. I did what I had read from a sex therapist. We scheduled one or two sex nights each week. Attendance was mandatory no matter how tired or not in the mood we were. Sex was not mandatory though as long as we laid next to each other naked. Sooner than later we began to make out and before we knew it, we were having sex again.
Yes! And probably a key reason behind why you began having sex again! As soon as you turn sex into an obligation, duty, responsibility, chore, it becomes...lifeless. If you take sex (or at least, the 'goal' of an orgasm) off of the table, you remove the pressure. You start sharing intimacy, which can lead to sex.
As for the oxytocin, I'm still on the fence about how much of a role it plays in 'bonding' a couple together. After all, if this was true for EVERYONE, prostitutes would "bond" with their johns, and men would 'bond' with the first FWB they had.
Don't see that happening. Plus, even having sex with my late husband 2-3 times a day didn't do anything to 'bond' me to him. I felt more 'bonded' to other people I had sex with than to him.
Plus, what about the people who seem to be having GREAT sex with their spouses, but CHEAT on them anyway?