What are you talking about! You have to be kidding! Why are you only taking a bath once a week??? I mean come on.
You need to take control of your life more. Stop waiting around for him. Take the baby, give him to your fiancé and TELL him your going to take a bath and not to bother you. Why is this so hard?? A year with a weekly bath come on seriously...
You are probably so full of resentment for him because your blaming this all on him. Come on girl! Your an adult, do what you want! You want to take a bath? Take the baby put him in the bouncer and on the bathroom floor while you bath. I don't understand why this hasn't crossed your mind? Instead you want to pin this all on your fiancé that you only bath once a week. You have some serious issues.
i hope that OP is not saying she only bathes once a week, but instead that she finds baths more relaxing and might help her get in the mood. Babies in a bouncy seat work pretty great for quick showering. Not so if the point is to relax.
OP, i think katie has a really good point. If you want something, then you must fight for yourself to have it in a constructive way. It seems like you want to be treated nicely and to be respected.
I don't think that's your job to just get over your fiancee's poor treatment of you, on your own. You said you wanted to know how to "get over it". But when someone treats us badly, usually we cannot just bury it, smooth it over and move on. That resentment is going to keep building until all your love is gone.
an apology means, "i'll try not to do it again". It's not just a word to say so that there is peace between now and the time he does the sh!tty thing again. Your fiancee is just placating you with that word. "Sorry".
he is outright telling you that if you don't put out he is going to cheat with a hooker. WTH. One doesn't coerce or threaten sex from a partner who has just had a baby and should not even be having sex. Just no. Maybe
I would advocate that he could tell you his needs will be met elsewhere if you had cut him off with no valid reason, and there was lots of time and discussion involved. but that's an either/or. either we have sex or i get my needs met elsewhere. Not, i'm getting a hooker, and i will expect you to accommodate me next time like nothing happened and carry on with our marriage.
And did I read he withholds affection in order to get more sex? so backwards.
It is not your job to get over being made to feel like a machine whose job is to give him sex. Somebody needs to sit this guy down, and let him know that this is not how things will go. You created a tiny human together. His job is to help with the baby, and/or support you while you care for baby. Set good boundaries for yourself. Decide what you will do and set your course. The longer you tolerate this behavior, the longer it will go on.