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post #136 of 204 (permalink) Old 03-14-2017, 01:42 PM
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Re: Do any men NOT enjoy facials, anal and cum shots?

My two cents:

Facial's: Not my thing, but in my youth "pearl necklaces" (sometimes just below the throat) and "breast jobs" were pretty hot and not uncommon among the women I dated. I imagine this is just a generational thing, so to each their own.

http://www.lyricsfreak.com/z/zz+top/..._20149104.html

Anal: I would love to try it, but my wife has made it clear that it is never going to happen. So again, to each their own. An alternative, I would love to try with my wife, that she hasn't verbally said NO to (but facial expressions have said "no,you pervert"), is an anal Fleshlight held by her between her thighs while she is on all fours.

Cumshots: I would agree with others that I am not a fan of "coitus interruptus," but as I said earlier "pearl necklaces" in my youth were pretty hot and seem pretty similar. Again, while not my thing, I would imagine a foot fetish-couple might have its own version of cumshots.

The point of this is that each of these three porn-emphasized acts has alternatives that are not that out of the norm and might be within reach of many couples.

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An alternative, I would love to try with my wife, an anal Fleshlight held by her between her thighs while she is on all fours.
Ok that's weird.
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Used to give my ex-GF a pearl necklace when it was that time of month - have to admit that it was hot. She was also rather nicely endowed, which certainly helped.
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I don't think its weird - in fact I think it's a very interesting idea. I love the way sex toys can be used creatively.
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I don't think its weird - in fact I think it's a very interesting idea. I love the way sex toys can be used creatively.
I'm sorry I didn't mean to be rude. But I picture the wife bending over with a Fleshlight jammed between her thighs (with anal attachment engaged) and her husband screwing it and I sort of giggle.
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What's the difference between a cum shot and a facial? Sorry I must be new here...
My wife sometimes "begs" for a facial (or I sometimes "threaten" her with it) but almost every time, I chicken out at the last moment and..."divert" so the neighbours almost always get it instead...
At the time of orgasm I suddenly come to my senses how disgusting it must be having it all over your face.
I always promise to be more disciplined next time.
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facials - nope, no thanks not even a little interested. To me its just really disrespectful to the person your with. It doesn't feel any better than finishing elsewhere and being a pig doesn't turn me on. Its what I expect somebody to do to a hooker when he really wants to make her feel like trash and I simply have to much respect for all women to ever do that.
But how is something disrespectful if they want you to do it? Ask you, beg even?

Look, I get it. I think I'd have a hard time doing it, too (the first time). But if my partner seriously, honestly, actually wanted me to do it, I'd get over that pretty quick.

Instead, I think you'd feel any woman who wanted you to do this would be disrespecting herself, and you wouldn't be able to take that. But here we have a woman (the OP), as well as at least one other I think, who either have no problem with this act, or who genuinely WANT it as part of their sex life.

What you're really saying is that you don't want any woman who would want this sort of thing - NOT that you wouldn't do it because it's disrespectful to women.

What's disrespectful is just doing something like this. Or doing it when you know they don't like it. There's literally nothing disrespectful two people can do with each other if they've communicated about it beforehand and there's consent.

I learned years ago that, although my wife will happily give oral as fore- or after play (not standalone, though!), she is not happy at all if I move myself into position, if you catch my drift. That move doesn't fly with her, despite it never having been an issue with any other woman I've been with (though this certainly made me re-think that...)

"Disrespectful" is up to both people, not just one. If it's not something you want to do, even if your partner is willing - that's totally fine. But don't sugar coat your unwillingness to engage in something like this as you being a white knight, or a gentleman. It's about you, not about your partner.

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I am afraid she is ripe for the picking. Some slick talking good lÚoking guy is bound to cross her path.

Their always the first one to say i would never cheat
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What's the difference between a cum shot and a facial? Sorry I must be new here...
I presume cum shot in this context is probably a reference to visibly ejaculating in places other than on the face.

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My wife sometimes "begs" for a facial (or I sometimes "threaten" her with it) but almost every time, I chicken out at the last moment and..."divert" so the neighbours almost always get it instead...
At the time of orgasm I suddenly come to my senses how disgusting it must be having it all over your face.
I always promise to be more disciplined next time.
Since she asks for it I think it's a shame you don't frequently give her what she wants.

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I have never had any desire to do a "money shot." That's just something they do in porn.

Anal is a take it or leave it type of thing; I suppose I would do it if my partner really wanted but it's not something I really want or need.

Don't be paranoid about, if anything it means your husband is not a porn addict (or likes a different kind?).
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Since she asks for it I think it's a shame you don't frequently give her what she wants.
True. Very embarrassing as a woman to ask for something like this and be turned down. It really kills the moment and can be damaging to one's confidence.
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Am surprised by how many not me, no thanks responses. For me Hell yea - I find it totally hot and erotic. My first wife got off on it also because of how it affected me/my response.
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For a lot of people there is an eroticism of control and dominance. Not sure why, but its something a lot of people enjoy. Whether its cm shots, or women face sitting men, spanking etc, the recipient often enjoys what is in some ways a degrading action.

All good fun if everyone enjoys


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True. Very embarrassing as a woman to ask for something like this and be turned down. It really kills the moment and can be damaging to one's confidence.
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Re: Do any men NOT enjoy facials, anal and cum shots?

@UnicornCupcake please revisit this thread and provide us an update or some further insight on your situation?

Some further feedback and/or insight that you may find helpful is that men that stray from their marriages because the think "very highly" of their wives do so out of fear. It is a fear of loosing one's wife if a man makes himself known for his true sexual desires for which he may feel he is undeserving or that those desires are inappropriate. Therefor he will choose someone that he does not care about loosing in order to just be himself.

It is actually very common for men to fear loosing a partner, so they then try and become someone that they feel their partner wants them to be in order to protect the relationship. Meanwhile they stop being true to themselves and this can manifest itself as hidden infidelity. It is a form of lies begetting lies.

Does your husband hide things from you? Does he apologize for himself a lot when he is around you? Or is he a person that is rather set in his ways and does not apologize for just being himself around you, even if you get upset for him not being interested in anal, cum shots, and facials?

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I'm sorry I didn't mean to be rude. But I picture the wife bending over with a Fleshlight jammed between her thighs (with anal attachment engaged) and her husband screwing it and I sort of giggle.
No offense taken. I am glad you giggled.

The Sex Therapist that helped save/rebuild my marriage with my wife and me, taught us that sex should be fun, playful and involve giggling and even laughing sometimes. That each act should not be expected to be perfect, as that could set up performance anxiety. As they say to get good at something you need to practice at it.

People get to have hard boundaries on what they do with their own bodies. We all need to accept that. Still there are ways to try to playfully dance close to those boundaries and respect our partner.
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