You know, I have gone months without posting. Months. And then, I see this post, CB, and you complaining about your wife... yet? Still? Again? You seem to think if she loses weight, she will automatically want sex. You seem to think that she is going to require a wheelchair at 250+ pounds. Didn't you JUST say you are only a few pounds shy of that "magical weight", yourself? Do you require a wheelchair? Hey, you know what, let's change gears for a minute here.
I am, more than likely, a larger woman than your wife. I have a HIGHER drive than my husband, who is currently, based on your description of yourself, a little bigger than you. Like @badsanta
mentioned a few days ago, total penetration IS possible, in multiple positions, even at higher weights. Again, I speak from experience. Our sex life is, essentially, nearly sexless... but guess what. It is NOT because of my size. If left up to me, it would be, AT MINIMUM, twice a week... but, my husband's drive is lower than mine, due mostly to health problems, including a low testosterone level (which is being addressed).
But, here is the BIG difference, which you fail to see about your own... I married my husband, knowing what his drive was like, as well as my own, and we were COMPATIBLE from the start. You and Mrs.CB were not, and still are not. YOU accepted her lower drive, from the beginning, but you EXPECTED her to change, to want sex more frequently. That is not how she is built. It is JUST as WRONG to expect YOU to decide that you want sex only once a month. You are not built that way. And, I believe you felt that way from the start, too. No, you should NOT be expected to "settle" for once a month. However, she should NOT be EXPECTED to have sex more often. Why? Because she has been like this from the beginning, and you knew it, yet married her anyway. YOU told her, by proposing and then marrying, that YOU are ok with sex once a month. You don't like it? Then DO something about it instead of constantly complaining about it!
Now, back to that ridiculous wheelchair comment... Are you freaking kidding me? Even at my HIGHEST weight, I did NOT require a wheelchair for my husband to push me around. You, sir, are very insulting. And, another thing. Even after losing 200 pound... yes, you read correctly, I lost TWO HUNDRED POUNDS... I was STILL above your magical "250+" weight... and still am. The ONLY thing I require is a CANE, and ONLY because of my hip, which was broken when I was 23. I am now 41, and unattractive by your standards, but I get around without a wheelchair. In fact, I could probably get away with using a scooter at the store when I am shopping, but I choose to walk... because I CAN. My guess is your wife is the same way.
You want the honest truth, CB? I think someone else touched on this earlier, but I will state it again. She probably gained the weight back ON PURPOSE, to get you to leave her alone. She KNOWS you don't think fat people are attractive. That is your prerogative. But, since she knows this, and gained weight ANYWAY... THINK! Why would she do that, knowing what you think about fat people? To get you to leave her alone about sex.
Now, what are you going to do about it? Sulk? Tell her you can't keep on like this? Keep complaining about her? Or take some real freaking action???
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