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post #1 of 32 (permalink) Old 01-09-2017, 09:49 PM Thread Starter
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Sleep groping

Has anyone else experienced this? Curious to see if anyone has.

My husband sometimes sleep gropes me. He will start grabbing my butt or fondling my boobs in the middle of the night, while totally asleep. Sometimes pretty roughly. And sometimes slip his hand down my panties.

I'll be deep asleep only to wake up to being molested lol. Sometimes he'll wake me up a few times in the night after I gently nudge him away each time. I wake up feeling exhausted.

I've asked him if he remembers anything in the morning and he won't. Sometimes he'll only remember it vaguely.

Is this normal?? Anyone else experience this?
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I have done the same to my wife. Sometimes I remember sometimes not.

She always remembers. 😞

After 28 yrs I'm still very attracted to my wife. Also, the dreams I remember are of her.
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Re: Sleep groping

It's not necessarily for erotic purposes.

For a couple years I suffered with trigger finger, which is a hand orthopaedic issue that is caused by repetitive stress injury. I sleep stretched out and often put my hand under wife's body as it helped a lot. I finally had surgery a year ago.

Now wife has a similar issue and sleeps stretched out. If her hand reaches any part of my side she gets upset that "I'm bothering her" 😁

Needless to say such things were not an issue a decade ago..

If it becomes an issue with OP a Fitbit or similar does a great job monitoring sleep and data can't be faked 😎.
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I was broken early in my first marriage from "sucking eggs" in getting overly close to my first W!

Now she never really cared all that much about snuggling during sleep hours in the first place!

Anyway, early one morning after having awoken, I was getting rather frisky when I decided to position myself under the covers right between my W's naked legs to awaken her with a little early morning oral!

Long story short, I got promptly kicked in the side, the scrotum, and then the head, all in extremely fast sequence! End story: She barely even woke up to witness my pain!

Moral: Well, let's just say that I never attempted that little trick ever again!

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i am usually awake when i grope my wife, which usually happens in the early morning right before getting out of bed.

my wife tosses and turns more often than i do, but i still often wake up from a bad dream. actually, both of us still wake up often from bad dreams. she will reach out to me and cling to me when she has them. for me, it depends on what the dream was about.

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I love to cuddle and I do that with my wife. I'm strange I guess where I love to have my hand either on her stomach or down her panties a bit, but often it doesn't lead to anything because she is such a sound sleeper. I've tried waking her by rubbing and she never remembers it the next morning.

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Has anyone else experienced this? Curious to see if anyone has.



My husband sometimes sleep gropes me. He will start grabbing my butt or fondling my boobs in the middle of the night, while totally asleep. Sometimes pretty roughly. And sometimes slip his hand down my panties.



I'll be deep asleep only to wake up to being molested lol. Sometimes he'll wake me up a few times in the night after I gently nudge him away each time. I wake up feeling exhausted.



I've asked him if he remembers anything in the morning and he won't. Sometimes he'll only remember it vaguely.



Is this normal?? Anyone else experience this?


Divorce him immediately! (Joking)
Yes this happened to me all the time.
Now not so much as I have been relegated to another room due to hungry baby.
My wife on the other hand, used to sleep-argue with me. I know she was asleep because next day she couldn't remember and it would also make no sense at the time. I thought this wasn't normal.


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Divorce him immediately! (Joking)
Yes this happened to me all the time.
Now not so much as I have been relegated to another room due to hungry baby.
My wife on the other hand, used to sleep-argue with me. I know she was asleep because next day she couldn't remember and it would also make no sense at the time. I thought this wasn't normal.


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that is something that sometimes worries me. i dont do it often, but apparently i do sometimes talk in my sleep. sometimes, i remember the conversations as if they really happened. it can be confusing when that happens.

i have learned to talk about deployment stuff that bothers me while i am awake. keeps me from talking about it in my sleep.

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It's more a problem when you say her sisters name while talking in your sleep

I did do this once apparently with my x wife. Middle of the night I started rubbing her butt and said "hmm is a nice bum bum". She had to get out of bed she was laughing so hard. No memory of it.

I do tend to grind when I cuddle so I know I do that much.
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Has anyone else experienced this? Curious to see if anyone has.

My husband sometimes sleep gropes me. He will start grabbing my butt or fondling my boobs in the middle of the night, while totally asleep. Sometimes pretty roughly. And sometimes slip his hand down my panties.

I'll be deep asleep only to wake up to being molested lol. Sometimes he'll wake me up a few times in the night after I gently nudge him away each time. I wake up feeling exhausted.

I've asked him if he remembers anything in the morning and he won't. Sometimes he'll only remember it vaguely.

Is this normal?? Anyone else experience this?
I have groped my W at night unknowingly. My W has groped me unknowingly. Sometime we grope the other when fully awake and the other is asleep.

Sometimes my W will have full on conversations with family members. She never remembers. Singing while asleep is also something she does.

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My wife loves to do this to me when she needs to warm her hands from being outside in the cold while I am already sleeping nice and warm in the bed!

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As long as he's not mumbling some other woman's name it's all good.

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Yes, my fiance does this, but I think it's on purpose. lol

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Re: Sleep groping

Boyfriend does this but not in a fully asleep state. He is groggy and drowsy and maybe barely awake, but if he rolls over and wakes up even the tiniest bit, he will usually reach out for me. Depending on what his hand hits, he will grope me or just gently stroke me, or if it is my hand he hits he holds it. Ass or legs, it is for sure a grope.

He will also sometimes grab my hand and put it on his body in the middle of the night, various places on his body (not only just the obvious one, but that one, too). I love when he does that because it gives me a chance to keep up with him, with his touching and admiration of my body. He wants that too and I like giving it to him, but he is just so much more assertive than I am that I will never catch up on my own...though I do my best.

If he was truly asleep and never remembered any of it, I wouldn't like it and would feel violated, I think.

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If he was truly asleep and never remembered any of it, I wouldn't like it and would feel violated, I think.

Why? Could it not also be interpreted as the ultimate sign of his attraction for you? That his attraction is so strong that his body responds even while he is unconscious?

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