Join Date: Dec 2016
Location: Finger Lakes NY
Re: After children...
OP - my H spent our entire marriage threatening to leave me if I didn't have sex with him at least once a day. When I started bleeding at 5 months pregnant and almost miscarried and got put on bed rest with no physical activity including sex, he insisted on it anyway and when I refused to risk the baby for his selfish urges he went out and found himself a f*** buddy. When the delivery went bad and I ended up being told not to have sex for at least another six months due to vaginal tearing, he left permanently.
If I had put my foot down sooner in the marriage instead of giving in to him, maybe he would have learned to respect me and we would have been in a better place later to work things out. So what I'd say to you is don't let him continue to get away with this because the more you give in, the more he will take advantage. You need to give him a reason to learn to respect you!
The road goes ever ever on, down from the door where it began... JRR Tolkien