I am new here, and I want some opinions on the sex life in my marriage.
There's a lot to tell, but I want to do things one small step at a time.
Here's where I'm going to start.
Like most men, my husband has erotic dreams. The issue I have is that he says I'm the subject of these dreams.
That kinda freaks me out a little bit. I mean I have erotic dreams, but my husband is never in them. Am I wrong to be more than a little creeped out by this fact?
How many men here dream about their wives? Wives, how would feel if your husband admitted to have erotic dreams about you?
maybe you aren't the subject of all of the dreams. Maybe he is afraid to tell you he is dreaming of other women.
My husband always says he is dreaming of me, it just *isses me off because I know he is lying. lol
When I was first with my wife my erotic dreams were everywhere, but as time went by now they only include her. Sometimes of things she'd never do but mostly of things we have done.
WOW! You must be doing something great! Your husband is REALLY attracted to you and enjoys you. Sometimes I dream that my husband has been unfaithful, sometime I dream that I am unfaithful, but it is ONLY a dream. I have no intention of being with anyone but him! If he is dreaming of you then maybe you should see if you can make one or two of his dreams come true. Accept the compliment with a HUGE smile! Be freaked when you're no longer in his thoughts!
When she is around, when she is in the other room, when she gone. Even when she is pissed and not talking to me. Even when I'm pissed and not talking to her.
I'm completely, madly, infatuated with her sexually.
Even if I try to fantasize about another woman I wind up thinking about my wife immediately. It's not guilt - it's her.
I don't think it should creep you out - you should take it as a compliment.
When I was first with my wife my erotic dreams were everywhere, but as time went by now they only include her. Sometimes of things she'd never do but mostly of things we have done.
draconis
15 years this May.
It is wonderful. He does a lot except cook. We have 2 kids.
maybe you aren't the subject of all of the dreams. Maybe he is afraid to tell you he is dreaming of other women.
My husband always says he is dreaming of me, it just *isses me off because I know he is lying. lol
No, I believe him. Some of what's he's done, makes me 100 % certain that he is not lying when he says he dreams about me.
I love that it's me my man is thinking about... not some other woman.
I like that idea too, but it's also a little scary, in a controlling type of way. Is he so fascinated with me, that no one else enters his mind? Such an intensity of attention focused on me is a little creepy, in a stalker kind of way.
WOW! You must be doing something great! Your husband is REALLY attracted to you and enjoys you. Sometimes I dream that my husband has been unfaithful, sometime I dream that I am unfaithful, but it is ONLY a dream. I have no intention of being with anyone but him! If he is dreaming of you then maybe you should see if you can make one or two of his dreams come true. Accept the compliment with a HUGE smile! Be freaked when you're no longer in his thoughts!
Funny you should mention the word huge. His dreams can not be made true, and I will explain why.
I can agree that if my husband never dreamed of me, that would be disturbing. But these are his erotic dreams. I dream of my husband too, but there are never erotic.
I mentioned above that what creeps me out a little is that these erotic dreams give me a weird 'stalker' feel.
I know it's not right, but there it is.
I want to discuss something else, but I feel I must lay some groundwork.
Since 2005 we have had very little sexual intercourse during our marriage. This has been my fault entirely, as I have lost interest in sex.
I've spoken to my doctor about it, and she assures me that it's nothing more than stress. My husband is OK with this, as he's happy to masturbate, which suits me just fine. He's been very understanding about it, and figures that someday, my backlog of "horny" will come due, and then he'll get a lot more sex. If that's true, I'll probably be back here saying I don't get enough sex.
The next step here, is that who my husband is masturbating about. It's me.
I believe him wholeheartedly, as I saw some of the material he uses when he's doing it.
This is another part of what skeeves me out. There are literally thousands and thousands of women out there, and yet I'm the one he fantasizes about while he masturbates?
I suppose I should grateful that he's NOT thinking about other women, but I all get is this creepy "stalker" like feeling. Well, there is more, but I want to see what women think of this first.
If caught your husband masturbating, and he said he was thinking of you, and you BELIEVED him, how would it make you feel?
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