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post #31 of 127 (permalink) Old 02-22-2017, 07:47 PM
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You're awesome!! I'm pretty sure most of us men would get slapped in face if we brought up an x anytime much less in the bed room.
LOL Keep in mind, he doesn't say their names. He will just say ''there was this girl a few years back...and she...'' And then it goes from there. I think he makes some of the stuff up, for dramatic effect. It can be fun, but there are nights he's not into it, I don't push it. I can see where a spouse might think that he/she isn't enough, if a fantasy life has to be brought in. You could ask her to tell you about exes...that would be as close to watching another man with your wife, if you're up to asking. lol She might not want to share it though.

My take on sex is if you have a strong relationship out of the bed, then a couple should be able to bring these things up without the other person getting offended. (within reason lol)

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I also vote for leaving this as a fantasy.

My H and I often shared fantasies or told each other stories during sex...

Our favorite was the FFM fantasy. I am bicurious so it was a very hot fantasy for us both. The only times I ever felt awkward was when he would talk about wanting to make it actually happen. We never did act on it, but found other ways to scratch that itch (sharing lap dances at a strip club for example).

In fantasy, nothing goes wrong... IRL anything can and usually does go wrong.

I've never been particularly jealous... I was honestly worried he would feel more left out than me, lol. The idea of watching him with another faceless woman was a turn on. But IRL... the third party isn't faceless,and I'd probably want to claw her eyes out!

I see no harm in sharing the fantasy, but be sure to make it clear you are not pressuring her.


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Ask most women would you want a husband who lusts for you and cherishes you body as his own, or a husband who wants you to give your body to another man so he can think of you like a pornstar? Which one do you think she will pick? It's that simple.

You don't see any books women read, movies or songs they listen to about there man pimping them out. Not unless it's for the shock value.

Pimping them out is what it is anyway. Lets not pretty it up. The turn-on is the power fantasy you have about getting her to do things with her body and soul that she wouldn't normally do (probably would be repulsed by) for your pleasure. That is the ultimate power. I'm sure you are gonna want pictures too, and eventually you will share them, because then you can show others what power you have over her. You get to feel like snoop-dog and pimp out your wife. I could get her to debauch herself just by talking to her.

Most women will lose some respect for you almost immediately and all it will take is one guy saying, "If you were my women it would only be me making love to you. You're to fine to give away."

BOOM you're the ultimate Beta.
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I also vote for leaving this as a fantasy.

My H and I often shared fantasies or told each other stories during sex...

Our favorite was the FFM fantasy. I am bicurious so it was a very hot fantasy for us both. The only times I ever felt awkward was when he would talk about wanting to make it actually happen. We never did act on it, but found other ways to scratch that itch (sharing lap dances at a strip club for example).

In fantasy, nothing goes wrong... IRL anything can and usually does go wrong.

I've never been particularly jealous... I was honestly worried he would feel more left out than me, lol. The idea of watching him with another faceless woman was a turn on. But IRL... the third party isn't faceless,and I'd probably want to claw her eyes out!

I see no harm in sharing the fantasy, but be sure to make it clear you are not pressuring her.


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Good advice, how did you bring it up?
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LOL Keep in mind, he doesn't say their names. He will just say ''there was this girl a few years back...and she...'' And then it goes from there. I think he makes some of the stuff up, for dramatic effect. It can be fun, but there are nights he's not into it, I don't push it. I can see where a spouse might think that he/she isn't enough, if a fantasy life has to be brought in. You could ask her to tell you about exes...that would be as close to watching another man with your wife, if you're up to asking. lol She might not want to share it though.

My take on sex is if you have a strong relationship out of the bed, then a couple should be able to bring these things up without the other person getting offended. (within reason lol)
Again you are awesome, good idea.
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Good advice, how did you bring it up?


I discovered that side of myself through watching porn with my H. We would watch a scene together, talk about which things were turn ons or turn offs... we both enjoyed those scenes, so it just naturally evolved into talking through the fantasy together.

When H started pushing to make it happen, I backed off... but later it crept back and eventually, when we planned a getaway (without our 3 kids) I asked if he'd take me to a strip club. We were both nervous but he was excited that I was interested. First time we just observed... later times were more interactive. I liked that it was a controlled environment... safe. And the sex afterward was off the charts for weeks, lol.


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I discovered that side of myself through watching porn with my H. We would watch a scene together, talk about which things were turn ons or turn offs... we both enjoyed those scenes, so it just naturally evolved into talking through the fantasy together.

When H started pushing to make it happen, I backed off... but later it crept back and eventually, when we planned a getaway (without our 3 kids) I asked if he'd take me to a strip club. We were both nervous but he was excited that I was interested. First time we just observed... later times were more interactive. I liked that it was a controlled environment... safe. And the sex afterward was off the charts for weeks, lol.


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That sounds fun!!
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She may have liked it in the past but obviously she is now conservative. You wouldn't want her to feel that you need her to be someone else in order to make love to her. A woman wants to be made love to because of who they really are, not a fantasy. That's my opinion though and not sure what your wife's take on it is.


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She may have liked it in the past but obviously she is now conservative. You wouldn't want her to feel that you need her to be someone else in order to make love to her. A woman wants to be made love to because of who they really are, not a fantasy. That's my opinion though and not sure what your wife's take on it is.


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Good point, I haven't said anything yet, sought advice first and getting it so far.
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Great advice, thanks!
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Good point, I haven't said anything yet, sought advice first and getting it so far.
You may find it helpful to try and imagine a role-reversal in your head. Imagine that it is your wife but NOT you that has this fantasy of you becoming a hothusband for her! She found out the neighbor's husband was sleeping around, and now she wants you to start doing the same thing. In particular she wants you to hook up with someone of her choice and bring her in the bedroom for her to watch the two of you. In particular she wants to see you with am alpha woman that will dominate you, toss you around the bedroom, and leave the scene with you spinning around passed out on the ceiling fan. If you don't do this for her or at least talk about it and role play some, she is now having trouble getting aroused for you.

How would that make you feel towards your wife?

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You may find it helpful to try and imagine a role-reversal in your head. Imagine that it is your wife but NOT you that has this fantasy of you becoming a hothusband for her! She found out the neighbor's husband was sleeping around, and now she wants you to start doing the same thing. In particular she wants you to hook up with someone of her choice and bring her in the bedroom for her to watch the two of you. In particular she wants to see you with am alpha woman that will dominate you, toss you around the bedroom, and leave the scene with you spinning around passed out on the ceiling fan. If you don't do this for her or at least talk about it and role play some, she is now having trouble getting aroused for you.

How would that make you feel towards your wife?

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I'm not saying I'd do it but I wouldn't offended. Also, I'm in my late 30's, the testosterone has dropped and my penis doesn't run the show 24-7, at 22 I would have walk 10 miles over hot coals for the chance to sleep with any attractive woman and would have cared less about any kinks she had.
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If your wife doesn't want to do it anymore then stop, don't push her into it.

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