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post #1 of 125 (permalink) Old 02-22-2017, 06:05 PM Thread Starter
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The hotwife fantasy

I'm trying to gain some insight/information on the subject. Anytime I search Google it's information from a porn sites, not the most reliable place for honest information.

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We are in our late 30's, married 16 years, together 18. Early on in our relation, not often but usually after a night of drinking, the hotwife thing would come in bed. We use to be pretty open about fantasies and curiosities but once we started a family,all that talk stopped. My wife has grown pretty conservative over the years. A few weeks ago I was restoring a friend's laptop, honestly, I wasn't snooping but I found out they have explored the fantasy. It's kicked the fantasy in overdrive for me.I'm unsure whether to attempt to tell my wife. I don't want to upset her.

I don't want to be judged. I would never force anything on anyone they were comfortable with.
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Pandora's box, man.
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Bad experience?
You're not asking me, and I can't speak from experience (I don't like to share my tools, let alone my wife), but I can tell you this: hang around here long enough and you'll see this sort of thing commonly break up marriages.

Maybe you'll be an exception. Are you a gambling man?
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You're not asking me, and I can't speak from experience (I don't like to share my tools, let alone my wife), but I can tell you this: hang around here long enough and you'll see this sort of thing commonly break up marriages.

Maybe you'll be an exception. Are you a gambling man?
I'll see if I can find any of those stories here.
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I third the "don't do it" vote. Your wife probably doesn't want to do this because she respects you too much. Ungrateful woman.

If getting cuckolded is your kink, look for other ways to satisfy the humiliation craving. Instead, see if your wife will role play with you. Have her tell you about an imaginary rendezvous with another man while your banging her.
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I third the "don't do it" vote. Your wife probably doesn't want to do this because she respects you too much. Ungrateful woman.

If getting cuckolded is your kink, look for other ways to satisfy the humiliation craving. Instead, see if your wife will role play with you. Have her tell you about an imaginary rendezvous with another man while your banging her.
I'm not into any of that hardcore cuckold stuff. It's more hotwife/mfm fantasy, as far as respect, if she brought up a fmf 3some, I'd still respect her. I'm not about to jump into anything or even bring up anything she might be uncomfortable with.
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Ahh Pimp my wife. If threesomes are Russian Roulette, hotwife is suicide.
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I'll see if I can find any of those stories here.
There is a whole subreddit on reddit for that.
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Instead, see if your wife will role play with you. Have her tell you about an imaginary rendezvous with another man while your banging her.
Beware this may have the opposite effect and kick it into overdrive. I tried this with an ex hoping to calm him pressuring me to try it out and it made things worse. After that first time he was convinced it would be even more thrilling if we could just do it in real life. And then he started pressuring me to tell him these imaginary stories to give him a better climax during sex. Ugh turn off alert
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We tried this and it almost broke us up. My husband threatened suicide and ended up in a mental hospital for awhile. We have three kids and were getting bored in our marriage. Wanted to spice things up. It always starts out fun and easy, until it's not.
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As a fantasy, you can still have fun with it. Probably NOT a good thing to take into reality unless you have experience with something like ordinary swinging, and it went very well, with no jealousy issues, etc. I knew one couple who were into this, and they had fun with it for a number of years. They weren't married, though, and eventually she tired of it while he did not. They split up - very amicably. He found another gf into the hot wife scenario, though, and they eventually married. I don't know if they still pursue this, however. Knowing them both, though, I'd guess not.

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Beware this may have the opposite effect and kick it into overdrive. I tried this with an ex hoping to calm him pressuring me to try it out and it made things worse. After that first time he was convinced it would be even more thrilling if we could just do it in real life. And then he started pressuring me to tell him these imaginary stories to give him a better climax during sex. Ugh turn off alert
I get that and that's me. Example, I've asked her for anal sex, I never pressured her. One night she said she'd try it, no sooner before "it" made contact she said stop. She wasn't comfortable with it, I stopped. I didn't guilt trip her or keep bugging her, I appreciate she was willing to make the attempt.
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