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post #16 of 53 (permalink) Old 03-05-2017, 04:05 PM
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Re: When lube is NOT optional

We don't find it awkward at all. My wife doesn't like oral so I usually apply it right up front to her AND to me. Foreplay feels great with lube! She does self-lubricate sometimes, but the more slippery the better.

The big issue is that it can be cold, so warm it up first.

A slippery, gooey mess makes for great sex!

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Look into vagina suppositories. I've heard great things about them.
Vagifem (brand name) ... works wonders for menopausal women. Puts the estrogen right where it's needed and will be absorbed into tissues.
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You guys here on this site have made me a true believer in coconut oil... pure, virgin, filtered in essence, and unfiltered in fun. ......
Virginity is over-rated in almost everything.
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Not what you are asking OP but still worth mentioning.... I am 50, post menopausal and never need lube (anal being the exception). Going to attribute it to good diet (vegetarian, minimal preservatives, lots of fresh organic foods). I did not take any form of hormones replacement during peri or into menopause.

What sort of general health is your wife in? Is there room for improvement?
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I think @alexm tried to create a similar post in the past, but it got deleted by moderators as perhaps being a fantasy poll of some sorts.
Doesn't ring a bell, but I've made a few posts in my day...

But yeah, I don't recall anything about this subject! And reading through some of this one, it doesn't seem like a subject I'd have started a thread about Perhaps one of the other old-timers?

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coconut oil
coconut oil
coconut oil
coconut oil

there's never not a good time to play with it with each other
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Post menopausal woman here, we use coconut oil also. On him or me, however the mood strikes us. If you end up including oral it tastes wonderful Using lube has never been an issue - I didn't actually realize it was for some people. We've used it since before it was sometimes a requirement. I also use it on my entire body once or twice a week, we use it as a massage oil also. We have the big jar in the kitchen to use for cooking and we just fill a smaller bedroom container as required.

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all of that, yep. not necessary, per se, but it's fun.
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Post menopausal woman who has used coconut oil after trying and hating many other brands out there.

I use coconut oil every damn time. Before we have sex I alway empty my bladder and once back in the bedroom I take my jar of coconut oil after I've removed my nightgown, open the jar and while looking right into his eyes I scoop out a glob, lift a leg on the bed and start spreading it around. Sometimes I take a LOOOOONG time to spread it around and I have to go back and get more. Sometimes I spread it on him too. Sometimes I am rudely interrupted while I'm still spreading it.

You could stand over your husband while you spread it, you could wait till his uses the bathroom and then let him walk out finding your spread eagle and spreading the lube (my husband's fav) you could spread it on him and then shimmy your lady bits all over picking up the lube from his body.

There have been a few times my body has almost generated enough lubrication but I find that more lube is always better than less lube.

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AP you really should be getting a cut of some coco nut oil profits!
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Re: When lube is NOT optional

Based on the title of this thread I thought for sure the subject of anal sex was up for discussion.....
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if you needed to use lube, you should stop having sex.
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That's what I thought. In her view, it was nature's way of telling you you were "past all that".

Hence I swiftly moved on to somebody else!

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Wife needs lube in most cases. She can be really horny and raring to go, but still need lube. Sometimes, she'll make a healthy amount of lube. We use coconut oil and yes there is that pause to apply before we get going. Normally it's foreplay, lube then PIV.
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