The body you have and how you change it is up to your lifestyle. Weight trainers get those results from a good solid diet and weight training. Obese people aren't born obese. You have to work at that as well. No exercise and solid diet will do that. Both bodies you must work at to get those results. You aren't born either way.
You think being obese is good on the joints, hips, etc. when you get older? Less chance of disease? Diabetes? Heart attack? High blood pressure? Quite the opposite.
I took care of myself. She didn't. I am in good shape, she is obese. I can lift a lot of weight and I'm very strong. I can lift those wheel chairs.....
Something I haven't mentioned is I can only get 1/3 of myself in her because of her size being in the way. I don't like that at all.
You'd want sex minimum 2x week? Your hubby is a very lucky man. I haven't had sex 2x week or more with Mrs.CuddleBug. That's too much you see and all I want is sex sex sex That's bad.
To be honest, I never really knew Mrs.CuddleBug was that LD and insecure. Sure, the first stage of being married you get used to each other and grow together. But after a few years I realized she was treated badly because of her size, making her extremely insecure and non physical and doesn't want sex much. Nothing to do with me. She never got over that and the help she needed to grow.
I initiated often, learned much from TAM and she really noticed and appreciated that but in the end, didn't get her to take care of herself and get a healthy sex drive.
Has she gained all the weight back to avoid me? I doubt it. I was already giving her a lot of space to begin with and she still likes to eat chips, dip, her laptop, watch tv and talk on the phone with her sis and parents. In fact, I'd say she does it more now because she has more space. She doesn't complain because I'm always around her.
Do I find large ladies sexually attractive? No.
It tells me they don't take care of themselves and it shows.
You only have one physical body. Why not take care of it?
You're. Not. Getting. It.
She was like this FROM THE BEGINNING. The cues were there from the start. You JUST said that she has had body issues because she was treated badly because of her size. And, yet, how are YOU approaching her on this? She knows of your disdain for fat people. If you think she is not picking up on this, you are kidding yourself.
You say that you can only get 1/3 inside because of her size. And I am telling you, FLAT OUT, that even with a larger size, it absolutely IS possible for total penetration. Seriously, CB, I was OVER 400 pounds at one time (top weight before surgery), and my husband is about average, and there were NO problems in other positions. Even now, we are both still bigger people and STILL no issues in that area. I'm sorry, but I am gonna call you on that one being SOLELY because of her weight. Now, I am really curious. What is her height and approximate weight? At my lowest, after weight loss surgery, I was roughly 260, and am 5'3". So, yea, I definitely don't buy your claim about it being ONLY because of her size.
I NEVER said there are no risk factors, or even fewer risk factors to being overweight/obese. You think it is easy for EVERYONE to just like the weight because you have been able to do it. It isn't. Now, don't jump on that, so quickly. I said it isn't EASY for everyone, not that it is IMPOSSIBLE. In my case, I took the last resort... surgery. It definitely wasn't easy. Still isn't. There was a time when I did require a wheelchair... when I broke my hip in a car accident. And scooters for awhile when shopping. But, now, I choose to walk when I am shopping. I choose to walk to my kids' bus stop everyday, twice a day. And, when the weather is decent, I walk with my kids to the elementary school so they can play on the playground, and we walk to the store to do a little light shopping... things that the 4 of us can easily carry in backpacks.
But, according to YOU, I am lazy. You, sir, do not know me. You know nothing about my life, my level of activity, on a daily basis. You only know what I post here, and based on only that, you have labeled me as lazy. You, CB, don't want to know what I REALLY think about you. And, because I don't want to get into trouble by getting creative around the language filters, you won't know... but use your imagination! Suffice it to say, I am siding with your wife, here. Not because she is LD, and not because she is overweight/obese. I am siding with her, solely based on what YOU have posted here, and your attitude toward her. She has showed her true self to you from the start. You, however, have changed, and expect her to become someone she is not. You cannot force her. The only thing you CAN do is decide if you want to continue in a marriage with a woman you are not compatible with... or you can end the marriage. Your choice.
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