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It is evident that many women and men have been hurt by attitudes towards pretty much everything about our bodies, emotions, vulnerabilities, etc.

Anyway someone could be attacked I'm sure they have been and defenses get built up.

It shuts down communication and understanding.

I am in some agreement now with FW's "sex positive" attitude.

I don't want anyone shut down and it isn't because I'm insecure at all.

I feel empathy for people who have less than apparently desirable traits and want to open up communication between all of us for everyone's benefit.

I do believe in total honesty but never for hurting purposes. Only with the intent to help.

The reason I ask questions is because I'm genuinely curious and want to use the information to help others and sometimes myself.

There is too much of an us and them mentality when it should just be all "us".
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I thought he was cute until the first time I saw him standing next to a leading lady and they were the same height. Instant change in my attraction, high to zero.
WOW! You and Mrs. Conan are very similar in likes.

She is very turned off by a man being shorter than his lady.

She even gave me a funny face when I pointed out my youngest son's coworker and thought she might be a good match.

She is a very lovely young lady with a great personality who happens to be 6'3" while my son is 5'11"

I dated several taller women while single.

Two of them fell in love with me.

I think it seriously lowers a tall woman's options to have only taller men to choose from though.
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I think it seriously lowers a tall woman's options to have only taller men to choose from though.
Indeed. There are benefits to being pint sized.

However I will say, I have been rejected by tall men before. Some of them want a tall woman and are going to go for what they want and not detour from it, which is fine and how it should be for anyone with a strong preference.

Remember the goal of feminism: Making sure only alphas get laid!
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Still don't understand the "big booty" thang :P
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Still don't understand the "big booty" thang :P
I think the question, what exactly constitutes a "big booty"? Are we talking about a rear that requires two seats on an airplane???
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It would be fun and eye opening to discuss exactly why we chose our mates with this survey in mind.

Mrs. Conan initially went for me for many surface or shallow reasons while I had an immediate love at first sight reaction to her.

She did not love me even after a week in my bed.

She was extremely attracted to me, loved getting her ashes hauled by me and, yes, was enamored with my penis.

It probably took her a month to start falling for me and a few years to agree to marry me.

The opposite was true concerning me.

I instantly loved her, knew she was the one from first sight but she was short, I preferred tall, was a bit awkward in the bedroom, I was far more experienced and was use to very confident and capable women, and she was cute but not , strictly speaking, beautiful while I was use to dating models on occasion.

I was drawn to her by whatever instantly but absolutely loved her humor and spunk.

It was all non physical for me and purely physical for her to start.

She was on vacation and only thought of me as a nice part of it.

I convinced her to extend her "vacation" indefinitely.
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Still don't understand the "big booty" thang :P
Brazilian butts truly drive me nuts!
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Of course size matters.

Men said:
healthy body figure (size)
big booty (size)
firm breasts (ok not size but also not something that we can do anything about unless via surgery)

.....meanwhile, men want women to say "size doesn't matter".

Phhhhbbtttt.

It does matter.

Women said:
large penis (size)
athletic and fit (size)
tall (size)


Super sorry that you don't get to be a man and think that size matters, but then via double standard voodoo, you expect it doesn't matter to women. Maybe women will still say size doesn't matter when you are around so as not to hurt your ego.

But it does matter. Just like it matters to men. When women can answer honestly and without their own man knowing....they say it matters. Just like men say it matters. Welcome to reality, you can check your fantasy coat at the door.

OOO, touched a nerve, didn't I? Check your assumptions about me at the door too while you are at it. Maybe if so many women weren't double-talkers I wouldn't have said that. Men I know are upfront about boobs and all. Women I know say, "Oh, it doesn't matter. It's the love." lol On the other thread, like @ConanHub mentions, penis size wasn't touched upon much (or at all). I wonder why they can't be upfront and just say it. False modesty?

♪ What a girl wants, what a girl needs, even she doesn't know ♪

Even if I don't get likes for it, I'm still going to say it.

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OOO, touched a nerve, didn't I? Check your assumptions about me at the door too while you are at it. Maybe if so many women weren't double-talkers I wouldn't have said that. Men I know are upfront about boobs and all. Women I know say, "Oh, it doesn't matter. It's the love." lol On the other thread, like @ConanHub mentions, penis size wasn't touched upon much (or at all). I wonder why they can't be upfront and just say it. False modesty?

♪ What a girl wants, what a girl needs, even she doesn't know ♪

Well, 1) I think getting women to open up is often difficult depending on how much they have been hurt and 2) What makes a good lover to the women that were posting wasn't a big penis while 3) Just asking for size preferences with nothing else will get answers that average from on the large side of average to just above for most women 4) Most women will absolutely work with what they have with a man they love and skill definitely helps. 5) It is very similar to what men think as well.

A lot of women have been browbeaten and hurt. They have developed defensiveness and offensive behaviors as a result.

Some women are just mean bltches, just like some men.

I believe FW has seen her fair share of harsh treatment towards herself and other women and sometimes dishes some of it back towards the male gender.

She is very tit for tat, good for the goose and gander type of woman and I really appreciate it as well as her female insight and sense of humor.

I absolutely feel the pain of her barbs but try to understand because I have dealt plenty of pain in my life and appreciate patience with myself so I will give it as well.

By all standards I'm not close to wanting in the tool department and I still have knee jerk (male) reactions to remarks that could generally make men feel inadequate or inferior.

I know a lot of men that were burned by heartless women as well.

I hope we can have extremely honest and open conversations with each other without any inclination to hurt or make anyone feel inferior.
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OOO, touched a nerve, didn't I? Check your assumptions about me at the door too while you are at it. Maybe if so many women weren't double-talkers I wouldn't have said that. Men I know are upfront about boobs and all. Women I know say, "Oh, it doesn't matter. It's the love." lol On the other thread, like @ConanHub mentions, penis size wasn't touched upon much (or at all). I wonder why they can't be upfront and just say it. False modesty?

♪ What a girl wants, what a girl needs, even she doesn't know ♪
Fair enough...I have no idea what your preferences or beliefs or opinions on the matter are.

However, I'm perfectly upfront with men I'm considering for a partner that it does matter to me. I've never in my life said size doesn't matter, to anyone, a partner, a friend, a man, a woman...no one. Because it does matter.

Remember the goal of feminism: Making sure only alphas get laid!
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Fair enough...I have no idea what your preferences or beliefs or opinions on the matter are.

However, I'm perfectly upfront with men I'm considering for a partner that it does matter to me. I've never in my life said size doesn't matter, to anyone, a partner, a friend, a man, a woman...no one. Because it does matter.
Sorry FW, I am cracking up here thinking about you walking around with a tape measure
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I believe FW has seen her fair share of harsh treatment towards herself and other women and sometimes dishes some of it back towards the male gender.
It's really not harsh treatment I've received, it is about the bulls*t double standards that some men have (many who don't even realize it). Most women have been groomed to never ever step on a man's fragile sexual ego. Which is a double standard too because men typically don't bother to try to tip toe around our egos (when speaking generally). Most men will explain loud and clear to anyone who will listen that they have this or that (female body part or type) preference and how good it is, but that this or that (too fat, too skinny, no ass, too much ass, no boobs, waist too big, fat legs, skinny legs, ugly face, etc on and on) is horrible, hideous, unf*ckable, etc.

I've just never adopted the attitude that I should protect men's egos since I don't see men going out of their way to protect mine. I don't mean in a romantic relationship, I mean just bantering with who ever. Men just can't wait to tell you how much SIZE MATTERS in every part of a woman's body.

But some of the same men crumble to the ground when we say penis size matters....and height matters....and biceps size matters....and tight asses matter....on and on. Whatever we say matters, some man somewhere freaks the f*ck out about how they don't have whatever we said matters.

Get over it. It all matters.

(not you, Conan)

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Sorry FW, I am cracking up here thinking about you walking around with a tape measure
Sometimes need a yard stick.

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On the other thread, like @ConanHub mentions, penis size wasn't touched upon much (or at all). I wonder why they can't be upfront and just say it. False modesty?
Also for the record...on that thread, in my own answer, I started off by saying that if strong mutual physical attraction wasn't present, there is no possible way a man can be a good lover for me.

Physical attraction for me includes his penis. If I need to go and add that in so that it is more clear, I'd be happy to do so. Most people who know me around here probably assumed that was part of it but hey! Far be it from me to leave out important details for others who don't know me so well.

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Fair enough...I have no idea what your preferences or beliefs or opinions on the matter are.

However, I'm perfectly upfront with men I'm considering for a partner that it does matter to me. I've never in my life said size doesn't matter, to anyone, a partner, a friend, a man, a woman...no one. Because it does matter.
Sorry if you already mentioned it, I haven't been following these threads closely, but did you ever not see some again because of it? My wife, who was rather experienced, says she only broke up with one guy because his penis was too "small" (no definition given, but she is a girth matters, more than length girl).



Sigh, my wife gives me the speaking treatment.
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