Re: HD vs. LD - Perception vs. Reality
I think it works both ways. Givers like dealing with Takers, because Givers get a big reward from being appreciated and many Givers are not good at taking. So when a Giver is with a Giver, there is a tension. Both want to give and neither wants to take. So neither feels appreciated for what they are giving. And both feel uncomfortable taking as much as their partner wants to give. Takers, on the other hand, are very appreciative of giving and allow their Giver partner to feel very fulfilled. At first. The problem comes later when the Giver feel empty and dares to make a request for some reciprocation. That is when the Taker shows their true colors. By that time, the Giver is invested in the relationship and doesn't want to dump the Taker for being selfish. Givers are not comfortable labeling their partner as selfish. And Givers tend not to be good at boundaries or taking decisive action to protect themselves.
When you can see it coming, duck!