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post #1 of 50 (permalink) Old 02-14-2017, 07:41 AM Thread Starter
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We have no Valentines Day plans - haven't for a long time

I'm OK with it. Anyone else in the same boat?
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...... I'm going to lunch with the wife .... That's it .....And she's okay with it.

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Yup, myself also. I used to love v-day with my ex and her daughter. Hell, even took them both on a cruise!

Now I could care less, just another Hallmark holiday.

Only thing I'm doing is taking my mom out to dinner tonight at a nice restaurant.
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I'm OK with it. Anyone else in the same boat?
I got my wife a nice gift and gave it to her this morning. Nothing expensive, but something rather thoughtful. Her day is very busy and tied up with a hectic schedule, but I am going to enjoy her feeling guilty that she needs to return the favor as she said this morning, "this makes me feel A LOT of pressure to do something for you!" ...and I just smiled really big and then whispered some sweet nothings into her ear for the sole purpose of increasing her anxiety!

I'm to a point in my marriage where I know my wife has some anxieties over my sexual expectations with her. Instead of worrying and trying to help her calm down and relax, sometimes it is fun to just add fuel to the fire and throw some gasoline on it. When she starts freaking out, I just keep cranking up the heat even more to the point where she can't help but to finally crack a smile and surrender to her anxieties!

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Re: We have no Valentines Day plans - haven't for a long time

Same here. Six years, never a plan.

I asked him two days ago: I really want you to be comfortable telling me if it makes you feel bad that I don't make an effort to celebrate us on Valentine's Day.

He said: I hope you're not saying that because you actually have a problem with it.

I said: nope, not at all.

He said: good, because I don't care about the day but I would if it mattered to you.

So there, we're both on the same page.

I do love to see others happy and making each other feel special on that day however. A delivery just walked in for a co-worker. Big smiles , so cute.
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We went to dinner on Saturday. That is pretty much it. Last time I checked, it is a Tuesday, work day, middle of the week, school day, etc...
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We don't normally observe any holidays or birthdays. At best, we may go out for dinner on our anniversary, or sometimes for a birthday, but we don't do cards or gifts. Every day can be special, and we tend to be spontaneous when it comes to romantic gestures, so VD is something we avoid (pun intended).

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so VD is something we avoid (pun intended).

That is to damn funny!!!
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We don't normally observe any holidays or birthdays. At best, we may go out for dinner on our anniversary, or sometimes for a birthday, but we don't do cards or gifts. Every day can be special, and we tend to be spontaneous when it comes to romantic gestures, so VD is something we avoid (pun intended).
That's generally us too. A few years ago I did get her new laundry baskets.

This year we are going out to dinner, mainly because we have no food in the house and won't have time to shop before tomorrow. The pre dinner drinks at home with be some bubbly.



Sigh, my wife gives me the speaking treatment.
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Hear hear to Ellis, Keke, Married But Hapoy, and Charlie!

In just my opinion there seems to be a bit much emphasis on or significance attached to Valentine’s Day.

I don’t mean to be negative; really I'm a positive easy going guy, but it’s starting to read like a day of mere competition to see who has a bigger heart between couples, or an opportunity not to be missed to be lugubrious over being alone, or even more so humble bragging to others of how we are just the most thoughtful and romantic spouse ever.

Anyway a genuine happy valentines days to couples everywhere. Try not to break the bank and keep it real. For those who wish to wallow in Single Awareness Day - stop it! At least around me. ��

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Hear hear to Ellis, Keke, Married But Hapoy, and Charlie!

In just my opinion there seems to be a bit much emphasis on or significance attached to Valentine’s Day.

I don’t mean to be negative; really I'm a positive easy going guy, but it’s starting to read like a day of mere competition to see who has a bigger heart between couples, or an opportunity not to be missed to be lugubrious over being alone, or even more so humble bragging to others of how we are just the most thoughtful and romantic spouse ever.

Anyway a genuine happy valentines days to couples everywhere. Try not to break the bank and keep it real. For those who wish to wallow in Single Awareness Day - stop it! At least around me. ��
I agree 100% that there's too much emphasis on Valentine's Day. It's a made up "holiday", basically.

I think it's far more important how you treat your significant other on the other 364 days of the year.
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No current Valentine in Ol' Arbs life now!

Think that I'll grab my oldest son this evening and go get one of those world famous, artery-clogging, chicken fried chickens, smothered in cheddar cheese, with white cream gravy and jalapeños(commonly referred to as Monterrey Chicken), French fries, with a big ol' bottomless, sweet iced tea for supper!

Gosh darn, how I love myself!
Happy Valentines Day, Y'all!

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Valentine's Day is the day you gift your wife with chocolate and pretty flowers.

Chocolate

Any holiday involving chocolate, even one that is more made up than most, must always be observed!

Those are typically the extent of our plans. Sometimes though, we wear red because we're fun like that.

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No current Valentine in Ol' Arbs life now!

Think that I'll grab my oldest son this evening and go get one of those world famous, artery-clogging, chicken fried chickens, smothered in cheddar cheese, with white cream gravy and jalapeños(commonly referred to as Monterrey Chicken), French fries, with a big ol' bottomless, sweet iced tea for supper!

Gosh darn, how I love myself!
Happy Valentines Day, Y'all!
Love it! Nothing wrong with loving yourself! In fact I believe that you gotta love yourself first before you can love anybody else. Enjoy!
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We exchanged cards this morning. It's not about the card itself, but about what you write in it. My husband said some very kind things to me. It makes a world of difference in struggling relationships.

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