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Yep, that is in fact more effective a lot of the time for me than porn (because I remember the feel and all about it much more vividly).

And yes, any heirs going through our stuff will be petrified for life...Not really sure what to do about it actually. Maybe call Tom Cruise and ask for one of those "these tapes will self-destruct in x years" type of gadgets.
I've instructed my sister to collect my laptop upon my untimely death.

I've also told my kids "you know, I can't guarantee there won't be any home made porn in one of those boxes in the attic...I'll try to find it and destroy it before I die so you won't ever have to see it, but hey, if I can't get to it, at least you were forewarned. Be careful when rummaging around my crap after I die".

They both just laughed, but knew I wasn't kidding.

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Depending on position, I would argue this is not the most efficient place for camera placement...
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Depending on position, I would argue this is not the most efficient place for camera placement...
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I would much prefer porn of my wife, but there is no way she would be willing to do it.

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Okay, so here's my last question. Do you think you could get the same 'jump' if the porn was homemade starring your wife?

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AT least for electronic porn you can encrypt the directories so no one will easily stumble on it. I don't mean NSA-proof encryption, just enough that someone won't stumble on it accidentally.


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I've instructed my sister to collect my laptop upon my untimely death.

I've also told my kids "you know, I can't guarantee there won't be any home made porn in one of those boxes in the attic...I'll try to find it and destroy it before I die so you won't ever have to see it, but hey, if I can't get to it, at least you were forewarned. Be careful when rummaging around my crap after I die".

They both just laughed, but knew I wasn't kidding.
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AT least for electronic porn you can encrypt the directories so no one will easily stumble on it. I don't mean NSA-proof encryption, just enough that someone won't stumble on it accidentally.
Eh, no one uses my laptop. (Actually that's not true...my mom had a friend over awhile back and she told the friend she could use my laptop...yikes!) I don't care, if the friend went through my pictures (unlikely) then she did, and oh well.

Other than that one time, there's no reason for anyone to ever use my laptop. If someone robbed me and took it, I would only be pissed that I didn't get all of them on a thumb drive first.

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You should back them up - unless losing them would be an excuse to need to re-film them all....


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Eh, no one uses my laptop. (Actually that's not true...my mom had a friend over awhile back and she told the friend she could use my laptop...yikes!) I don't care, if the friend went through my pictures (unlikely) then she did, and oh well.

Other than that one time, there's no reason for anyone to ever use my laptop. If someone robbed me and took it, I would only be pissed that I didn't get all of them on a thumb drive first.
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I would much prefer porn of my wife, but there is no way she would be willing to do it.
Mini-tip: she will be much more agreeable once she is properly "in the mood".
Just keep an iphone close by for a start and make it all seem casual & natural. Don't make a big deal out of it. Try this first, before investing in flood lights, fans and professional fluffers, to avoid disappointment (as otherwise it might only be you & the fluffer on video, then the kids (or whoever discovers the legacy stash) will really ask some serious questions... :-)

But seriously, conversations & planning beforehand is not so popular, it seems, unless partner is generally very agreeable.
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I know, I need to get that done....

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But seriously, conversations & planning beforehand is not so popular, it seems, unless partner is generally very agreeable.
For me, I want the conversations and planning beforehand...and then I want to be the director and editor....because I have to make sure I'm only filmed at my best angles.

You gotta delete a lot of horrible bad images to get a handful of world class ones.

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Agree in general. I my case, its completely out of the question.

Fun as this is to talk about, some people do find the idea very offensive. Need to suggest it carefully.

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Mini-tip: she will be much more agreeable once she is properly "in the mood".
Just keep an iphone close by for a start and make it all seem casual & natural. Don't make a big deal out of it. Try this first, before investing in flood lights, fans and professional fluffers, to avoid disappointment (as otherwise it might only be you & the fluffer on video, then the kids (or whoever discovers the legacy stash) will really ask some serious questions... :-)

But seriously, conversations & planning beforehand is not so popular, it seems, unless partner is generally very agreeable.
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I suppose there are some mormons in Utah that do not use porn for masturbation. But the rest of the worlds men...pretty much all do. Accept the fact, just so long as it does not injure your couple sex play, why worry about it?
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Mini-tip: she will be much more agreeable once she is properly "in the mood".
Just keep an iphone close by for a start and make it all seem casual & natural. Don't make a big deal out of it. Try this first, before investing in flood lights, fans and professional fluffers, to avoid disappointment (as otherwise it might only be you & the fluffer on video, then the kids (or whoever discovers the legacy stash) will really ask some serious questions... :-)

But seriously, conversations & planning beforehand is not so popular, it seems, unless partner is generally very agreeable.
On the occasions my wife and I bother to go there, she is used to me using a professional DSLR with giant flash, soft box, 500 watt lights/flashes etc, and or video camera plus Go Pro's.

Incidentally in the past, we have shared some of our sexually explicit photography (no videos) online before for free. So it's fair to say we have produced and shared some of our own amateur pornography.

That said although our production values are high end, since we don't post any images that have shown anything above the lips we're pretty anonymous. Despite the lack of face shots, at one point my wife had a bit of a following. The biggest thing that surprised me when we shared some of our stuff, was that I also sometimes got requests to photograph other women.
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I don't see anything in the bible that would be a prohibition against porn. Adultery clearly means something different. "Lusting" is a tricky one. If you see an attractive woman at the beach, is it "lusting" to find her sexually attractive if you do not act on that attraction? We may need to study the meaning of the words at the time that they were written.



In the larger picture, they bible really does not make that big a deal about sexuality, even though the later church has done so. For all the complaints about homosexuality etc, I see very little outrage about people working on the Sabbath - and that is a COMMANDMENT.



The bible seems to be about accepting Jesus as savior, about loving your neighbor, about seeking redemption. It seems to me that if people get the basics right, many of these other concerns are pretty trivial in comparison.


Lusting means to have a strong sexual desire for someone, doesn't have to mean you acted. So you are sinning if you are looking at someone and lusting, if they are not your spouse.


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For me it's because our sex life is barely there. It makes me feel like I'm competing with porn and porn is winning. Ultimately it is a very lonely experience and I'm wondering why I'm still trying.

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