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post #1 of 20 (permalink) Old 01-28-2017, 11:08 PM Thread Starter
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Re: Erectile Problem at 34.

I would make an appointment with your doctor to rule anything out? How is your health? Do you watch porn?


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Maybe your wife is right.
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Maybe your wife is right.
Rude! He said that wasn't the case. Be nice.
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Rude! He said that wasn't the case. Be nice.


How is that rude? He THINKS that is not the problem but he doesn't know.

It might be the problem and he should not rule that out.

I was giving my comments based on 25 years of marriage. It was rude to criticize my post when I did exactly what he requested.

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How much porn do you watch? That can affect performance. Also diet and exercise.

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Have you actually consulted a doctor or have you just been hoping it would go away on its own.
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Do you go down on her? I expect this could do a lot to help her self-esteem. I've always felt like oral sex is a great way to say "I adore you." Have you looked into medical solutions like Viagra or Cialis?
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Hi,

I was kind of hoping it would resolve because on some occassions I have no problem, but on other times I can't seem to have a proper erection. I was thinking about consulting though.
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Have you actually consulted a doctor or have you just been hoping it would go away on its own.

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I was kind of hoping it would resolve because on some occassions I have no problem, but on other times I can't seem to have a proper erection. I was thinking about consulting though.
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Do you go down on her? I expect this could do a lot to help her self-esteem. I've always felt like oral sex is a great way to say "I adore you." Have you looked into medical solutions like Viagra or Cialis?
Yes. I go down on her a lot and make sure to give her two orgasms each time. However, she wants penetration and sometimes it's erect and sometimes it isn't, which is embarassing during the act. Actually, I got blue pills but I need to consult before I take them.
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Yes. I go down on her a lot and make sure to give her two orgasms each time. However, she wants penetration and sometimes it's erect and sometimes it isn't, which is embarassing during the act. Actually, I got blue pills but I need to consult before I take them.


You didn't answer - do you watch porn?


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Get your ass to a doctor ASAP. Start with your PCP, and then go to a urologist if needed.

This is a problem that needs to be addressed. It's borderline cruel to let your fiance walk around blaming herself for the problem when you have sat on your ass for five years doing nothing about it. Stop thinking and start doing.
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You didn't answer - do you watch porn?


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Yes. We watch porn together but not often.
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Re: Erectile Problem at 34.

Watching a lot of porn can create these issues as well as self esteem issues and an unrealistic expectation of excitement that may not be there in real life sex. I think that's because porn can be highly focused on a single perspective or fetish and real people rarely have sex that way (but I'm no expert there).

Also medications and stress can impact erectile function. You worrying about her worrying about you can kill an erection. Just the same as a woman's orgasm can be impacted by any number of things and intrusive thoughts or feelings.

A sex therapist would be a very good idea. I picked one based on a podcast I heard - she seemed bright, perceptive and highly qualified. She nailed a few issues immediately and I didn't even see what was in front of me (testosterone will do that ).

Of course a PCP or GP is essential too


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