Re: The hotwife fantasy
hotwife and cuckold are similar but still different. With cuckold - the man is looking at getting off on being abused. I used to know a guy who is only allowed to have intercourse with his wife about once every 6 months or so - if he's been good. She on the other hand, has sex with guys all the time, easily 2+ times a week. He can't masturbate. He may be able to go down on her, if she allows it. Keeps in penis in a cage and padlock (That is a THING ) search "penis in a cage" Amazon sells them for $25~125. (No I DON'T have one) - what he is into and the cage this is... not my circus, not my monkeys. They have been married for 15+ years, totally in love with his wife. They did not start out that way, only in the past 4~5 years I'm guessing.
In the past 12 months, I know of 4 open-relationship couples (not including my own - which we have been mono since coming back together) that have broken up. 3 of them had nothing to do with cheating. 1 did, and they went to counseling and are back together. I never asked if they are still open relationship.
Seems like you are talking more of 3some.
As other have said... you're opening a pandora's box that you may not be able to close. Your gamble. You may go to another site, which is pro hotwifing (I didn't know about such a thing until this place) and you may change your mind and you try out some feelers next month or year. You can do you best with ground rules - but that doesn't keep things from falling apart. Also, many times - the man who wanted the fantasy, has a freakout when it actually happens.
#1 If you ever do this : lots of research about communications. I cannot stress that.
#2 refer to #1
#3 If you do this... then no more than 1-2 times a year. kind of like The Purge or Holloween night.
#4 Pandora's box: You bring it up "Remember our fantasies when we were young?" She says "NO". But she thinks about it... There is the new guy in Accounting that's a hunk. And then comes back says she is considering. You say "All right!" - She says "Give me a while to find someone"
Then she is having an affair and your marriage is dying.
Consider the strip clubs perhaps.
Supporting those who want to divorce or reconcile. Not every relationship is the same.