Here are two quotes from @katiecrna
in her thread that I didn't want to derail, but it got me thinking about lube.
My personal problem with [lube] for me, using it in our bedroom is because I am a young healthy women who doesn't need it.
Oh you want to have sex? Slab some lube on me and go. It's very insensitive, you don't care to take the time and make me horny or into it
I agreed with katie. In her younger days my wife was always naturally super luberific. But now, post menopause, "artificial" lube is required for every and any sexual encounter below her waist, no exceptions.
A few question to those who always need to use lube. Where and when do you apply it? This one bugs me, how to know when she is ready and "horny or into it" if she's just not going to get wet?
I'll put some in her, and the excess on me, just prior. And I will ask, "You ready?" Super smooth
She's never said no (really? I've never ever rushed her?). And yes, sometimes it feels to me like "Slab some lube on me and go".
It's not really a problem for us. And it's great to have good lube to allow us to still have good sex but it can also be a bit clinical, unsexy and just one more potential distraction.