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post #61 of 112 (permalink) Old 02-27-2017, 07:41 AM
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I dunno man. I'm not outright disagreeing, but at the same time, the female orgasm comes in many different flavors, AFAIK. One of them includes pelvic contractions.

Men are much simpler - we all orgasm the same way (again, AFAIK).
Men too have different types of orgasm. Different numbers of contractions, different durations, with and without ejaculate, multiples ...
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Men too have different types of orgasm. Different numbers of contractions, different durations, with and without ejaculate, multiples ...
Yes and no

I think if you ask any man, they'll tell you their orgasms are all basically the same, with a variance in the... I dunno... power? of it.

There have been times where I've been ridiculously turned on and the end result was... meh. And there have been times where I've been less excited (but still excited!) and the end result was fireworks and rainbows.

But (for me at least) they're all generally the same, with the only variance being how powerful it was, or wasn't. Doesn't really matter how I get there, either. Though, I have to say I've never attempted or experienced a prostate massage, which I understand can produce an orgasm without touching the actual penis. I hear those are different.

As far as I understand it, women have multiple ways of achieving orgasm, which can result in 'different' orgasms. I don't imagine all women are the same in this regard of course, but nonetheless.

My wife will wholeheartedly agree with this. She has three main ways of reaching orgasm - oral/manual/vibrator clitoral stimulation, PIV, manual gspot stimulation. She has also reached orgasm from anal penetration only, but this is not part of our repertoire, and was merely an experimental phase we went through a while ago.

She will tell you that each of those orgasms are vastly different from each other, that they are not the same at all. I have heard other women make this statement as well. YMMV of course

In addition, I have heard of women who can orgasm from breast/nipple stimulation only (my wife almost did once, and we never were able to replicate it again, though we didn't try that hard TBH) and a rare few who can orgasm from mental stimulation (which seems to happen most commonly while engaged in sexual activity, but not being touched themselves, ie. giving oral sex).

Obviously I'm a man, so I can't tell you you're wrong ( ) however it doesn't jive at all with my own experiences, as well as second- and third-hand information.

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All I know is that I've known men to orgasm both with and without ejaculate, to have orgasms that varied incredibly in duration and number of contractions, to ask for very different types of stimulation because it changes the orgasmic experience, to practice tantra and other exercises so that they can experience multiples, and yet further variety.

Yes, I agree that women experience quite a bit of variety in their experiences. But from what I've seen, the variety that men experience is at least on par with mine.

And basically, an orgasm is an orgasm is an orgasm.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog...t-so-different
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I dunno man. I'm not outright disagreeing, but
Don't take my word for it, actually test it for yourself.

If you don't believe me, stick your finger up your wife's backside till after she orgasms while giving her oral.

Absent testing this you have no idea.
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Don't take my word for it, actually test it for yourself.

If you don't believe me, stick your finger up your wife's backside till after she orgasms while giving her oral.

Absent testing this you have no idea.
Agreed. 100%

I know this is an old thread, but I felt compelled to add my.02. To the best of my knowledge this is the only reliable way of knowing if your woman had the "O".

Physiologist know this a function of the human body and in many cases the body of any mammal. Ask your veterinarian or animal husbandry specialist. While the response it very similar in many male mammals, the variations found in the different female mammalian species has led to some disagreement.

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Some women orgasm quickly. My fiance can get me there pretty quickly, on some days.

I don't think it's healthy to compare her or women in general, to your ex wife. Quite a few threads on here where OP's are bringing up their exes when comparing to new people... which makes me wonder if some of you are truly over your exes? Just an observation, but your ex wife and how long it took her to O, should have nothing to do with this new relationship, and that could be why you're inventing things to be worried over with this new gf.

Thank god, the voice of reason!

Every woman is different. Some can come quickly, some take longer, some make noise, some do not...

One thing I do with my partner is discuss what what each of us likes in bed, and then practice that...and talk about it during, after, etc. I would never fake an orgasm with her. She told me today that she's never been encouraged to talk about sex before, and that she believes it's a big part of why our sex life is so incredible.
Sex is supposed to be fun.

As Deidre mentions, how your ex wife climaxed really has nothing to do with your new gf. I have never met two women who orgasm the same way, from the same things.
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I haven't read the thread so I apologise if I am repeating anything. When I orgasm my genitals go very hard (inner lips and clitoris - they are very enlarged and have a rubbery feeling). My husband has remarked upon it so it is fairly noticeable. It last for less than 1- seconds. Obviously nips are rock hard too and I have sweat pouring from me (even if I haven't exerted myself - orgasms make me sweat profusely).

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I studied my wife for years. When I was in pre-med I studied female orgasms. Then I palpated a chosen muscle to detect involuntary muscle spasms during orgasm. Sometimes her uterus would spasm during orgasm, other times it would not.

I learned my wife was a very naughty little girl. Once I learned she was in fact occasionally faking it, I chastised her severely, and forced her to open up to me about why. Wow, the things I learned scorched the walls of the house. She subsequently learned to have many orgasms any time she wanted them.

There, edited. While I would not have thought of any other interpretation.

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I learned my little girl was a very naughty little girl. Once I learned she was faking it sometimes I blasted her, chastised her severely, and forced her to open up to me about why. Wow, the things I learned scorched the walls of the house. She subsequently learned to have many orgasms any time she wanted them.
I hope you are not referring to a daughter or any other child.
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I learned my little girl was a very naughty little girl. Once I learned she was in fact occasionally faking it, I chastised her severely, and forced her to open up to me about why. Wow, the things I learned scorched the walls of the house. She subsequently learned to have many orgasms any time she wanted them.
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My wife is my little girl. Is yours not yours?

I had thought there could be no other possible interpretation given the context and the mention of my wife as the subject in question in the first paragraph. Odd.

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My wife is my little girl. Is yours not yours?
No, my wife is a woman.

Is your wife a child?
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My wife is certainly a child at heart. A pixie girl, dancing in the woods. A lithe fleeting glint of moonlight with hair streaming behind her as she flits by.

She prefers to be called a girl, too. Is this not acceptable here? Is there a PC crew which polices the posts for endearments which others may deem demeaning? Such as calling ones Significant Other their "baby?"

If calling my wife my girl, or even my little girl, is considered so taboo as to be unacceptable, I suppose I may as well not post.
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@WilliamM

I asked for clarification, since what you wrote wasn't clear.

Since some participants on TAM come from different cultures, some may be married to a child and or are children at some point when married?

I don't see any reason why you shouldn't post at all.

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All good William
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