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How old were you the first time you masturbated?

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#1 ·
I thought about making this a poll, but I'm looking for more in-depth responses than simply giving an age. I'm wondering...

1. How old were you when you first masturbated?

2. How old were you when you first masturbated to orgasm?

3. What were you thinking about while masturbating?
 
#4 ·
Let me think......hmmmm.....


1. early to mid teens

2. somewhere in my early mid teens. My first time was in my bed and from that point, I love sex.

3. Older women. When I was young, early to mid teens, I fantasized about older woman and to take me. Ladies in their 20's and 30's.
 
#5 · (Edited)
1. Late 12ish

2. Early 13ish

3. At that age, I'd have to honestly say that it was nothing more other than just how damned good doing it felt!
 
#6 ·
1. 4th grade so about 10 or 11. I know that's young for a girl. An older female cousin taught me and my sister. I don't know her motivation and maybe it was wrong of her but I enjoyed it so I continued doing it.

2. Don't know. Honestly think it was right from the beginning.

3. I usually did it while reading so mentally I was focused on whatever I was reading (usually Nancy Drew or Tricia Belden back then). When I was younger I didn't even realize it had anything to do with sex or men. It just felt good.
 
#12 ·
I found out about sex through porn (older boys had magazines - and sometimes videos when their parents were away - and me and my friends would look at these videos with them. they were "cool". even though they were older they let us watch with them), through television (love scenes), and from overhearing the conversations of some adults and repeating them to friends. It was as if me and my friends were comparing what we knew and bouncing ideas off each other.

Since I was so young, obviously I was no expert but I did know that the penis went into the vagina. That's all the technical know how I needed at the time. When I first saw some video porn I was shocked and intrigued. THE MAN IS PUTTING HIS PEEPEE IN HER TEETEE!!! It was doggystyle so maybe that's where the goosing I liked came form. Get 'em form behind. I wanted to try it right away.
 
#13 ·
1) 24

Yes, I'm serious. As a teen and into my 20's, I always had partners to see to my physical needs and never had to worry about taking care of it myself. I didn't masturbate until the last year of my first marriage when it was either that or have sex with the man I was married to.

2) 24

3) Nothing. I turn off my mind and just feel the sensations.
 
#17 ·
How old were you when you first masturbated?

My oldest memories of doing this are from when I was three years old, that said I have no doubt I was even younger when I started doing that.

How old were you when you first masturbated to orgasm?

As far as I can remember I was 11 years old.

What were you thinking about while masturbating?

As best as I can remember when I was 3-4 years old, I just enjoyed what it felt like so wanted to keep doing it. Later when I was 11, I was already quite aware that i was a very sexual person, so I had sexual thoughts and dreams at that age about some girls who were in my class at school.

How did you find out about sex?

Some of my friends talking about it at school when I was around 5 years old.

What did you learn about it?

All sorts of nonsense from them, that I can't really recall, except to say I remember I/we had little idea about what we were talking about.

What did you think about it when you first saw anything about it?

I was 7 years old (1978) when some of my friends and I found a stash of porn magazines, hidden on one of the tracks beside a creek we would often play around on weekends. My friends (both boys and girls) and I, looked at the pictures and thought they were funny.

That said when I was 11-12 some of my peer group of friends (3 boys & 3 girls including me) were really curious about sex. So at recess or lunchtime we would sometimes hang out at the bottom of the school's nature garden where we as boy girl couples first tried lip kissing, holding hands, tongue kissing, looking at each others private parts, and touching each others genitalia, watching each other pee. There were no adults involved nor older or younger children either, and there was no way any of us told our parents or shared what we did with some of our other friends from school.

Then from 13-14 I had no sexual contact with anyone (I went to a boys only High School and had little contact with girls), so consequently had no girlfriends until I turned 15 when a Scottish girl who had just moved to Australia asked me to be her boyfriend.

Then from 16, I went to a co-ed High School and sometimes had girlfriends and did lots of sexual things except for PIV sex, which I didn't do until I was 17 after I joined the Army. Funnily enough despite being very sexual, when I was 16 in year 10 of High School, I turned down an offer of virginity from an 18 year old (girl/woman) who was in Year 12 and wanted me to be her boyfriend.

I have no doubt many/most of you have had very different experiences than mine, yet I certainly am not alone in my experiences.

All my sexual experiences growing up, always felt completely natural, and comfortable to me. Awkwardness, discomfort, not knowing what to do has never been an issue, it has always been so very easy. Being sexual at any age for me has always felt like a perfect fit.
 
#18 ·
1. started around 12. That's when i got my own room alone on the 3rd floor.

2. not sure when i managed to orgasm. If I remember right, i had very few frustrating experiences, and then figured out what worked for me pretty quickly. so, 12 or 13.

3. I read a lot. This was the beginning of my venturing into the adult section of the library, I'm pretty sure a sex scene in a book. couldn't tell you which one though.
 
#19 ·
I've followed the questions above.

How old were you when you first masturbated?

Around 6 or 7. I discovered a certain method with use of a toy that felt... inspirational.

How old were you when you first masturbated to orgasm?

I was in my teens.

What were you thinking about while masturbating?

Strangely I have a vague memory of wanting to orgasm. It was like a goal. We all need to have goals in life, ha ha. I think that's what I was thinking about. There was probably a typical mix of weird, pleasant and exciting stuff too.

How did you find out about sex?

I jokingly say everything I learned about sex was through Prince (lyrics and imagery of sexuality).

What did you learn about it?

The lyric I took most notice of as a teen was him singing, 'She don't blush 'cos she's so damn free..' I interpreted this to mean sex was to be celebrated and enjoyable... there didn't need to be shyness.

What did you think about it when you first saw anything about it?

My first memory was the intimacy scenes in Purple Rain ha ha. I'm not sure what I first thought. He was giving her pleasure though, so I guess there was likely a perception that sex was to be enjoyed as a woman, as well as a man. I've always felt quite comfortable with my sensuality. My husband and I met fairly young and he has been my one and only. Prince might have provided some indication, my husband shared in the rest.
 
#20 · (Edited)
I thought about making this a poll, but I'm looking for more in-depth responses than simply giving an age. I'm wondering...


1. How old were you when you first masturbated?
I think about 11.

2. How old were you when you first masturbated to orgasm?
See 1 above.
3. What were you thinking about while masturbating?
Mmm this feels good ... This feels very good ... OMG OMFG OOOOOMFG what a feeling ... what the hell is that stuff going everywhere? Have I damaged something? Followed by doing it several times a day for years afterwards.

How did you find out about sex?

Porn mags brought into school. They had nothing to do with masturbating though, I thought it was disgusting at the time.

What did you learn about it?

That it was dirty and disgusting and only boys wanted it because they were disgusting inferior creatures to girls. That it was only for procreation. I had several girlfriends in my teens and as a result the first time I kissed a girl I was 18. Quickly moved on to other things and soon learned girls enjoy sexy things too. Never had sex, oral or a handjob until I got with my now wife at 23. The most I did was fingering and fondling breasts. When I think of all that wasted opportunity .... Some of my girlfriends were seriously hot


Catholic nun education.
 
#25 ·
Ok considering the fairly young ages I am seeing here especially for boys - my son is 13 and his testicles haven't descended yet and his penis is still tiny despite the fact that he's already almost 6 feet tall. Should I be concerned?
 
#32 ·
I wouldn't worry. One of my brother's is 6' 2", I have no idea (or want to) about his plumbing, but he was outwardly a little boy until 10th or 11th grade. very short, voice hadn't deepened etc. I came home from college the next summer and he had shot up a foot and had a mustache. It just happens for some boys early, some late, some gradually and some all at once.

Sounds like he's just going in stages, height first, then the rest.
My mother had similar worries.

Sorry if this is a thread jack.
 
#27 ·
I can't remember how old I was, but I do remember being home alone and knowing exactly where to fast-forward/rewind our VHS tapes of any "R-rated" movie to find parts that I really liked!

The VCR we had also came with a remote that would allow playback to be paused and played in slow motion.

Today technology sucks because if you want to pause a porn at the very best frame, your screen will be filled with advertisements and/or suggestions for other things to watch. I often refuse to watch porn on any site that does this in favor of one's that just let you hit pause and freeze a frame, just like I would do for the very first time!

Badsanta
 
#29 · (Edited)
Old enough to know better... too young to care.

Wait... that still applies. ;)
 
#30 ·
A more interesting question to add is what happened when other people found out about it?

I remember being in high school, and you definitely did NOT want to be that one person that did not know what masturbation was or how to cary on a conversation about everything you had seen in porn among the guys.

I remember this one person that had extremely strict parents and he was always fascinated by these conversations. A groups of us found out that he was going to be home alone one day, so we got him some beer, chicken wings, and a porno. We dropped it off at his house and told him that we would all be super proud of him for becoming a man, and that we would all leave and just give him his needed privacy for the whole rest of the day. We then promptly called his parents and and told his mom that her son needed "urgent help at home, and to not ask him about it, to please just go right away check on him that we thought he was drinking alcohol and we were all very concerned for his behavior!"

OMG!!!!!!

Badsanta
 
#35 ·
1. 8. I was asked if I ever had the FEELing and I had no idea what they were talking about and it was explained.

2. 9.

3. I was thinking about getting the FEELing and it finally came. I didn't learn about sex until I was a teenager and didn't think masturbation was sexual until I was 12. I went through puberty a year later and after that I always imagined a woman.
 
#41 · (Edited)
With my strict Methodist mom, I was scared sh!tless to bring any of those girly mags into the house!

But when we visited my uncle, he always seemed to have a rather sizable stash of them out in his travel trailer parked out back ~ and he was somewhat sympathetic toward the plights of adolescents as he later confessed to us as young men when we got into college ~ as long as we didn't bother telling our aunt! That man was an absolute saint!

Oh, how I dearly loved to visit their house!

Let's just say that on most visits, I disappeared for hours on end, alone out in that travel trailer of theirs!
 
#42 ·
1. How old were you when you first masturbated? Thinking around 11...

2. How old were you when you first masturbated to orgasm? Can't say for sure, but likely the 1st few times of exploring...

3. What were you thinking about while masturbating? Boys boys and more Boys...whomever I had a crush on at the time, always some fantasy scenario leading up to the pleasure, his taking me...a country walk for instance.. we're all alone.....or something ripped out of a romance novel ...
 
#43 · (Edited)
Oh and Barbarella was on late night when I was a teen. I couldn't look away! The Excessive Machine! Shortly after, I became intrigued with The Kama Sutra. I didn't have a boyfriend. It was just part of my own discovery.

Over the years with my husband, I realize how much I needed to learn and unlearn... with, and about, him and certain perceptions I've held. In our early times of dating, before we'd even had sex, we watched each other pleasure ourselves. Aside from being hot, it's both freeing and tantalizing.
 
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