Re: The dynamics of quickies for marriages with mismatched drives?
Ya, but life is hard and often sucks for those who are walled off too.
I was just on another thread where the guy is basically absolutely refusing to emotionally invest and is spending the entire relationship testing his gf to make sure she is "worthy". I sincerely doubt he is any happier or better off for his walls.
Trying to be invulnerable may feel like a smart thing to do to avoid pain, but in the end is much more likely to make one lonely, angry, isolated, and without a real sense of community. It's also a kind of myth. Really we're all just frail humans hanging out on the planet for what amounts to a nanosecond in geological time.