I think t here are people who have all those values, but who can be completely incompatible in bed.
By bad at sex, I'm not talking about technique (which can be learned) or physical attributes (which don't matter much), I'm talking about level of desire, inventiveness, kinkiness etc.
There is nothing wrong with wanting sex to always be romantic, candles, kisses, missionary while kissing.
The is also nothing wrong with wanting whips and chains, sex toys and role-play.
There is nothing wrong with wanting a long passionate lovemaking session once a week,
There is nothing wrong with thinking that every day should end with sex, and that getting quick oral to get off when you are horny is expected.
There are some of us here who really love our spouses, and have otherwise wonderful marriages, but who have been suffering with badly mismatched sexual interests.
I don't judge people by how they perform in bed. I am attracted by their integrity, kindness, moral values, self control, how they treat me, whether they respect me etc. If those things are right, then I have no worries about the sex later on.Good loving sex isnt based on how we 'perform,' but how we express love to each other, its something we work on and improve as time goes by.
If a man wants to have sex after a very short time, then that would put me off completely.
A young lady I know was dating a guy and after only a few dates was pressuring her into sex. Despite the fact that she told him that she wasn't ready, that she didnt want sex until they were really serious and committed, he still kept on despite saying that he respected her for her stand. Thankfully she got fed up with the pressure and ended it.She is worth more than that.