if you're not on your knees and down to swallow on command, you are not going to make it in the long run relationship/marriage-wise?

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Old 12-07-2011, 04:13 PM   #92 (permalink)
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Very well spoken. As a man, I would rather a BJ only be something that she really wanted to do, preferably mutually, as an expression of how well her needs are met, or when she is in a giving mood. I just can't see it as an expectation of the artificial variety, one that gets loaded onto a mental weekly calendar as a minimum requirement.
1. Take dog to vet.
2. Unload dishwasher.
3. Order Christmas cards.
4. Have tires rotated.
5. Give husband a bj.

Can't imagine that there are men who think this is a groovy idea.
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Old 12-07-2011, 04:14 PM   #93 (permalink)
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Don't you know, according to some people, if you're not on your knees and down to swallow on command, you are not going to make it in the long run relationship/marriage-wise?

All of course while clutching rosary beads and the Hallulujah chorus from Handel's Messiah is playing in the background.
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Old 12-07-2011, 04:17 PM   #94 (permalink)
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All of course while clutching rosary beads and the Hallulujah chorus from Handel's Messiah is playing in the background.
OK - so that was kind of hot - but in a really weird way...
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Old 12-07-2011, 04:25 PM   #95 (permalink)
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ALL I want to add to this thread is... when I didn't worship my husbands penis, poor man , he went 19 years with that gift lying dorment.... he was not as HAPPY deep within.... he even felt less loved...so I learned when I started asking questions.

What I see here with such threads is ...the same feelings as my quiet suffering husband had - but much more forthcoming, such words may even come off as demanding, expecting too much. Women will always have an appreciation for the sexually silent suffering man who puts himself down. But that is why he continues to suffer! that is no good either.

Now that I do "worship" my husband's penis, he is estatic and frankly, so am I.... He feels ovewhelmingly loved now. Love it, can't get enough , we joke about my worship. I wish I was this way my whole da** marraige.... and if I was a guy, I would likely feel the same & get my butt chewed for speaking about it, cause I am not the silent suffering type.

On the other end, I am thrilled my husband wants to be in between my legs and has enthusiam about it. --and I can't even orgasm that way but WANT it anyhow!!

There is just something overtakingy beautiful about our lovers wanting every part of our body, some of us feel strongly about this --I won't belittle that. It is all encompasing and we crave it...

For me, there is just no measure on what happiness this brings to a spouse, it satisfys the soul somehow.
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I stopped reading after this post...because it was more of the same boring push and pull, joking around horseplay...

I think it's simple: BJ's represent desire. It feels good if your lady demonstrates desire for you, and it feel lousy when she doesn't. The good or the lousy manifest in all sorts of ways.
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Old 12-07-2011, 05:07 PM   #96 (permalink)
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Not true. I've had people do it correctly.

I just don't like it. Why do you care what I don't like in bed? I love tons of other things so this isn't an issue for us. I asked him if he likes to do it and he said, "Not really". Perfect match
Agree totally darkhorse.

People are quick to generalize (like me too) but, my wife is the same way. We have had many conversations about cunnilingus. Yes my wife enjoys it but for her she prefers to have me inside her when she O's. She says it gives her something to "grip on" when she contracts. In our case it since it takes me a long time to climax she is usually is has has 5-10 Os durring one intercourse session. Warming her up with oral is not that important.
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Old 12-07-2011, 06:23 PM   #97 (permalink)
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Very entertaining thread.

Although I will share this thought.
I have always really loved doing this. But reading all these threads from men stamping their feet is turning me right off of this.

No longer on my list.
So you managed to convert one of us. Just not in the direction you wanted. And the whole on your knees worshipping thing has put an image in my brain for quite awhile. I used to think it was FUN to turn a guy on that much and very personal to watch and feel him climax. Not anymore.
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Old 12-07-2011, 06:36 PM   #98 (permalink)
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Very entertaining thread.

Although I will share this thought.
I have always really loved doing this. But reading all these threads from men stamping their feet is turning me right off of this.

No longer on my list.
So you managed to convert one of us. Just not in the direction you wanted. And the whole on your knees worshipping thing has put an image in my brain for quite awhile. I used to think it was FUN to turn a guy on that much and very personal to watch and feel him climax. Not anymore.
I don't think any of the Men said anything about women needing to be on their knees and "worship."
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Very entertaining thread.

Although I will share this thought.
I have always really loved doing this. But reading all these threads from men stamping their feet is turning me right off of this.

No longer on my list.
So you managed to convert one of us. Just not in the direction you wanted. And the whole on your knees worshipping thing has put an image in my brain for quite awhile. I used to think it was FUN to turn a guy on that much and very personal to watch and feel him climax. Not anymore.
Thank god I don't get on my knees lolll We're too lazy to be upright ...
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Old 12-07-2011, 07:03 PM   #100 (permalink)
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Thank god I don't get on my knees lolll We're too lazy to be upright ...
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Old 12-07-2011, 07:40 PM   #101 (permalink)
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All of course while clutching rosary beads and the Hallulujah chorus from Handel's Messiah is playing in the background.
Ehhh rosaries around the neck, his or your, it dosen't matter. The proper reverence for his junk is preserved and ......... You need to use your hands. : o }
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Old 12-07-2011, 08:19 PM   #102 (permalink)
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Ima bow down to my husband's penis tonight and see what he says.



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Ima bow down to my husband's penis tonight and see what he says.



Probably won't say much! Have fun!
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Old 12-08-2011, 10:37 AM   #104 (permalink)
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I don't think any of the Men said anything about women needing to be on their knees and "worship."
The OP did. "The act of getting on one’s knees and getting up front and personal to a mans penis is essentially to worship it. To give it the love and attention that we as men think it deserves. By worshiping it you are worshiping us."

I don't worship anything but God thank you very much, nor would I expect a man to worship any of my body parts.

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Very entertaining thread.

Although I will share this thought.
I have always really loved doing this. But reading all these threads from men stamping their feet is turning me right off of this.

No longer on my list.
So you managed to convert one of us. Just not in the direction you wanted. And the whole on your knees worshipping thing has put an image in my brain for quite awhile. I used to think it was FUN to turn a guy on that much and very personal to watch and feel him climax. Not anymore.
Wow. Does your husband know that his sex life is controlled by some dumb comments on a message board? Because it seems to me like this is information he would want to know (I know I would).
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