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post #61 of 79 (permalink) Old 01-16-2017, 03:30 PM
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Did I read that correctly?
Yes, you did. I couldn't believe it when he told me the story of his first engagement. Shocking. This is not something people will want to talk about, so it makes me wonder how often these things happen...

Not Mississippi or Alabama...
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I never liked the idea of doing sexual things with males that I wasn't in love with. At ages 12-14, I used to briefly french kiss guys to see what it was like and we often played the 'spin the bottle' game with a crowd of friends where you have to french kiss the person of the opposite sex that the bottle points to. After a while, I realized I didn't even like kissing a guy unless I was 'into' him emotionally and physically attracted to him.
Ahh... spin the bottle at my friend's house. She agreed with my suggestion that we go to the other room to kiss instead of in front of everyone. I confess the reason behind this was I figured it was a way someone could have an out without being embarrassed. Although somehow the boys I liked spun the bottle to me. Instead it ended up with giggles outside the door and knocking to tell us time was up. One boy, who I had a crush on, confidently told me he would kiss me that night. Somehow he spun and landed to me. I remember with fondness how nervous he was when we were about to kiss. I instructed him to remove his gum. My friends thought I'd be the first among us to lose my virginity. I was the last... waiting to feel that connection and love.

I didn't ask my parents about sex. My mother called herself a prude and claimed sex was overrated. I grew up with modesty. She was great with was not hindering or interfering with my own journey. She encouraged me to walk to the beat of my own drum and in terms of love and sex, be respectful of myself and others.

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Yes, you did. I couldn't believe it when he told me the story of his first engagement. Shocking. This is not something people will want to talk about, so it makes me wonder how often these things happen...

Not Mississippi or Alabama...
nobody really knows how common it is for sure, but its estimated that consensual sibling incest occurs at an overall rate of about 2.5%

most of them will never come forward and speak about it for a lot of reasons. lets say siblings never thought of it as wrong until people pointed it out to them... then they find out that society will brand them as disgusting and whatnot, or try to convince the younger one that they are the victim of abuse. its like getting a diagnoses of BPD or ASPD. why would ANYONE want to carry the label of disgusting or monster?

i dated a girl in high school who used to have sex with her brother, who was 1 year older. i figured it out and she was shocked that my reaction was more or less just surprise. i got her to talk to me about it. it started out when they were 11/12 and ended when they were 15/16. she told me that she thought that all little girls end up developing a crush on their older brothers. her father wasn't really on the scene much and her mother was constantly drunk. from seeing them all interact, there wasn't physical or sexual abuse, but plenty of neglect.

they are both went on to lead more or less normal lives. he is a married and works at a company that makes boats, she is married and in the army reserves.

her biggest fear that she relayed to me was that people would find out and that she would never escape societies judgement, even though they ended it.

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as for the original question, i have no memory of masturbation or orgasms until i was 14.

what was i thinking of for the first orgasm? probably nothing but the feeling. i cant remember the circumstances of the first time.

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it started out when they were 11/12 and ended when they were 15/16.
It's a good thing the sister did not get pregnant, the stigma would follow them the rest of their lives.

That said, this thread is starting to creep me out.
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It's a good thing the sister did not get pregnant, the stigma would follow them the rest of their lives.

That said, this thread is starting to creep me out.
she did. but she miscarried. her mother knew about it, but didnt know who she was sleeping with. she was too drunk all the time.

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I was 9 or 10 and staying with my aunt and uncle and their nefew from the other side of the family. Anyway, he was 11 and we had to sleep in the same bed.

One morning, I was awakened by him shaking the bed. I asked him and he pulled back the covers to show me that he was masturbating. I had never seen or heard about this and was curious. He didn't believe me that I had never done it before.

After some instruction from him I started. Wow felt pretty good! He soon came and I was amazed again at what happened. I tried until we had to get up but to no avail...... no cum! (We also stroked each other,)

The next morning we did the same thing and he 'helped' me by sucking on it ..... that was another lesson learned! I still didn't cum but when he asked me to suck him, I was all in! He came and I did what was natural, and swallowed, not knowing anything different. I was hooked. This went on for a couple of days more of the same.

That Saturday, my uncle wasn't at work and he and my aunt 'slept' in. We could hear everything that was happening and I of course didn't know about sex at the time. The other lad described everything in detail to me as to what they were doing while I rubbed it out and lo and behold I came. What a thrill !!!!!!

The next day, the other lad and I sucked each other and he got me to cum that way also.
I've been hooked on sex, masturbation and sucking since ............. The first two in particular and occasionaly the sucking.

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I guess I got started a bit young compared to some.
1) I was 10. The first time I remember I humped my pillow until I orgasmed. There was no ejaculate so the orgasm was a lot different then. I don't remember what age I started ejaculating and using my hand but it was maybe 6-12 months later about 11. I don't recall actually masturbating before that, but I looked at playboy and penthouse from about age 8 with sexual interest. I had teen friend/babysitter that that got me the magazines.
Add: The most embarrassing moment ever was when my mom walked in on me humping my pillow. She said, "What are you doing?" and played it off like she didn't know. I was mortified.
2) See #1
3) Mostly what I saw in magazines combined with fantasies of older girls I knew.
I'll add, first PIV sex at 14. First regular sexual relationship with a girlfriend at 16.
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. very late eleven or early twelve

2. middle twelve*

3. was with my best buddy who was a year or so older than me. He taught me how and we were just talking about doing it and him telling me about ejaculating. He then ejaculated I was amazed .

*When I was about six months into doing it still with my friend and I hadn't ejaculated yet he said he had just the thing to make me "come" He then told me I had to promise never to tell anyone which I eagerly did. He then leaned over and gave me my first blowjob, sure enough it did he trick and in seconds I was having my first orgasm half in his mouth half by my hand as he was spitting it out. we got into a habit of "helping each other out after that" as we got a little older we just stopped doing either together.
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1) I was 11.

2) Eleven... first time ended in an orgasm, although I didn't know because I was using so much soap.

3) Nothing. It took < 30 seconds. IIRC, I did it again, maybe five minutes later, and then got out of the shower.
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1. How old were you when you first masturbated?

The day before my 21st birthday. Never had any urge before then.

2. How old were you when you first masturbated to orgasm?

See above.

3. What were you thinking about while masturbating?

I was amazed at what happened, lol. So that's why people do it.
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1. How old were you when you first masturbated?

6 years old

2. How old were you when you first masturbated to orgasm?

11 years old

3. What were you thinking about while masturbating?

neighborhood girls I knew. Well, that was at age 11. At age 6 I was thinking about girls at school. Especially the glimpses of their panties. Those were cherished moments.

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1) 14

2) 14

3) Sports Illustrated Swimsuit issue

Then I cut the pictures out and taped them to my bedroom wall!
You used tape? Weren't they already sticky by then?
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1. About 10. I remember it was winter so i must have just turned 10.

2. Not too much later maybe 3 or 4 months. I discovered it by accident and i didnt realize til several years later what exactly it was called.

3. No idea. Maybe animals since i lived on a farm.
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I masturbated to orgasm the first time at nine years of age. I had no idea of what sex was, but my mother had forced me to attend girl scout camp the summer after third grade, to help make me less shy. I fell madly in lust with my camp counselor, Daisy! I would insinuate my way next to her side during hikes, and hold her hand...she would politely unpeel me from her after a few minutes, LOL. When I would get home from camp every day, I would masturbate.

Upon completion, a deep shame would envelop me, but fortunately I outgrew that.
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