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post #1 of 112 (permalink) Old 02-17-2017, 08:51 PM Thread Starter
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Signs of female orgasm

Just making sure my gf is enjoying herself to her fullest potential, as this has been in my mind abit. Here are the signs:

- She grasps me or the sheets / or digs fingernails
- Arching her back
- She moans loud/swears
- Her legs shuddering during and moments after
- Becomes very tight
- Very wet / ejaculation? (She's not a squirter)

Apparently she reaches climax 3-6x during a session, during V-day was about 10x. Is she telling the truth? Actually I trust her but I remain unsure if she is reaching her potential as she's not normally very sexually liberated before she met me, making things a little blurry. Advice?
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Is this the FWB? I'm glad you two are together.
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GF now, committed relationship.

So I want to make sure I'm actually satisfying her
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Have you flat our asked her?

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Yup, and she goes "you can't tell?"

I dunno, maybe I'm just thinking too much as usual
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Just read an article about why women make noise during sex. According to the article most women do it make the guy feel good about his sexual prowess. A good many do it to spur on the man's orgasm. Some do it because of the movies and think it is expected of them. My wife is dead quiet and does not even want me to talk when she is trying to have an orgasm. Only when she orgasms does she let out a scream and then breathes hard. Our girlfriend was a pale skinned Norwegian who turned red when she had an orgasm.

The best sign I ever got was a former secretary yelling out, "No I know why they call you the boss." I had to suppress my laughter because it sounded like a corny line from a porn movie. She was not saying to advance in the company. I would not sleep with someone I saw every day. It was a going away dinner for me because I was being transferred far away from her. One girl screamed so loud that my wife came into the room to ask who died. I usually go by physical changes in the woman and not what they do. They can fake grabbing sheets or digging nails into your back. They cannot fake how their vagina looks or the blush on the chest that many women get.

Many prefer to drown in a pool of their own morality rather than seek the safety of a different morality when the choice is monogamy or your marriage.
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Only when she orgasms does she let out a scream and then breathes hard.
Hmmm, sounds similar, maybe that's a good sign that she's not faking then?

She's also dark-skinned so she doesn't blush, which makes it hard to tell, and either than the wetness I can't tell the difference 'down there' by looking before/after her apparent orgasms. She does tell me she's sore after apparently cumming multiple times and I could feel how tight she gets however they can just say that when they get bored right?

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All of those things in and of themselves together or otherwise don't necessarily demonstrate that she's had an orgasm. In fact I would be more inclined to think that such a performance is more theatrics than anything else.

She grasps me or the sheets / or digs fingernails

One can do that without having an orgasm or even being close to getting one.

Arching her back

Theatrics...

She moans loud/swears

Plus some more.

Her legs shuddering during and moments after

Meh.

On some occasions I've had shuddering legs absent an orgasm and have been with different women who have also sometimes had shuddering legs absent having an orgasm.

Becomes very tight

Kegels?

Does the grip get tighter then quickly releases and get tighter with increasing frequency in a pulsing motion. While she is also tilting quite substantially internally around your penis, with a grinding tilting grip?

Even though that can be coincident with the build up and tipping over to orgasm during penis in vagina sex. I wouldn't go as far as presuming a woman has had an orgasm just because of it, since the build up from that perspective feels similar to the release.

Very wet / ejaculation? (She's not a squirter)

I've been with a number of women who become dripping wet and one who also "squirts" as such. Yet with all of them such responses have most often been evident before or outside of them having an orgasm.



All of that said if in doubt the best thing you can do, is have your finger up her back passage during her build up to orgasm and through it.

What you will feel through your finger/s (one is sufficient) back there as they approach orgasm. Are a series of extremely fast micro spasms, so think of it as feeling a bit like a vibrator despite a vibrator not being used. Of which if I have my finger/s in a vagina instead I will not feel those micro spasms at all leading up to an orgasm.

Then as the woman gets closer to tipping over, you will feel those micro spasms becoming more frequent. unless she subsequently drifts away getting closer to an orgasm, where they will become less frequent and or stop.

When she does tip over to orgasm those micro spasm, will then turn into a succession of deep shuddering and throbbing pulses that you can feel through her rectum with some puckering as well.

If you feel that through her backdoor when she orgasms, you can be sure she didn't fake it. Absent feeling what I have described above, she's simply doing what she feels is necessary.
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Erm... backdoor exit only - for both of us, any other way? =/
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Erm... backdoor exit only - for both of us, any other way? =/
That being the case (since people can lie or not know better) absent conducting an electroencephalogram or having a magnetic resonance imaging scanner handy, there's no way you will ever know for sure.

Which is why it's so easy for women to fake orgasm, with those who are unaware of or unwilling to do what I suggest.
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Just making sure my gf is enjoying herself to her fullest potential, as this has been in my mind abit. Here are the signs:

- She grasps me or the sheets / or digs fingernails
- Arching her back
- She moans loud/swears
- Her legs shuddering during and moments after
- Becomes very tight
- Very wet / ejaculation? (She's not a squirter)

Apparently she reaches climax 3-6x during a session, during V-day was about 10x. Is she telling the truth? Actually I trust her but I remain unsure if she is reaching her potential as she's not normally very sexually liberated before she met me, making things a little blurry. Advice?
So you think she is lying? Sounds as if she enjoys it to me, I think you know.Nor sure why you dont just trust what you see and feel.

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That being the case (since people can lie or not know better) absent conducting an electroencephalogram or having a magnetic resonance imaging scanner handy, there's no way you will ever know for sure.

Which is why it's so easy for women to fake orgasm, with those who are unaware of or unwilling to do what I suggest.
Nope not going to let my husband do that, nor would he want to, and he doesn't need to. I wouldn't lie to him.
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I'm sure she enjoys it but doesn't mean she reaches orgasm right? Perhaps it's not as important to her as it is to me, but I want to be a good lover, especially to those I care about.

When we were just FWB when she cums once or 10x I didn't care, but now she's my GF I want to blow her mind away =/
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Nope not going to let my husband do that, nor would he want to, and he doesn't need to.
I would feel the same.

If you don't want to do something don't do it.

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They cannot fake how their vagina looks or the blush on the chest that many women get.
That blush and how the vagina looks is also not a reliable tell for orgasm either, I've seen plenty of women that haven't gotten there with the same.

A woman can gush, squirt/pee, get puffy blush, gape, ooze the thicker white stuff or the more translucent stuff with white flecks or none and many other things, yet none of them are always coincident with an orgasm.
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