Hey sorry I haven't replied back. My classes started recently so I'm trying to balance school, work and home. You're right I didn't think of it that way that he could be stressed out with the move and being married and starting all over again. Your post did get me to think that he might be concerned about what kind of effect it'll have on me since I've been a virgin before marriage. I've decided to give him time to work things out and we haven't even talked about sex for a while now. Also, before we would at least have some kind of foreplay even if it didn't lead to sex now it's nothing. He's affectionate towards me and everything just not sexual. Should I be concerned or should I just give him space?
The fact that you remained a virgin prior to marriage is admirable!
Most men will not tolerate this and will often engage in premarital sex with their soon to be wife in various stages of the relationship.
Did you husband not push for this? If he did not and was completely OK with you remaining a virgin, this leads to some more questions. Did he have sexual experience with anyone else or was he a virgin as well? If he did have previous experience, perhaps there was something traumatic about that experience for him, which would explain why he was OK with you remaining a virgin. Now that you two are married, if he had a traumatic past, he can no longer hide from that and must confront it with you.
There may not be any trauma, but if he is completely avoiding sex with you now, this seems like a sign that he is struggling with something
that is giving him anxiety. Could just be a new life together.
If he will NOT talk about it with you, then you do have a problem. Don't get upset, but encourage him to visit a counselor/therapist with you and exercise some patience with him.
Worst case scenario, your husband was a victim of abuse and your relationship will have to cope and deal with that for a long time to come. Best case scenario, stress has made him loose his mojo for a little while and if you just bake him some awesome cookies, he will be better than OK!