Re: Hubby's fantasy
His fantasy has nothing to do with you. It is a pattern of images/scenes that he finds arousing and probably developed long before you were in the picture.
A common male fantasy requires a partner to dress up as a schoolgirl, does not mean that the man wants to have sex with an underaged female at her school? Nope.
It is normal for you to be averse to this fantasy. Most women would have a difficult time having sex with another man that is not their partner. Even those like myself, who have tried it before, would rather avoid the drama/dangers associated with introducing outsiders to a relationship. If you run a search on this site for swinging and cockolds, you will find many threads where this issue is discussed. The main advice is to avoid this at all costs.
It's best if you do your own research to find out more about your husbands fantasy and the experiences of others who have gone down that path. In no way should you feel forced to engage in this activity to please your husband.
This is one fantasy I personally would have zero interest in fulfilling based on my past experiences and my current view about relationship dynamics.
Edited to add: Considering your husband has been having an emotional affair - HELL NO. Have you put an end to that? Why are you even discussing fantasies at this point? The focus should be on counselling to deal with him disrespecting you for so long!
Last edited by Keke24; 03-08-2017 at 12:47 PM.