Improve my sex life
I am 35, my wife and I have been married for over 8 years. Sex was not always great but I thought I did give her some moments. However, since the birth of our son, our sex life has been terrible and it's been 3 years now. Reasons are many.
First off, I'm more on the below average side, mine P is probably just 4-5" length and the girth is probably small too; I guess her V is bigger after giving birth and makes it worse. I never tried any P extension but have one ordered on the way (the one recommended in MrsBananaRama thread).
Second, I have PE. I tried some sprays and it helps me last longer but it's a bit uncomfortable since my penis feels real hot when I put on the spray. Also we are not a couple of scheduled sex nights, so some nights I wanted to and I put on the spray but then my wife was tired and refused, or some nights we were in the heated moment and I paused to put on the spray but then we made it too fast and the spray was not in effect yet (it takes about 10 minutes to be effective). I found alcohol helps too but I'm not a drinker. And even when it lasted longer I still felt like it's not long enough for her and she's not getting orgasm. With the spray or alcohol I still can get only 5 minutes.
Another important reason is that my wife needs PIV. I know my limitation and I have read a lot about oral sex and I can give her head for half an hour or so with my tongue and my fingers and she likes it but still not totally happy. I read some women get wild orgasm with oral but not my wife, unfortunately.
What should I do to improve the situation? Should I do any operation to make my P bigger (and longer) or just stick with extension toy? Regarding PE, I plan to talk to my primary care physician to see if I can get any drugs for it. I have also talked to my wife about having it twice in a night, she give me a blow first and I do my turn in 30 minutes or 1 hour later. The problem with this is that it's probably around 9:30pm by the time our son gets to bed and we tend to sleep early, around 10:30 - 11pm since my wife goes to work early in the morning. In my 20s the time between 2 erections were only around 15 minutes but now it's at least 30 minutes. So we can't do this often.