I am posting as a fellow citizen - not a mod.
Nineteen years ago I got my vasectomy on a Friday, returned to work on Monday and never looked back. Best thing I ever did.
You are taking a very large financial risk to avoid using condoms for a very short time. No one 'likes' condoms. I personally hate them. They are however highly effective and for the short time frame you describe, they are the smart move.
I've been married for 26, together with M2 for near 28 years.
So let me share a couple friendly observations. Your marriage may or may not go the distance. You will only know for certain at the end. Clearly your intentions are good which is a great foundation for any marriage.
That said, the most common reason for divorce is financial conflict. Finishing inside your wife greatly increases the odds of an outcome you clearly don't want. This type of high risk behavior is common in younger males. It isn't typically what males in their mid thirties do.
As for this last bit, I hope you take it to heart and recognize the helpful spirit in which it is offered.
The difference between a male and a man is big. A male competes with others and is focused on winning. A man competes with himself and focuses on succeeding. A male often competes by putting others down. A man is able to collaborate and often lifts others up.
End of old man (well intentioned) lecture.
my wife and i have been together for 16 years been married for 12 great years. we have a five year old son whom we both love very much but we have decided we really dont want any MORE kids. the cost of raising one child is astronomical these days and he already eats us out of house and home. i am currently away from the home and wont be back for another month. i have started a new carrier (CDL truck driver) and the only way i can gain experience and get a local job is to drive with a large company. i am currently in training which is about 2 months of not being home. my wife has been taking the pill for the last 15 years but she is currently experiencing high blood pressure so she had to come off of it. its possible after she gets it back under control she might go back on it for a short period of time, but the end is near for her pill usage. she is 35 years old and cannot stay on the pill for the rest of her life. right now i am not home so it doesnt matter that she is lapsed from the pill right now. we are both suffering from sexual tension that is building up and when i eventually go home we will vent on each other (not in a bad way lol). condoms are out of the question. we both agree that we HATE them for our purposes. we feel that it separates us with a piece of latex. we share a committed, exclusive, monogamous, and intimate bond. frankly we are inseparable till death do us part. we watch other people around us cheat, divorce, and generally act like pigs but not us. anytime i read any literature about having sex without a condom with the goal of ONLY preventing pregnancy i end up reading about condoms and STDS. frankly neither one of us cares about STDS because we arent bringing a stranger into the bedroom. its just me and her and we are both clean.
i have decided to get vasectomy when i finally get off this trainer's truck. in the meantime we need to have some birth control that does not involve separating us with latex. yes i do finish inside of her, frankly we both enjoy it and i think being in the relationship we are in that should not be taboo. when i get home we both have tension to relieve.
i was wondering are of the non barrier, non hormonal methods effective? one has caught my interest, its called VCF or vaginal contraceptive film. the website says its 94% effective when used as instructed WITHOUT use of a condom. the website says safe effective birth control you both cant feel. its a spermicide product.
are there dangers to her for remaining on the pill too long, it has worked for us but her health is of great concern and i dont want her to get cancer or something from being on it too long. i also know her libido does suffer from the pill. it is time she gets off of it but we were hoping it could wait till i got a vasectomy.