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post #1 of 71 (permalink) Old 01-06-2017, 03:03 PM Thread Starter
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Problem with wanting sex to just be natural

The other day my wife and I were discussing fantasies (mostly mine). She revealed to me that she has a very particular fantasy, but that she will not tell me out of fear that it would absolutely ruin the experience by making it feel scripted and planned as opposed to her desire for it to happen completely naturally. She said she has been waiting twenty years for me to try it one day and that she hopes I will figure it out soon.

SERIOUSLY?

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PS: There is a small chance that my wife has no fantasy and she said that to make me work harder at making her happy. That would be so like her as she admittedly enjoys messing with my head and teasing me in that exact way.
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They all do LOL

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Your wife has only herself to blame if her fantasy never comes true.

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Hopefully she's just messing with ya.

Otherwise it becomes YOUR fault that you cannot read HER mind.

My story: After a night on the town with him, wife exchanged inappropriate texts with her former boss.

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Your wife has only herself to blame if her fantasy never comes true.
No sh!t. 20 YEARS?? You've got to be kidding me. She really doesnt want to do it then.

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Got to agree with others. The idea that you can somehow figure out what she wants is absurd.

Maybe show up to bed with a hockey mask, a toaster and a basket ball and announce that you think you have guessed at her fantasy.......
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You should start living out your fantasies(with her) and who knows maybe you hit on the right one.You can have a lot of fun trying anyway.
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Check with strongman. He's a mind reader.
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The other day my wife and I were discussing fantasies (mostly mine). She revealed to me that she has a very particular fantasy, but that she will not tell me out of fear that it would absolutely ruin the experience by making it feel scripted and planned as opposed to her desire for it to happen completely naturally. She said she has been waiting twenty years for me to try it one day and that she hopes I will figure it out soon.

SERIOUSLY?

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PS: There is a small chance that my wife has no fantasy and she said that to make me work harder at making her happy. That would be so like her as she admittedly enjoys messing with my head and teasing me in that exact way.
Following your posts for some time now, I felt for sure you have tried everything. Are you allowed hints? Does it involve a cape or scuba gear?

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20 years? Hmm, that is a mystery...it could be..

You dressing as an 80's or 90's iconic sex symbol... I'm thinking it's definitely David Hasselholf!
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I'm thinking she wants you to "rape" her. Plenty women have this fantasy, myself included.

PS: not rape in the sense of a stranger taking you against your will, violently.
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20 years! Wow!
I stumbled on one of my wife's fantasies by accident. That was after about 5 years.
When i asked where her orgasm came from, one like I had never seen before, she told me she had wanted me to do that to her for years! Go figure. I'd have never guessed she had that fantasy, and when i asked, she said she never would have told me. She was afraid i would have thought she was a perv or something. One thing....it was nothing i would have thpought of doing, much less that she wanted me to.

Anyway....i did it all the time after that.....and i did it better and with more and great enthusiasm!
She told me another little thing she wanted to try later, and i did that too! Then...another and another.
One good ffantasy deserves another....


Get her drunk, and pry it out of her!
Or you may never know what you are missng....and her either!

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Maybe - but how can he possibly know. Games like that cannot be played without some prior discussion.

Rape fantasies are fantastic, but there has to be some prior agreement on safe words etc or things can go terribly badly.


Maybe she wants him to wake her with sex? or spank her. Or give her a long erotic massage. Or bite her earlobes, or anal, or tickle her, or watersports, or...... There is an endless list of things that some people would really enjoy and others would hate.


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PS: not rape in the sense of a stranger taking you against your will, violently.
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20 years? Hmm, that is a mystery...it could be..

You dressing as an 80's or 90's iconic sex symbol... I'm thinking it's definitely David Hasselholf!

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