It requires less selfishness to have good sex with a partner because you consider their desires for a good experience that is.
Masturbation is purely self serving and no consideration is needed for another.
I also agree. In part. Masturbation is
self-serving. However... sex
can also be self-serving!
Some HD's may approach their spouse for sex. The spouse isn't interested in sex. The HD (not all, but some) THEN ask, "Well, can I get a bj or a handjob instead?" The LD then thinks that (s)he JUST wants the orgasm
! If (s)he just wants the orgasm, why can't (s) do it him/herself LIKE *I* JUST DID AN HOUR AGO?! The LD might give you that handjob/blowjob, and in many cases, (s)he is also going to feel used....which would cause the LD to become MORE LD.
I love orgasms but I love a lot of things about life.
The LD can also love orgasms. Just not as many. Too many and it becomes mundane. I understand that the HD typically thinks, "If you love sex, then why don't you want it MORE OFTEN?" The answer is an answer that *you've* all heard before. Too much (for the LD) and sex becomes routine. It loses it's 'specialness'. I absolutely LOVE sushi, but if I HAD to eat it every day, several times a day, it would quickly lose it's appeal. It would become boring.
I'm passionate and any partner wanting to pursue me knows it.
No deceit going in.
A woman that didn't want to be regularly ravaged and sent to bed bowlegged need not apply! LOL!
I'm not into false advertising so someone who wanted far less sex and more masturbation would have avoided me.
Sex is very bonding. I am personally convinced of the superiority of regular and frequent sexual intercourse, foreplay and oral too please, over self gratification for the health of couples and their interaction on many levels
The "regular" and "frequent" part is the off-putting part. It almost seems...unnatural.
Badsanta wrote something a few weeks/months ago on another thread that got me thinking. He said something like (I'm paraphrasing here Badsanta, so don't shoot me yet, lol!) that he put his wife 'on notice' that he was going to want to ravage her the following day. But then he added that he wasn't even aroused
when he told her that! And, that once he told her that, he became
aroused. The first thing I thought was, "'Gee Badsanta. Can you actually schedule your horniness?!"
It just seemed unnatural
Maybe part of the problem is that perception of the LD is that the HD as "always horny", and would rather have the sexual experience NOT because the HD is horny...?