I understand about being desired by other women. Our solution is far out there but my wife and I agree that if we tried to be monogamous, we would have divorced a long time ago. My wife knew of my reputation for having multiple girlfriends at the same time and that after being cheated on by my ex fiancee, my one attempt at monogamy failed. My wife took the lead and started to ask her visiting girlfriends to join us in bed. At the time I did not know that my wife was fantasizing about women. Eventually we ended up in a 30 year poly triad with her best friend who we both loved.
We also did a little bit of groups sex and wife swapping so that my wife could experience sex with someone other than me since she was a virgin when we married. I involvement in group sex was an eye opener to how many of our neighbors and friends were into it. Mothers of three, scientist and even a doctor living in our development. However, after seeing then divorce one by one we stopped playing with others and stuck to just the three of us. Six years ago we became monogamous and it took a few years to adjust to it.
I had two women at home so that one was always up for sex on any given night and the threesomes were much better than sex with one person. What we normally did was a threesome for some wild sex and then one on one for more quality time and making love. When I was a kid and my aunts and uncles asked me what I wanted to be when I grew up, I said that I wanted to be a playboy. I was into girls in first grade and by the time I was 11, I had to steady girlfriends at the same time and was making our with them. At 14 I had a 17 year old girlfriend who took me to her prom. I was into girls from an early age. Surprisingly enough, I never mentioned group sex or threesomes. It was my wife who accepted an invitation to our first wife swap. It was my wife who asked her girlfriends to join us in bed and it was my wife who set me up with her girlfriend to take off some of the sex load from her.
Sounds crazy. I know because while it was happening it was just my normal life. When we became monogamous it hit me that what we had was amazing but very different than most folk. Another fun fact that I did not realize until just last year is that all four of my relationships since the age of 15 are bisexual and I did not know that at the time we started the relationship. Seems that my poly ways attracted women who also liked women. It is a curse I had to bear.
Seriously though, explore options with your wife. I do not like open relationships because one or both of the spouses usually end up leaving to marry someone else. Just try to find an old and long time married couple in an open relationship. They are as rare as hen's teeth. What we did was stick to friends and others that we knew and were comfortable with. A threesome with ground rules may work. We did some soft swinging which is foreplay with someone else but the main event is with your spouse. That really strokes the ego and yet is in a gray area as far as not being monogamous. I can tell you one thing. Sex with my wife was very intense for weeks after we had sex with others. It was like throwing fuel on the fire. Not for the jealous or insecure though. That will kill a marriage quickly. Our girlfriend got married after living with us for 7 years and found a husband who was OK with her continuing her relationships with us. She split her time between her husband and us. It was good for her because she had a beta husband at home who cleaned the house and made money and she was free to have sex with alpha males. The bet of both worlds. Most never see the other world of marriage that colors outside the lines. Once aware of it we found it every place we moved to and were always surprised at who was into it. I am in a retirement community and they have a wife swap and swingers club here where 60-80 year olds play. Do whatever you and your wife can work out. Start off slowly and carefully. Some are thinking that is terrible but when the other choice is cheating, playing with others with your wife is a better option. Of course you can end up as one of the 50% of married couples who divorce. Most of those who did not agree with our lifestyle are divorced with some more than once or twice. We just celebrated our 44th wedding anniversary so obviously we chose a marriage that worked for us. It does not work for most though and is seen as immoral by many. Yet I am not posting about a cheating wife or husband as so many do online.