Here are two quotes from @katiecrna
in her thread that I didn't want to derail, but it got me thinking about lube.
I agreed with katie. In her younger days my wife was always naturally super luberific. But now, post menopause, "artificial" lube is required for every and any sexual encounter below her waist, no exceptions.
And it's great to have good lube to allow us to still have good sex but it can also be a bit clinical, unsexy and just one more potential distraction.
Hi Charlie! Donít know that I agree with the posts you quoted in your intro. I think theyíre a slippery slope (see what I did there??) to the misconception that if youíre a woman who needs lube then youíre past it and not ďhealthyĒ or if youíre a man who likes to use lube then you donít care about your partnerís pleasure. I mean zero offense and Iím pretty sure the quotes were taken out of context and werenít the posterís intention, but thatís how it reads.
Weíre all different. Just because a woman is menopausal it doesnít mean her garden of eatiní is dead and a dismal desiccated desert with tumbleweeds blowing about and just because a woman is young it doesnít mean her highway to heaven is always a funtastic slip ní slide to paradise.
Young, healthy women can need lube; in my late teens and early 20s I was very much wet, willing, and ready, but a little too tight and lube would sometimes make things go (and come) a little easier. And just like MrsH pointed out, sheís past the Ďpause and her peach pie is still very much sweet and run-down-your-chin juicy (may not have been her actual statement, but Iím certain thatís an accurate description nonetheless).
Anyhoo! Iím not menopausal but Iíve used lube off and on throughout my sexual life, not out of need but for variety and fun. And even though sex is like the bluebird of happiness for me now (i.e., long absent from my life, but at least I have the chicken of depression to keep me company), I did have great sex in the past, still have a filthy mind, and do have a need to help, so maybe some of my below suggestions could be of use? Doesnít hurt to try!
I can think a few scenarios in which lube could be used in such a way as to add to the heat of the moment rather than detract from it. Nudity is required and not all of it may work for you as every couple is different. Hopefully itís not inappropriate (if too graphic, Powers-That-Be, please let me know and I'll delete) and gives you ideas to creatively incorporate lube in a sexy, "non-clinical" way.
1. With her on her back, straddle her ribcage, squirt some liquid fun in your hands and make a slow sensuous show of slathering up your man mitts. When youíre good and slippery, rub the oil all over her breasts while you fondle, squeeze, and tease her. When you have her in a lather, you can make another show of slowly slathering oil all over your rod right above her, and then when youíre ready, mound her breasts together from the sides and, to put it delicately, proceed to **** her tits. If you want to finish this way, you can oil up her fingers and have her tend to her little lady downstairs while you give her the loverís timeless gift of a pearl necklace. Or if youíd rather go inside of her, now that youíre all slicked up, you can slide down and ride her little red corvette until you both reach O-town.
2. Have her on all fours on the bed with head and arms down but keep her ass up. Get behind her, slather up your hands and rub her rump and in between her legs, massaging her clit and sliding your fingers in and out until sheís ready for you to slide home. The great thing about this position is you (or she) can rub her clit and her oil slicked curves can be slapped while you ride her from behind. It also leaves her ass available for some finger play if thatís in your menu of lusty good times.
3. This one is always good, simple, and doesnít break momentum. While youíre standing in front of her and sheís sitting on the bed, have her oil up her hands until theyíre nice and warm and slick and then have her give you a thorough handy. When you're ready she can lie back on the edge of bed and use her oiled hands to play with her breasts (feels great) and you're already slicked up and ready to go!
Truly the possibilities are endless. I think lube and oil are great additions to sex and shouldn't be seen as mood killing, clinical prep work. Change it up, get her involved in the slippery goodness, and most importantly just have fun with it! You're a loving, committed couple who have regular sex... the world is your slick delicious oyster, my friend. Enjoy!