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post #1 of 56 (permalink) Old 03-08-2017, 06:15 AM Thread Starter
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Never Married People Have More Sex!

Never married people have more sex, and your parents or grandparents probably had more sex than you're having.

So much for the marriage advantage - is staying single better for a good sex life?

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When looking only at married people, the drop was even sharper from around 73 times a year in 1990 to around 55 in 2014 bringing their frequency of sexual activity below that of never-married people. People in that group have sex an average of 59 times a year.
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the group having sex most often were those born in the 1930s, while those having the least sex were born in the 1990s.
How do you compare to the averages?

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So much for the marriage advantage - is staying single better for a good sex life?
Maybe, maybe not. But staying single is better for avoiding dead bedroom. You can just leave without lasting repercussions.

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It appears that "not married but living together" results in more sex than "married and living together". Does this mean that the latter should get a divorce and keep living together?

Always remember the LD motto: "Sex isn't important!!!"
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It appears that "not married but living together" results in more sex than "married and living together". Does this mean that the latter should get a divorce and keep living together?
No, it's already too late! They've already formed their bad habits, so a mere status change is unlikely to help. Better that they should make a concerted effort to have sex daily, to help prop up the poor performance stats of other married people.

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Re: Never Married People Have More Sex!

I don't think in terms of times per year, so here is the math.

73 is every 5 days, 1.4 times a week or just over 6 times a month.

55 is a little more than once a week or 4.6 times a month.



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we have sex 4-5x a week minimum even after 23 years. Of course it has fallen from when we were both teens/20s when we would do it 3-4 times a day. I do know several couples our age that have been together less time and MIGHT do it 2-3x a month. Funny thing is out of those usually BOTH the husband and wife complain they don't do it enough, but they will not communicate that to the other.
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I think the quality of sex is more important than the quantity don't you?
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The modern world provides more alternative entertainment and more distractions. (and more porn), so I'm not surprised that people are having less sex.

I think people stay in marriages that are somewhat unhappy much longer than they would stay in casual relationships that are unhappy.
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The modern world provides more alternative entertainment and more distractions. (and more porn), so I'm not surprised that people are having less sex.

I think people stay in marriages that are somewhat unhappy much longer than they would stay in casual relationships that are unhappy.
Interestingly, unless I misread that article, it said that people who watch porn have MORE sex than those who don't.

Maybe that just means they have a higher sex drive?

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I think the quality of sex is more important than the quantity don't you?
No; I'll have to disagree here, strongly. Yes, you're right IF the quantity/frequency is sufficient - whatever that means for you. However, great/quality sex only once or twice a year would not do it for me - it would be grounds for divorce rather than satisfaction. Or perhaps I'm just spoiled - I have sex almost daily, and it's always at least good, and once or twice a week it's positively extraordinary in quality.

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WOW!

Maybe testosterone is dropping and ED is becoming more rampant?

Pretty sad.

We have had sex about 60 times this year and I was sick most of January.
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Re: Never Married People Have More Sex!

This is true to a degree. What if the last time you had sex was mind blowing, but was in December, 2015?

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No; I'll have to disagree here, strongly. Yes, you're right IF the quantity/frequency is sufficient - whatever that means for you. However, great/quality sex only once or twice a year would not do it for me - it would be grounds for divorce rather than satisfaction. Or perhaps I'm just spoiled - I have sex almost daily, and it's always at least good, and once or twice a week it's positively extraordinary in quality.
Sex in some respects is like a team sporting activity. Sometimes you will seem to have a perfect golf game, long straight fairway shots, followed by impossible putts. Other days you will slice each fairway shot. To use a team sport analogy, some days you will hit lots of home runs and other days you will strike out each time at bat. Sometimes your team mates will get home runs and make spectacular catches when you are having an off day. Sometimes your pitcher will pitch a no-hitter. Once in a while everyone will perform spectacularly. To get really good requires practice, lots and lots of practice. I feel that sex is the same.

Sometimes sex will be absolutely spectacular when you and your spouse are both totally doing everything right!. Other times, one of you will be doing everything right and the other everything wrong and the result will still be enjoyable, but not so spectacular. Sometimes you will both have an off day together. When that happens you need to be able to laugh about it and not let it get you down.

As they use to say about Babe Ruth, he lead the league in home runs, but he also lead the league in strike outs. As with sex, we tend to only remember the spectacular days.

The point is that "quality" requires two people both performing well. That requires practice and a willingness to try and fail.

Too many people put too much emphasis on each sex act. In my opinion we need to be more playful, exploratory and enjoy each other.
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No; I'll have to disagree here, strongly. Yes, you're right IF the quantity/frequency is sufficient - whatever that means for you. However, great/quality sex only once or twice a year would not do it for me - it would be grounds for divorce rather than satisfaction. Or perhaps I'm just spoiled - I have sex almost daily, and it's always at least good, and once or twice a week it's positively extraordinary in quality.
I see your point. If one is thirsty a drink from a fetid pool is better than none. What do folks without partners or happily willing companions do? Prostitutes? Not the best option to my mind. Masturbation is sex with someone you love (hopefully). It always ends well.

How does a person measure satisfaction. Is it merely an climax. Wow, that even sounds great writing it. Is it just physical? I think that there is a bonding that goes on in the afterglow that makes a couple want to be together and do for each other. When repeated over and over you get a stronger relationship overall.

I too am spoiled. I have had sex with my spouse 10's of thousands of times. It never gets old. I guess i'm not qualified to have an opinion on quantity. I can say that with all that sex, all those orgasms, there are some memorable ones. That is what I mean by quality.

All sex seems to take place within the mind. The fantasy is all. Separating the conscious mind from the fantasy experience is where
we all differ. My wife asks.... where did my mind go just now.
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