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post #46 of 56 (permalink) Old 03-10-2017, 11:15 AM
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Not that there's anything necessarily wrong with it, but I would highly suspect that single folks also tend to masturbate a hell of a lot more than their married counterparts do!
Not always true. Been married 24 years. PIV maybe 200 times. Masturbated at least 8,500 times. Those of us in sexless or near sexless marriages tend to masturbate ALOT because we get in bed every night with a spouse who won't have sex with us. going to bed alone is easier and less likely to trigger the urge to masturbate.

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For someone who doesn't want kids or someone who doesn't have the ability to commit through better AND worse, you are right. It's best not to get married. If you are the type person who will abandon your partner if and when sex slows down, or if you are just bored with being with one partner, tthen marriage is not for you.
I'm able to commit with or without marriage. I will point out, though, that many people divorce if the sex slows down, or they're bored, etc. - marriage guarantees nothing; if a person can't commit, marriage won't change that.

As for me, I also have a great (second) marriage, and it would be the same if we hadn't married (we decided to marry purely for the pragmatic benefits, as marriage would make - and has made - no difference to our love or commitment). I wish I hadn't married the first time, though!

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My wife is LD so our sex is usually only a couple of times per month. That's on the low side for sure.

However, the reality is that sex, although important, is not the most important part of our marriage. She and I work so well together and we have a wonderful marriage with two beautiful daughters.

I realize this is the sex in marriage forum and as such the sex takes precedence here, but I don't see why anyone would place sex at the top of the list in why to get married?

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I think that I understand what you are saying, but also think you are wrong. I felt as you did until the frequency of sex dropped to nothing and it became a way that my wife emotionally hurt me, actually that we hurt each other. At that point, because of all the things you say, I fought to save and rebuild my Sex Starved Marriage. Yes, there are lots of important qualities in a marriage that can sustain it. However, when both sex and intimacy no longer occur the marriage is in crisis and slowly dying, in my opinion.
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I think that I understand what you are saying, but also think you are wrong. I felt as you did until the frequency of sex dropped to nothing and it became a way that my wife emotionally hurt me, actually that we hurt each other. At that point, because of all the things you say, I fought to save and rebuild my Sex Starved Marriage. Yes, there are lots of important qualities in a marriage that can sustain it. However, when both sex and intimacy no longer occur the marriage is in crisis and slowly dying, in my opinion.
Well, of course! If thete is no intimacy or affection, it's almost impossible to maintain a relationship. That wasn't exactly my point. I'm simply sayong that sex is not the most important aspect of a relationship and should be weighed against other aspects as well. Yes, sex and intimacy are very important. Without it, the love you share will die.

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Both partners having an orgasm. If a couple has sex 300 times in a year and only the man has an orgasm the sex can't be that great for the woman.
Both partners having an orgasm almost all of the time through to all of the time is the minimum standard. I presume "quality" in this context requires something more than just sharing mutual orgasms.

Absent orgasms for one or all who are sharing that sex, I can't see why one or all would want to keep sharing that sex often or at all.
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It appears that "not married but living together" results in more sex than "married and living together". Does this mean that the latter should get a divorce and keep living together?
Brilliant Idea!
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lol I heard this today on the news. My fiance and I have an awesome sex life, it better not die after the wedding!! >.<
Just don't eat wedding cake! I've heard too many stories of loss of interested in sex after eating wedding cake.
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Just don't eat wedding cake! I've heard too many stories of loss of interested in sex after eating wedding cake.
lol

You know what I have read that could be part wedding folklore and part truth? That couples who shoved wedding cake into their spouses' faces during the cutting of the cake at their wedding, had the highest divorce rate lol!!

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lol

You know what I have read that could be part wedding folklore and part truth? That couples who shoved wedding cake into their spouses' faces during the cutting of the cake at their wedding, had the highest divorce rate lol!!
Wouldn't surprise me, could be a correlation between that act and how much they respect each other.
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I think a more universal truth would be ," those who prioritize sex will have more sex". I had just as much, if not more, sex married than I had single. Mostly due to access for sure. But married or single sex has always been a non negotiable priority so I have never been sexless in any relationship
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I think the quality of sex is more important than the quantity don't you?
Both...I view as an optimization between two variables, simple calculus really......which explain a few issues in my life
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