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post #31 of 96 (permalink) Old 03-12-2017, 04:27 AM
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Love without sex is the same love you have for your family. It is not intimate love. A marriage without sex, is not a loving marriage. Sex produces the hormone which emotionally bonds you together. it is the same hormone that bonds a mother to her child. Very powerful stuff and if you are not exposed to it regularly through sex, your emotional bonding will be lacking. You will be basically good friends living together.

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I tried to talk clearly with my husband but he didn't said me anything and he was purpusly irritating me.
Actually my dad was Coming to my husband home for discussing his health issue so before my dad comes my husband tried to quarrel with me and made me to leave his home before he is questioned about his health issue

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Love without sex is the same love you have for your family. It is not intimate love. A marriage without sex, is not a loving marriage. Sex produces the hormone which emotionally bonds you together. it is the same hormone that bonds a mother to her child. Very powerful stuff and if you are not exposed to it regularly through sex, your emotional bonding will be lacking. You will be basically good friends living together.
Yes but marriage with sex also suffers with lot issues.I feel nothing is perfect and no one is perfect so if we are into a relationship we should adjust and move on because I am not sure what will happen in my second marriage?

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Yes but marriage with sex also suffers with lot issues.I feel nothing is perfect and no one is perfect so if we are into a relationship we should adjust and move on because I am not sure what will happen in my second marriage?

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Second husband might be worst than this because first I need to make him trust me because many rumors are there about me now and if I continue my first marriage then I don't need to convince my husband because he knows he is wrong

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Yes but marriage with sex also suffers with lot issues.I feel nothing is perfect and no one is perfect so if we are into a relationship we should adjust and move on because I am not sure what will happen in my second marriage?

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And no one is trusting me all are thinking that I am lying about my husband so only I am feeling somehow to convince my husband for continuing our marriage but he is not even receiving my call

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And no one is trusting me all are thinking that I am lying about my husband so only I am feeling somehow to convince my husband for continuing our marriage but he is not even receiving my call

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I don't have anyone to talk also,all are making fun of me and I am just feeling to die sometimes,I have lost interest in my life.

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Can married life without sex work?


NO.


Sex is that special, intimate, physical and emotional bond hubby and wife share.


Talking will not do this.


That's the difference between good friends and your married spouse.


You don't go marrying a friend, you marry your lover and spouse to be.


Sexless marriage doesn't work and in the end, someone will cheat and divorce occurs.


If you don't want sex, don't get into a relationship or get married.


There is nothing wrong with having good friends.

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I am sorry you have this situation. Could you leave the country? If you are from India for example there are many ways for you to find work abroad. Many do this and have happy lives


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Can married life without sex work?


NO.


Sex is that special, intimate, physical and emotional bond hubby and wife share.


Talking will not do this.


That's the difference between good friends and your married spouse.


You don't go marrying a friend, you marry your lover and spouse to be.


Sexless marriage doesn't work and in the end, someone will cheat and divorce occurs.


If you don't want sex, don't get into a relationship or get married.


There is nothing wrong with having good friends.

This - I know that I'd be a lot happier if my wife would treat sex as a vital part of our marriage instead of as a special event every year to two years.
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Can married life without sex work?


NO.


Sex is that special, intimate, physical and emotional bond hubby and wife share.


Talking will not do this.


That's the difference between good friends and your married spouse.


You don't go marrying a friend, you marry your lover and spouse to be.


Sexless marriage doesn't work and in the end, someone will cheat and divorce occurs.


If you don't want sex, don't get into a relationship or get married.


There is nothing wrong with having good friends.
Ha but I am not sure that second marriage will be happier one.me and my husband were living happily but whenever he or his parents or anyone from his were creating drama purposely then I was feeling bad and I was feeling I am adjusting his health issue and he is doing like this.

And we come close to each other but he can't complete the process thats it but he tries to please me sometimes and sometimes pushes me away.

But big problem is my image has become very bad in society and I am being supported by my dad only and he has been gone through cancer operation and he is weak now and others are not trusting me they are thinking that I am lying.

So even if I get married second time then I feel I can't make husband to trust me because of my bad image or I don't think I will be able to get married again.

I don't have that much enthusiasm left with me now.I am not able to study and not able to get any job also.

Not left with any interest in life.

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Involving the family in a delicate situation like this complicates the matter. Your husband is most likely to recoil in himself and will not help in raveling the impasse.

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Involving the family in a delicate situation like this complicates the matter. Your husband is most likely to recoil in himself and will not help in raveling the impasse.

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Yes but I had not involved anyone until 11months of my marriage but my husband Dint assured we or dint tired to convince me about his health. I was red to stay with him adjusting his health but I wanted him to care for me but he was purpusly spoiling my name in front of others to protect himself and sometimes he was good with me so I was very much afraid of all this reactions of my husband and his family so I involved my family and before involving my parents, I had discussed with his parents,his mom dint said anything.

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You sound like you are from India or similar culture.

You had boy friend in school (that's not an affair) before marriage.
Your first arranged engagement broke for some reason but everyone blamed it on your ex BF.
Your H has erectile dysfunction and is not able to have sex with you.
He is not willing to seek treatment or you don't exactly know what's said in the consultation?
You revealed this to your parents and your H became furious as he felt embarrassed.
He lies to everyone that you have been pushing him away and he has no problem with his erection.
Everyone convinced it's your fault and forcing you to D
You are afraid of future and ready to have a child through ivf and stay with him in sexless marriage.

This is what I understand from your posts (hope I m close). I don't think many here would be able to help you because of the cultural differences. If you are well educated, I would say get the D and move into another city far away and start a new life. If you want to continue this and let everyone decide your life, you will never be happy. It sounds like life will be miserable for you regardless of whether you D or stay married with such relatives, parents and in laws. Get out of there and learn to live independently.
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Earlier as he said so I felt he has erectile dysfunction but as he didn't came forward for treatment n he said that I am not allowing him to come close to me so from this I feel he is impotent or he is gay I don't know what is truth but I feel he don't have treatment so he is not showing to doctor or he is not trying to save our marriage

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Sounds like your H has some problem with being with you physically, he may have been a victim of CSA or may have problems with his sexuality. Ask him to talk to you. Why is your family getting involved, surely this is between you and your H?
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Yes but I had not involved anyone until 11months of my marriage but my husband Dint assured we or dint tired to convince me about his health. I was red to stay with him adjusting his health but I wanted him to care for me but he was purpusly spoiling my name in front of others to protect himself and sometimes he was good with me so I was very much afraid of all this reactions of my husband and his family so I involved my family and before involving my parents, I had discussed with his parents,his mom dint said anything.

I needed some assurance from him.

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I understand your frustration ,but two wrongs does not make a right. I think it would have been prudent if you have pushed for a one on one level to an extend he would gain confidence that he has health that needs to be corrected. Men are usually protective on issues touching on their sexual prowess. I think this is the best route for you as a couple to follow.

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