The other day my wife and I were discussing fantasies (mostly mine). She revealed to me that she has a very particular fantasy, but that she will not tell me out of fear that it would absolutely ruin the experience by making it feel scripted and planned as opposed to her desire for it to happen completely naturally. She said she has been waiting twenty years for me to try it one day and that she hopes I will figure it out soon.
SERIOUSLY?
Badsanta
PS: There is a small chance that my wife has no fantasy and she said that to make me work harder at making her happy. That would be so like her as she admittedly enjoys messing with my head and teasing me in that exact way.
I think there is an actual fantasy (every woman has one, or a few). The fact that she is worried that it might be scripted if she told you suggests something more elaborate than a pot of honey or an activity. Probably an impersonation or the first thing I mentioned. Have you heard of Clive Bixby and Julianna?
IF.... there is a real fantasy she indicated that it would be something that could just happen naturally. So I doubt there would be any theatrics or role playing.
Does she read spicy romance or erotic novels? Most women gravitate toward the books that have characters having sex the way they fantasize about it.
Have you tried the kitchen counter or up against the refrigerator yet? Or on the stairs on the way to the bedroom, with the scenario being you can't wait long enough to make it to the bed? (And yes, I would have loved any of those, tame as they may seem. My H never wanted ANYTHING other than vanilla doggy style or spooning. He didn't even like missionary. Although he did tell me once after we split that he did have fantasies just not involving me. I was his "good girl" and he couldn't treat me that way.
I read a romance novel once where they had sex on a moving treadmill...talk about fantasy ... as in, how is that even possible 😜
Are you sure it wasn't Men's Health magazine? From time to time they always preach how to give enjoyable sex to your wife while work out your body at the same time...(pathetic!) :scratchhead:
Now if only they mentioned one of those Power Vibration Plates, I could maybe understand the appeal!
The other day my wife and I were discussing fantasies (mostly mine). She revealed to me that she has a very particular fantasy, but that she will not tell me out of fear that it would absolutely ruin the experience by making it feel scripted and planned as opposed to her desire for it to happen completely naturally. She said she has been waiting twenty years for me to try it one day and that she hopes I will figure it out soon.
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I think the premise is, you MIGHT have very kinky thoughts, and want to try things, but are too embarrassed to tell your spouse what it is. BUt you two might have a common kink that yu would be surprised that the other person wants also.
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