Re: I don't understand women in this regard
I have no issues with BJs not being completed. I feel like adding the "need" to orgasm makes it a physical pleasure, not quite an intmate thing. Not to mention, the jaw hurting, the stress of moving up and down, not being able to breath. BJs, unlike sex, are not natural. They are something women do to please their men, but what her mouth was made for, and not where your sperm was meant to be. Therefore, I disagree with the OP (2011).
However, I feel like giving a man a BJ, even if for 5 to 10 minutes, is intimate and very much a part of a healthy relationship. I also feel that swallowing, by say, me pulling our during intercourse and feeding my wife my seeds is also extremely intimate. Do they mean she should want to do this, or it's a deal break? No.
I am glad I have an understanding wife, but I am also understanding. I couldn't really be happy knowing my wife has to shake her head up and down for 30 minutes until I cum. Talk about ruining anything special she ever felt about giving me oral sex. And I'm very alpha. I just think that mentality is caveman. Women weren't put here to be down on their knees servicing you with their mouths.
---- I do feel women should have sex with their husbands each day.