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post #31 of 58 (permalink) Old 02-11-2017, 08:03 AM
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Porn use is cited in 60% of divorces now. Thats massive. Its so damaging.
I'm curious, where did you find that statistic?

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[QUOTE=EleGirl;17346649]There was one poster on TAM who said that he never could understand why women were so upset about their partner/husband using a lot of porn.. until his wife started doing it. He had a huge problem with it. I do not recall the poster's name. He might still be a member here.

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This could have been me. At least I was in a similar circumstance. What I could not ever understand was equating viewing porn to infidelity. I watched porn to make up for a major change of frequency with intimacy both emotional and physical. What opened my eyes to how damaging porn can be is when I found she had replaced me with pornography in both written and visual forms. I never watched porn to replace her or because she did not meet my expectations physically. I watched to fill an enormous void (poor substitute).

What opened my eyes was not really that she watched it and read it but what the content was. I could never compete with what she was looking at and reading.
Is the content something she wanted? I find I watch porn with content that is something I'd never want in real life. My husband on the other hand watches porn that is really quite tame.

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Just as most women cannot compete with what men see when they watch porn.
I wonder why men appear to be so much more ok with porn then. Why do women have higher rates of insecurity stemming from porn? Or is just that more women make their insecurities known?

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I think that a significant percentage of men would also develop a sense of inadequacy over their own bodies if their wives expressed a strong sense of attraction for a porn star.
That might be true. After all, most porn stars have larger, longer lasting erections than most "normal" men. On the other hand, I think most women are interested in more than just the equipment, and their spouse or bf will typically provide romance, love, conversation, and oil changes. I also think that porn can provide a temporary boost to the libido for women who enjoy watching it, and that may be positive for the relationship (as long as it does not replace sex with their SO).

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The real question is whether women and their partners should be concerned about porn use in women.
My wife and I both sometimes look at porn for us it simply isn't a big deal, so we're not concerned about women (or men) using porn.
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Your situation is very different. For me porn use would damage the intimacy we have.
You and your husband have a very loving relationship. You both enjoy [frequent] intimacy with each other.

You are not the exception to the rule, but on TAM you may be. The readership here is HERE for a reason.

Using a WAG, I would put marriages with sexual intimacy problems at 70%. Problems, small, medium and insurmountable, included.

I dunno. Am not an expert, am an observer of humanity.

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I think it would be a turn on for me if my wife viewed porn

Thats the pro

The con is she would know what a real d!ck looks like

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I'm curious, where did you find that statistic?

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It was on a study done with divorce solicitors who deal with this stuff all the time. I myself know 2 marriages that ended because of the husbands porn use and the deception and lies it involved.

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There has been a lot of discussion of porn's effect on men's sex lives - everything from it providing a unrealistic and damaging idea of real sexual behaviors, to impotence and lack of desire for real world sex.

A fair number of women watch porn as well. Has anyone noticed in themselves or a partner negative effects from women's viewing of porn? Do women tend to get addicted to porn the way some men do.

**** I don't want this to be another men vs. women, who is better thread, effects of porn on men are discussed in a lot of other threads *******

The real question is whether women and their partners should be concerned about porn use in women.


Today, there are many ladies who have high healthy sex drives who aren't getting enough from their men.

Porn is one outlet, just like us men.

The ladies in porn get paid much more than the men. Porn caters to the ladies and the men are almost extras.

The ladies get to be the center of attention, make a lot of money and have great sex.

The ladies can dictate what they will and will not do.

The ladies in porn take care of their bodies, eat healthy, exercise, probably have a trainer and nutritionist and their own toy lines.

There is no negativity for ladies in porn.

Porn is basically a fantasy and doing things you only would dream about.

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Today, there are many ladies who have high healthy sex drives who aren't getting enough from their men.

Porn is one outlet, just like us men.

The ladies in porn get paid much more than the men. Porn caters to the ladies and the men are almost extras.

The ladies get to be the center of attention, make a lot of money and have great sex.

The ladies can dictate what they will and will not do.

The ladies in porn take care of their bodies, eat healthy, exercise, probably have a trainer and nutritionist and their own toy lines.

There is no negativity for ladies in porn.

Porn is basically a fantasy and doing things you only would dream about.
This is some of the women in porn. There are also many feeding drug addictions and/or have been forced in to porn through sex trafficking. Look in to feminist porn awards or ethical porn. The women in those films truly are empowered and have choices.

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Today, there are many ladies who have high healthy sex drives who aren't getting enough from their men.

Porn is one outlet, just like us men.

The ladies in porn get paid much more than the men. Porn caters to the ladies and the men are almost extras.

The ladies get to be the center of attention, make a lot of money and have great sex.

The ladies can dictate what they will and will not do.

The ladies in porn take care of their bodies, eat healthy, exercise, probably have a trainer and nutritionist and their own toy lines.

There is no negativity for ladies in porn.

Porn is basically a fantasy and doing things you only would dream about.
You are being very naive. Many women in porn were sexually abused as children, many are damaged women with no self worth. Many actually hate sex and men. They have been used and abused. That's why they end up doing a job that is so demeaning and soul destroying.

Would you want your 18 year old daughter to be in porn?To have all those men ogling her? They are all someones daughter, sister, granddaughter, niece, friend.
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You are being very naive. Many women in porn were sexually abused as children, many are damaged women with no self worth. Many actually hate sex and men. They have been used and abused. That's why they end up doing a job that is so demeaning and soul destroying.

Would you want your 18 year old daughter to be in porn?To have all those men ogling her? They are all someones daughter, sister, granddaughter, niece, friend.

If you think ladies today are forced into porn, you are very naive.

This is 2017. Ladies today are the same as the men. Same addictions, same jobs to pursue, etc.

I don't buy the poor ladies who were forced into porn because they are drug addicts. Really? Cliche.

You know that the porn industry is very professional today, right?

That means drug screenings, checking for STD's, you name it. They actually try and help their employees.

If my 18 year old daughter went into porn, that is her choice. She is an adult. I don't agree with that choice but it is hers to make. She is not a little baby girl and clueless child. Ladies are more mentally mature at 18 compared to us guys by many years.

Whether ladies are in porn or just at the beaches wearing tiny bikini's , thongs, etc. its the same thing. Us guys will be checking them out. 18+ years of age doesn't matter. Actually ladies are younger than 18 and are still wearing skimpy bathing suits and having sex.

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This is some of the women in porn. There are also many feeding drug addictions and/or have been forced in to porn through sex trafficking. Look in to feminist porn awards or ethical porn. The women in those films truly are empowered and have choices.

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All women in porn are the center of attention, make more money than the men and dictate what they will or will not do.

Many ladies get their own toy lines and accessories, making even more money.

When their contract is up, they can quit and do something else, start an adult business or something completely different.

Ladies today aren't clueless children who don't know what they're doing.

They know exactly what they are doing and have control over it.

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All women in porn are the center of attention, make more money than the men and dictate what they will or will not do.

Many ladies get their own toy lines and accessories, making even more money.

When their contract is up, they can quit and do something else, start an adult business or something completely different.

Ladies today aren't clueless children who don't know what they're doing.

They know exactly what they are doing and have control over it.
Some do, not all. Do research and don't passively believe that ALL women in porn chose that path. Definitely a lot do. I'm not disagreeing that many love what they do and feel successful. Unfortunately, some of what you see in porn is rape. It is very difficult to stop ot from happening. Sex trafficing in the industry is very real. Look up what Jenna Jameson's experie. Her autobiography is very telling.

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Women don't watch porn. They hate sex.
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