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post #31 of 56 (permalink) Old 03-09-2017, 08:37 PM
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I think the quality of sex is more important than the quantity don't you?
That depends. Quality is definitely a high ranking factor, but if the quantity is twice a year then that's a problem

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I think the quality of sex is more important than the quantity don't you?
I can't see the point of sacrificing one for the other.

If one doesn't settle for less, it is certainly possible to have both at the same time.
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Never married people have more sex, and your parents or grandparents probably had more sex than you're having.

So much for the marriage advantage - is staying single better for a good sex life?



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How do you compare to the averages?

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Not that there's anything necessarily wrong with it, but I would highly suspect that single folks also tend to masturbate a hell of a lot more than their married counterparts do!

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lol I heard this today on the news. My fiance and I have an awesome sex life, it better not die after the wedding!! >.<

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I can't see the point of sacrificing one for the other.

If one doesn't settle for less, it is certainly possible to have both at the same time.
I agree but how can you measure quality?
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That depends. Quality is definitely a high ranking factor, but if the quantity is twice a year then that's a problem

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Not to argue but how does this sentence strike you. I had sex 300 times this year, once it was really, really good.

To paraphrase Woody Allen: Even a bad orgasm is still pretty good.
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Never married people have more sex, and your parents or grandparents probably had more sex than you're having.

So much for the marriage advantage - is staying single better for a good sex life?



This is surprising:



How do you compare to the averages?

https://www.washingtonpost.com/local...rainbow&wpmm=1
Not surprising in the least, TBH.

The sheer number of distractions in today's day and age is incalculable. You're all on one of them now, reading this.

I'm in that sweet-spot age where I grew up, and vividly remember, a simpler life, yet have also spent half of it in this age of distraction.

25 years ago, I had 30 or so channels on my TV. Now there's 1000, and I can watch whatever I want, whenever I want.

There was no internet. No smart phones. Connectivity meant talking to people. Socialization meant having people over, or actually going out - and not being distracted by Instagram while you were with them.

People are having less sex for exactly two reasons - One, there are so many distractions these days, and two we're not nearly as personally connected as we once were.

Furthermore, the generation that's grown up with all of this - the children of the 90's and beyond - don't require any real effort to do anything. Everything is right there, on demand, instant. My 16 year old thinks he's being social when he's playing online computer games and chatting over a head set. He genuinely believes that's socialization.

Everything is easy and relatively effortless these days. Many things pose little challenge any more. Hell, you want to have sex? Go on craigslist or any number of similar websites, and you could have a willing partner in an hour. You no longer have to get dressed up and go out on the town and hope to meet somebody - actually make an effort to get laid.

You want a husband or wife? Post an ad!

And the easier things become, the less interesting they are in the long run.

The less time and effort one makes and invests in something, including relationships, the less meaningful it is, and the more we take it for granted. Relationship not going well? I can be going on dates by this evening. No need to fix the current one, it's disposable.

And for this current generation, sex is disposable as well. It means less, because it's so easy to come by, and so common.

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I agree but how can you measure quality?
By ones own subjective impressions.

I find many varied and subjectively great experiences with a number of different sexual partners, has helped to further inform my subjective impressions.

That said I don't think one needs to have had experience with multiple partners, in order to be able to determine the quality of their sexual activities.
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By ones own subjective impressions.

I find many varied and subjectively great experiences with a number of different sexual partners, has helped to further inform my subjective impressions.

That said I don't think one needs to have had experience with multiple partners, in order to be able to determine the quality of their sexual activities.
Yes, of course, it is subjective. Kind of like the Supreme Court justice that said of Porn, I know it when I see it.
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I agree but how can you measure quality?
Both partners having an orgasm. If a couple has sex 300 times in a year and only the man has an orgasm the sex can't be that great for the woman.

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My wife is LD so our sex is usually only a couple of times per month. That's on the low side for sure.

However, the reality is that sex, although important, is not the most important part of our marriage. She and I work so well together and we have a wonderful marriage with two beautiful daughters.

I realize this is the sex in marriage forum and as such the sex takes precedence here, but I don't see why anyone would place sex at the top of the list in why to get married?

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Necessary but not sufficient.

I'd actually prefer sex with an enthusiastic partner where I didn't O, from simply having intercourse with a dead fish until I finished. The great majority of men and manyh women can give themselves an O any time they want if that is all that they want.

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Both partners having an orgasm. If a couple has sex 300 times in a year and only the man has an orgasm the sex can't be that great for the woman.

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My wife is LD so our sex is usually only a couple of times per month. That's on the low side for sure.

However, the reality is that sex, although important, is not the most important part of our marriage. She and I work so well together and we have a wonderful marriage with two beautiful daughters.

I realize this is the sex in marriage forum and as such the sex takes precedence here, but I don't see why anyone would place sex at the top of the list in why to get married?

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Indeed, to the bolded. If anything, the chance that sex will be less in marriage than if you remain single - and that once married, your options reduce to one and only one person: your spouse - then marriage isn't attractive at all. Sure, there are other considerations, but you don't HAVE to marry to have them. You will still probably be exclusive, but you can give notice that you are unilaterally changing that agreement if the sex is not adequate.

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Necessary but not sufficient.

I'd actually prefer sex with an enthusiastic partner where I didn't O, from simply having intercourse with a dead fish until I finished. The great majority of men and manyh women can give themselves an O any time they want if that is all that they want.
That is still quality though!

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Indeed, to the bolded. If anything, the chance that sex will be less in marriage than if you remain single - and that once married, your options reduce to one and only one person: your spouse - then marriage isn't attractive at all. Sure, there are other considerations, but you don't HAVE to marry to have them. You will still probably be exclusive, but you can give notice that you are unilaterally changing that agreement if the sex is not adequate.
I can only speak for me. When I was young, my goal was to one day be married. I was engaged to a woman who cheated on me not too long before the wedding. I broke up with her and called off the wedding. About a year later I met my wife and we eventually got married. 23 years after meeting her, I am still so very in love and so is she. For me, I always dreamed of having a wonderful wife to love me as I do her. I have that.

For someone who doesn't want kids or someone who doesn't have the ability to commit through better AND worse, you are right. It's best not to get married. If you are the type person who will abandon your partner if and when sex slows down, or if you are just bored with being with one partner, tthen marriage is not for you.

I was never a player nor found it extremely easy to hook up. My wife was only number 20 for me. So, I can't say I've sampled everything there is to sample. But, I can say that the woman I am married to makes me VERY happy. She is there for me when I need her and I am there for her when she needs me. We are bound in marriage and neither is going to call it quits just because we go through a dry spell for a while.

I'll simply state again that if I could travel back in time I would marry her again. She is the love of my life.

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