I was thinking about this yesterday, and a brief conversation I had with my W last night fit in perfectly, so I thought it would be a good topic for conversation.
As an LD (Low Drive/Desire) or HD (High Drive/Desire) person, do you find that your SO (or maybe people in general) have a certain perception about you that may not be accurate?
Probably one of the biggest issues in relationships where there is a drive mismatch, it can be very difficult for each person to understand where the other is coming from (i.e if you have ever only been HD it is not easy to understand how someone who is LD could not want sex all the time, and vice versa). You would hope that the couple would be able to openly communicate to each other, and work on a solution that has them meeting somewhere in the middle, but it seems like (just from reading here) that isn't always the case. Naturally this is not taking into account bait n switches.
I will give a few examples that popped in my head in another post.
I am HD adventurous
Mrs.CuddleBug is LD conservative
I could have sex every day, sometimes multiple times
She could have sex 1x month and is happy and clueless
I used to initiative but having sex 1x week was almost too much for her, so I stopped initiating altogether.
When she initiates, her usual 1x month, I am not in the mood, nope, no thanks.
1x week or more to Mrs.CuddleBug, in her mind, all I want is sex sex sex. Yet the average for a healthy sex drive is 3x week or more.
I just use my sex toy when I get really in the mood and no longer pester Mrs.CuddleBug for intimacy. She has her almost sexless marriage, eats chips, watches tv, on her laptop, talks with her sister and parents and reads.
She also knows her weight is a serious issue, meaning she can loose 80+ lbs and she is getting bigger. She knows she needs to do something but never gets around to it.......that type of woman.
Yet today, the ladies are taking care of themselves and are just as sexual as the men. I guess I wasn't as fortunate....