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post #16 of 50 (permalink) Old 02-14-2017, 11:11 AM Thread Starter
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To us, our anniversary is special and celebrated. We don't do anything majorly extravagant, but we make it special in our own way. That is our Valentine's Day. Today is just another day. We are intimate every other day, so since our intimacy was last night we won't do anything today. No sex for Plan9 today...
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We exchanged cards this morning. It's not about the card itself, but about what you write in it. My husband said some very kind things to me. It makes a world of difference in struggling relationships.

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I don't know if BS or not, but on the radio this morning the DJs were saying that for VDay cards there is a 3 sentence minimum you should write
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I don't know if BS or not, but on the radio this morning the DJs were saying that for VDay cards there is a 3 sentence minimum you should write
Oh ****. I messed that one up then!

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Oh ****. I messed that one up then!

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lol. I tried searching online and can't find anything. If there is supposedly an "imposed" writing minimum, it just further reinforces my thought that Vday is garbage.

I did get my group at work a tub of pretzel rods today
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We don't do much, especially if it's on a weekday. Just a little special gesture to make the other feel special. I make him pink heart shaped chocolate covered pancakes for breakfast, and he sends me red roses.
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My plans - install my gift to her and my gift to myself:



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We don't have any plans because I'm sick of being the only one to make them. So I didn't make any this year and I doubt he'll plan anything. I bought him a card,wrote him a nice letter inside, and got him his favorite candy. I'll probably end up cooking like I do every night and that'll be that.
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We would normally be in the "not much for us group," but it's been a rough start to the year and she has been a rock. A nice dinner out -and alone- is just what we need. So steakhouse and a card.

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My wife tried starting a fight by text this morning. The gift is getting returned. She can have the card though.
I hate Valentine's Day.


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OK, so maybe here is a better question. How many people here place a lot of importance on Valentines Day? Maybe a better way to put it, do you get pissed off at your SO if they don't view it as important or don't make the effort you feel they should make today?

Separately, I wonder especially now, how many people are guilted into celebrating or going the extra step b/c of social media (i.e. I just hopped on Facebook quickly and it is littered with people suddenly professing their love for one another).
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Never thought it to be special in any way. If I owned a greeting card store or flower shop, I might be inclined to change my mind.


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OK, so maybe here is a better question. How many people here place a lot of importance on Valentines Day? Maybe a better way to put it, do you get pissed off at your SO if they don't view it as important or don't make the effort you feel they should make today?
My wife and I place zero importance on it. I think it has to do with the fact we are both NOT gift people. If somebody is getting pissed off I'd bet it's part of a love language problem.



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Neither of us is really much on the Hallmark holidays, so we don't bother to do much for Valentine's Day. I did send him a Man Crate full of goodies. It was actually supposed to be a "just because" gift that would be waiting for him when he arrived home from a business trip, but since I forgot the significance of today when scheduling the delivery, it arrived as a Valentine's gift. I paid for the extra duct tape wrapping, so he said the package looked like a bomb waiting on his front porch, but he loves the gift!

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Re: We have no Valentines Day plans - haven't for a long time

We had a romp in the hay this am.. that's all we cared about...

Yesterday we went out to eat.... I thought of buying & surprising the kids with a couple shaped pizzas, but never got around to it..

I like @CharlieParker 's post... we're not "gift" people either.. if he cuddles with me today (being the affectionate type) this would mean more to me than getting a card or some surprise chocolates.. even if we do that every day anyhow.. I would only be ticked if he neglected those things on this day..

So much is wrapped up in those "Love Languages".. our expectations and what satisfies us.


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My wife and I place zero importance on it. I think it has to do with the fact we are both NOT gift people. If somebody is getting pissed off I'd bet it's part of a love language problem.
Same. I always asked my husband to get me a card and write something in it. Then I realized how expensive valentines cards are and we switched to folding a piece of paper in half and writing something in it. Usually something silly.

I wished him a Happy Meowentines Day.



I don't get the hype.

I'm glad we are both not gifts people. Seems exhausting.
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