Do all men need sex/physical touch to feel loved?
My husband says that he NEEDS sex to feel loved, to feel that I am fully committed to him and our marriage. (Which makes no sense after 10 years or marriage and 3 kids!!) I've always been given the impression that it is something with men that they need that physical love. Is it sex, snuggling, hand holding, etc?
I'm just trying to get an idea of what the male perspective is on this because it has been the topic of fighting with my husband lately.
Any comments or experiences are appreciated. Thanks!!
I don't think they "all" do, but most men do.
I personally also feel love through sex and affection, so to me that is just a normal way to feel. Sex is not just about pleasure or getting off, to me, it is about expressing emotions and physically interpreting them.
If your H says he needs sex and affection to feel close to you, it is true. He isn't trying to "trick" you into more sex, he is trying to have more sex (or more connected sex) with you because he loves you and wants to feel close to you.
Do you not enjoy sex as much as he does? Why has this come up? Are you holding back or is there any other issue that makes you not want to have sex with him? I ask because just because men (and women) do feel love through sex, that doesn't entitle them to it if they are not being a good partner (sexual and otherwise) themselves, too.
ETA: I wrote this then saw your post in the ladies lounge. I retract the above, he isn't deserving of what he is asking for because he has apparently cheated and because he is not gaining your consent before touching. Yuck, sorry sister, this doesn't look good.