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post #16 of 131 (permalink) Old 02-22-2017, 06:50 PM Thread Starter
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We tried this and it almost broke us up. My husband threatened suicide and ended up in a mental hospital for awhile. We have three kids and were getting bored in our marriage. Wanted to spice things up. It always starts out fun and easy, until it's not.
Wow that's terrible, did you guys talk about it much before trying it? Did you guys do it a lot, different people? What made it go from fun to so horrible?

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As a fantasy, you can still have fun with it. Probably NOT a good thing to take into reality unless you have experience with something like ordinary swinging, and it went very well, with no jealousy issues, etc. I knew one couple who were into this, and they had fun with it for a number of years. They weren't married, though, and eventually she tired of it while he did not. They split up - very amicably. He found another gf into the hot wife scenario, though, and they eventually married. I don't know if they still pursue this, however. Knowing them both, though, I'd guess not.
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A monogamous relationship rewards the husband with 100% percent of his wife's love.
100% of her respect.
100% of her compliments.
100% of her physical and mental enjoyment.
100% of her beautiful body is offered to you alone.

Bringing another man into the bedroom Math Equation, brings your share down to 50%.

Why lose a good thing? Why take a chance of your share going to zero?

Zero, when she dumps you for another man...or other men.
Zero, when she dumps you for showing how much you value her. NOT!

Fantasy's are great until they become reality. Passion follows Natures laws, runs downhill, as does rain. But rarely in a straight line.
You are not a Prophet. You do not know how this will play out.
Your Profit Margin is a faithful wife in a faithful marriage. Do not gamble with your most valuable asset. The better half with the boobs.

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A monogamous relationship rewards the husband with 100% percent of his wife's love.
100% of her respect.
100% of her compliments.
100% of her physical and mental enjoyment.
100% of her beautiful body is offered to you alone.

Bringing another man into the bedroom Math Equation, brings your share down to 50%.

Why lose a good thing? Why take a chance of your share going to zero?

Zero, when she dumps you for another man...or other men.
Zero, when she dumps you for showing how much you value her. NOT!

Fantasy's are great until they become reality. Passion follows Natures laws, runs downhill, as does rain. But rarely in a straight line.
You are not a Prophet. You do not know how this will play out.
Your Profit Margin is a faithful wife in a faithful marriage. Do not gamble with your most valuable asset. The better half with the boobs.
Thanks for the honest response
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Some fantasies should remain just fantasies. Be careful what you wish for lol My vote is 'no' to testing this out.

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Some fantasies should remain just fantasies. Be careful what you wish for lol My vote is 'no' to testing this out.
Thanks but how about bringing it up as a fantasy
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I'll post the link to my thread on what we went through. If you want the short story, we talked about it (mostly him as I was his first) and I decided to give it a try. We were leaning toward threesomes and knew it would be easier to find of guy, so we did my threesome first. I ended up seeing him again several times, both doing a threesome with my husband and then on my own. Hubby was fine with a relationship developing. Hubby found a girlfriend, also. I became emotionally involved and the relationship turned kinky, as well. We were going to fetlife bdsm parties. My husband was feeling excluded, especially as I was wanting some privacy in that other relationship (similar to waywards). He started spying on me, feeling as though I was cheating since I wasn't coming home and telling him all the details of my nights. I started *****ing about him to my friends, he started spying on my conversations with them, also. I was in AZ putting my dad into assisted living after a bad fall when he told me he was going to blow his brains out. I called the cops and he went to the mental hospital. When he came out, we were separated but living together still. We started going to counseling, and have just recently stopped. We're really good now, since we laid it all on the line and did the work to try to get back to normal. I'm amazed sometimes that we're still together.

If this is something that you can live without, I'd really suggest doing so. My story is pretty extreme but the point is that until you open a relationship you don't know what nasties are lurking to rear up and bite you. Insecurities, jealousies, etc...

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Thanks but how about bringing it up as a fantasy
Definitely go with the fantasy! Just don't start asking her to turn it into reality, like my husband did.
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I'll post the link to my thread on what we went through. If you want the short story, we talked about it (mostly him as I was his first) and I decided to give it a try. We were leaning toward threesomes and knew it would be easier to find of guy, so we did my threesome first. I ended up seeing him again several times, both doing a threesome with my husband and then on my own. Hubby was fine with a relationship developing. Hubby found a girlfriend, also. I became emotionally involved and the relationship turned kinky, as well. We were going to fetlife bdsm parties. My husband was feeling excluded, especially as I was wanting some privacy in that other relationship (similar to waywards). He started spying on me, feeling as though I was cheating since I wasn't coming home and telling him all the details of my nights. I started *****ing about him to my friends, he started spying on my conversations with them, also. I was in AZ putting my dad into assisted living after a bad fall when he told me he was going to blow his brains out. I called the cops and he went to the mental hospital. When he came out, we were separated but living together still. We started going to counseling, and have just recently stopped. We're really good now, since we laid it all on the line and did the work to try to get back to normal. I'm amazed sometimes that we're still together.

If this is something that you can live without, I'd really suggest doing so. My story is pretty extreme but the point is that until you open a relationship you don't know what nasties are lurking to rear up and bite you. Insecurities, jealousies, etc...

Picking up the pieces after OM, suicide threat
I'm glad you guys are good now.
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Definitely go with the fantasy! Just don't start asking her to turn it into reality, like my husband did.
Were you ok with it when it was just something you talked about in the bed room?
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Thanks but how about bringing it up as a fantasy
Yea, I don't see why not. Okay. I have a recurring fantasy, and I have shared it with my fiance. He likes it, but sometimes he doesn't. My fantasy is to imagine him sleeping with his exes. lol Idk why. I don't know these past women he's dated, they're faceless in my fantasy, but I like him to tell stories about his exes. He doesn't like it sometimes, because he feels that I'm not focusing on ''us.'' Which isn't true, I am, but there's something very sexy to me about imagining him with other women. So, your wife may come back at you with ''why do you ''need'' this ...aren't I enough?'' So be ready for that question. (My fiance is SO enough, but there is something hot to me about thinking about him with other women. ONLY in fantasy, I would be heartbroken of course if he slept with other women)

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Were you ok with it when it was just something you talked about in bed room?
Definitely! It made things exciting, because it's always been a fantasy of mine to be with multiple people. You used to be
able to discuss these fantasies with your wife, you said. Are you unsure of how receptive she'd be now?
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Yea, I don't see why not. Okay. I have a recurring fantasy, and I have shared it with my fiance. He likes it, but sometimes he doesn't. My fantasy is to imagine him sleeping with his exes. lol Idk why. I don't know these past women he's dated, they're faceless in my fantasy, but I like him to tell stories about his exes. He doesn't like it sometimes, because he feels that I'm not focusing on ''us.'' Which isn't true, I am, but there's something very sexy to me about imagining him with other women. So, your wife may come back at you with ''why do you ''need'' this ...aren't I enough?'' So be ready for that question. (My fiance is SO enough, but there is something hot to me about thinking about him with other women. ONLY in fantasy, I would be heartbroken of course if he slept with other women)
You're awesome!! I'm pretty sure most of us men would get slapped in face if we brought up an x anytime much less in the bed room.
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Definitely! It made things exciting, because it's always been a fantasy of mine to be with multiple people. You used to be
able to discuss these fantasies with your wife, you said. Are you unsure of how receptive she'd be now?
Yes, it's been years plus the only time anything like that came up alcohol was involved. We don't drink and aren't young and carefree anymore.
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Ask most women would you want a husband who lusts for you and cherishes you body as his own, or a husband who wants you to give your body to another man so he can think of you like a pornstar? Which one do you think she will pick? It's that simple.

You don't see any books women read, movies or songs they listen to about there man pimping them out. Not unless it's for the shock value.

Pimping them out is what it is anyway. Lets not pretty it up. The turn-on is the power fantasy you have about getting her to do things with her body and soul that she wouldn't normally do (probably would be repulsed by) for your pleasure. That is the ultimate power. I'm sure you are gonna want pictures too, and eventually you will share them, because then you can show others what power you have over her. You get to feel like snoop-dog and pimp out your wife. I could get her to debauch herself just by talking to her.

Most women will lose some respect for you almost immediately and all it will take is one guy saying, "If you were my women it would only be me making love to you. You're to fine to give away."

BOOM you're the ultimate Beta.
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