Originally Posted by Married but Happy View Post
No; I'll have to disagree here, strongly. Yes, you're right IF the quantity/frequency is sufficient - whatever that means for you. However, great/quality sex only once or twice a year would not do it for me - it would be grounds for divorce rather than satisfaction. Or perhaps I'm just spoiled - I have sex almost daily, and it's always at least good, and once or twice a week it's positively extraordinary in quality.
Sex in some respects is like a team sporting activity. Sometimes you will seem to have a perfect golf game, long straight fairway shots, followed by impossible putts. Other days you will slice each fairway shot. To use a team sport analogy, some days you will hit lots of home runs and other days you will strike out each time at bat. Sometimes your team mates will get home runs and make spectacular catches when you are having an off day. Sometimes your pitcher will pitch a no-hitter. Once in a while everyone will perform spectacularly. To get really good requires practice, lots and lots of practice. I feel that sex is the same.
Sometimes sex will be absolutely spectacular when you and your spouse are both totally doing everything right!. Other times, one of you will be doing everything right and the other everything wrong and the result will still be enjoyable, but not so spectacular. Sometimes you will both have an off day together. When that happens you need to be able to laugh about it and not let it get you down.
As they use to say about Babe Ruth, he lead the league in home runs, but he also lead the league in strike outs. As with sex, we tend to only remember the spectacular days.
The point is that "quality" requires two people both performing well. That requires practice and a willingness to try and fail.
Too many people put too much emphasis on each sex act. In my opinion we need to be more playful, exploratory and enjoy each other.