I am beginning to give up. I feel I will never be satisfied in this relationship sexually. The other issue is that my husband had a large addiction to porn before we were together. He thinks of me as a pin up model. I have to nearly wear some ****tt outfit for him to be turned on and to want to have sex with me.
Okay are you serious? What man doesn't want his wife to dress up before sex? That's what makes it so much fun! It's a celebration of a wife's beauty to dress up before sex! What's wrong with that? I think it's normal and healthy! And you should bask in the beauty of who you are and enjoy it too!
Sure, I totally get you not wanting to dress up all the time. But be real! This is part of the sexual relationship and a beautiful part of it1 A woman's beauty is such a beautiful thing to celebrate. Unless he has you dressing up in some freak outfit that takes away from your dignity as a person, I really don't see the problem. I loved when my wife dressed in sexy outfits for me before sex. But those days are long gone and they're gone forever. And you want to talk about problems?
Ia starting to have feelings for other men. I went out with my girlfriend two weeks ago and met a young man, I felt very emotionally and physically attracted to. I think about him often. The main thing I think about is how I may not have to dress up for this other human being to be sexually attracted to me and want me. I feel like I think about it often. Will this always be how I feel? Will this ever change? Will my husband only want me when I'm dressed up as someone I am not?
Might it be that you're just bored in your marriage and you're using this whole "dressing up for sex" thing as an excuse because you're really already bored with your husband and you want to be with the man you're already attracted to? Forgive me, but the statement above sounds to me like you're just using your husband's need for you to dress up as an excuse to end the marriage and go with the other man. I apologize if I am coming across as too judgemental here. But I have to be honest, it's what it sounds like to be. But what do I know?
And forgive me, but you saying "I may not have to dress up for this other human being sexually..." is just so transparent. Are you kidding me? You're not serious, are you? I mean, cry me a river! You can't be serious!
As for your husband's porn addiction, that's a problem with many men.
I hope I am not coming across as too judgemental here. I just see you as someone who has a good thing and is not grateful for what they have.