You guys have no clue about BMI.....all clueless here.
I weight train. That means I am more muscular, stronger and leaner than those who do nothing and are the same weight. Anyone who is into health, nutrition and weight training knows this.
So someone who is 230 lbs who doesn't weight train needs to lose weight.
Someone who does weight train, muscular and leaner doesn't need to lose that weight because its not FAT. Big difference to those who really understand BMI. Those who do not will say stuff like that.
My blood pressure is around 110 / 70. I have a digital blood pressure arm band.
With all the technologies, medical advances, knowledge about foods and nutrition and gyms everywhere, there is no excuse to be obese today. Some people still make excuses and are physically lazy and it catches up fast, were as others do take care of themselves and when they get older it shows. Fate is what you make. What you put in you get out.
Again, one last time people, there is no specific number of weight to lose. Its what Mrs.CuddleBug can do and as the years progress, more weight comes off, she can buy those clothes she's always wanted to wear, her confidence about her body will go up and everything else, sex drive, will follow.
If I was 300 to 400 lbs, morbidly obese, I wouldn't want my wife to see me naked at all. I would be ashamed I let myself go that bad. No excuses. You wouldn't see me at the beach either.
I'm going to try something different. I will start surprising her with dinners after work, but very healthy alternatives. So the wrap zone, vegies, chicken, unwraps. Or a healthy sub from subway. This way, hopefully, less chips and dip and bad foods on her part. Some people can control what they eat and I guess she can't as much. I have to be stricter when I grocery shop. Larger variety but even healthier. That's a positive start.
Most of her female friends are large ladies. Maybe that's why she doesn't take care of herself? Being obese is okay. No pressure to get in shape.
I don't know what our future holds. Could be divorce and could be she finally takes care of herself.
We all have choices in life. No one makes us do anything we don't wish to do. And the outcomes are very clear.
If Mrs.CuddleBug was in shape, we wouldn't have penetration issues. Her size is getting in the way. That's not my doing. We should be able to do all positions without her size getting in the way.
People that don't take care of their one physical body I have zero sympathy for. Ether you take care of yourself or you don't.
I am not looking at teenage ladies....were did that come from? Sounds like a large person lashing out because they didn't take care of themselves and need something to blame it on. I look at ladies even in their 50's. Why? Because they took care of themselves and it really shows.
I'm going to get a gym pass again. Maybe Mrs.CuddleBug will see that and get a pass as well? Maybe that's what it will take. I will try and let everyone know and same with me controlling the diet more. Updates will come.
A bunch of "it's all her fault" nonsense.
Ftr, both Blondilocks and I used a BMI calculator to arrive at the numbers, based on your own posts telling your height/weight and your wife's. Your BMI is roughly 28. Hers is roughly 30. Different makeups, but using BMI calculator ALONE, you are overweight and she is narrowly into obese. I searched for photos,of women with her approximate build/BMI. Nope. Sorry. Still don't see the "it's all her fault I can't fully penetrate". I think most of it is frame of mind. You are disgusted by her body, and that affects your interest in intercourse with her. And, because of that, it also affects the quality of the sex.
Also, I wouldn't want your sympathy, even if you offered it. You are right about one thing, though. Our lives are whatever we make them. I was ashamed of MYSELF when I was almost 500 pounds. I did do something about it. And I do what I am physically capable of doing, even now. It wouldn't be up to your standards, but thankfully, I don't have to worry about what you think of me. I am 41 years old, definitely not within your standards, yet I must be doing SOMETHING right. I have a happy husband (happy with me, our life, even with other outside problems), great friends... and even strange children (10 year old daughter's classmates) thinking I am much younger than I am. Even a woman who is almost young enough to be my daughter was floored when I told her my age. I showed her my license and she still didn't want to believe it.
Are you sure her friends are actually obese, or are they just larger than YOUR standards? Again, good thing they don't have to please you, right? 😊
Good luck with your wife. I hope she makes the changes she needs, but for herself.
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