Re: Overdue update
My wife is asexual (five times in six-plus years), and I've noticed my drive has gone down (it's not totally dead, but it's not what it was). I do masturbate sometimes, but even then I notice that it's not as strong, if you know what I mean.
Some people (men and women) just don't view sex as an important part of a marriage. My wife views sex as work and is always complaining about being tired, having a headache, etc. so I don't even bother. If she's in the mood, she knows where to find me - I've given up trying.