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post #196 of 204 (permalink) Old 03-16-2017, 10:51 AM
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What exactly are they then? And why do they 'think' as a group? (All swimming one way).

I know they are not babies, but there is still 'potential' that they will become one once they find an egg!
Once there was a sperm named Bob. When all the other sperm were just swimming around, Bob was doing sprints and lifting weights. One day, all the other sperms asked him, "Why don't you just swim around like us?" Bob replied, with a smirk, "Well, when the time comes, I'm gonna be the first one there." The others told him it was just destiny, but he said it wasn't. So, the day finally came when they were called upon. They were swimming along when Bob pulled ahead of the rest. Suddenly he stopped and turned around and headed back. The others asked him why he turned around and he said, "Back up boys, it's a BLOW JOB!"
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lastly, cum shots - I'm not even sure what this means. I cum every time I have sex as I'm sure pretty much every man does. so I'm not sure what this even means.
A cumshot is to a facial as a rectangle is to a square. One is always the other but the other is not always the one.
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That's a little unusual. What happens if you finish her with oral first? Sure she doesn't leave you 'hanging' so to speak? Or 69?
Maybe she's freaked out by sperm and perhaps is scared that she is expected to swallow it or do something unusual with it. Have you discussed why she won't do it?

The word "degrading" seems to carry a lot of baggage with it. It doesn't necessarily need to be a negative, in sexual context. A bit like classifying spanking as domestic abuse.


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Lol, none of the above!

She swallows every time. Has never not swallowed. (I also don't care if she does or not, TBH).

She's multi-multi orgasmic, so she's never really 'done'

Yes, I agree with you about the wording. I don't think she feels it's degrading, per se, just that it's not something she wants to do on it's own, by itself. Just no interest She's not a giver.

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That bolded part above is such a good point. Have you ever phrased it to her this way?

I think this also goes back to some of the posts by @inmyprime. Trust is such a big factor in sex, particularly rough/bdsm style sex. A woman's choice to be vulnerable and engage her partner in what some would describe as 'degrading' sex acts requires a lot of trust. It would also help explain why its difficult for women like myself to perform right after big disagreements. They temporarily chip away at the woman's trust in the man.
I have, yes. But she's not one to talk about past experiences, so it's pointless. She also hates comparing relationships (ie. her past experiences with her current, and mine as well). Whatever I know about her past relationship experience, she's volunteered.

I don't believe it's me she doesn't trust. Just that perhaps past experiences involving standalone BJ's have left a bad taste in her mouth - no pun intended... Far too many men expect this sort of thing from their partners, and/or try to get them to do it, or otherwise pout when they don't get BJ's (or whatever). Given that many women just don't have the interest or drive to give regular standalone BJ's in the first place (yet may not be seriously against doing so), giving them this pressure, or ultimatum, or "you don't really care about me" song and dance sure as hell doesn't help.

My ex wife (before she was unable to physically give oral sex - TMJ, lockjaw) did on a fairly regular basis. She had no real desire to do so, other than "for me". I don't recall ever asking her, though I'm sure I did once or twice. But much more often than not, it was her choice. Just something for me. Some women really want to give oral because they like it AND they like to please their partner. Some give it because it's no skin off their back and it makes their partner happy. And some hate it from the get-go. Others, like my wife I believe, have had it ruined for them by ******* partners. If she hated giving oral, she wouldn't be doing it during actual sex, either. But she does, and she genuinely gets right into it and seems to actually enjoy it. There are times where I don't want to finish that way and try to stop it, only to hear her mumble "nuh uh" and go even harder. So, she clearly enjoys it at these times. Just not on it's own, ever.

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No I would not have guessed that you stopped dating her . Not even trying some alternatives? Like choking her with only one hand? Geez that's rough (no pun intended).
You need to lay off the pron.
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Unicorn Cupcake, you're a guy aren't you?
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From a guy who tried all of the above I would never ask my gf to try a facial,I've done it with past gfs but not it's not something I want to do with someone special to me.As for anal,lube is your friend in this situation.
You say your sex life has become dull and boring so why don't YOU spice it up.A few toys,role play,grooming each other can work wonders.
My own personal favourite is the geisha girl role play but that's just me.
Role playing is freaking hawt!!!
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My husband and I have always had pretty normal and tame sexual appetites and up until recently I wasn't bothered by it. Lately, however, our sex life just seems so stale and boring.

He's never asked to give me a facial, anal or cum shot, but I don't mind any of these things too much so I figured that would be a good way to spice things up, right? Wrong. He doesn't seem interested in any of them and I confess it's making my feel extremely unattractive and undesirable.

I always thought men liked to do these things and I'm a little paranoid that he DOES want to do these things, just not wit me. I mean, how many men DON'T want to give a money shot now and then? What is it about me that makes the idea of these things so unappealing?

After months of playfully telling him to stick it in my ass we had a few failed (but fun attempts) at anal. I don't detest it, but I need to be drunk for it to be enjoyable and successful. I'm not saying I need to be drunk to have sex with my husband. No. But when I'm all done up and we've had a night out I tend to be in the mood more and I think that's a fair assessment for most women.

I hope we're not experiencing that Madonna/***** complex in which the thought of cuming on my face turns him off, but on some twentysomething it's appealing because I'm his wife and she's of no importance. Maybe that's a stretch, I don't know... His response and lack of interest just doesn't seem normal. I don't think he's cheating, but I think he's just a man... And men want these things, don't they?

Do any of you NOT like to do these things? If so, why?
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My wife actually enjoys it when I come on her face and body. I also enjoy it.

Recently, my wife has wanted me to penetrate her anally. We have tried this a handful of times during the course of 35 years of sex, usually when either she or both of us have been drinking. I have explained to her many times over the years that I don't enjoy putting my c*ck in her a$$, I don't like the smell or the potential for "residue", and I don't really get off on anal intercourse.

She actually got upset with me the last time we had sex, and I declined to give her anal. She knows I don't really like it, but she tells me that in any sexual relationship, there are things one partner wants that the other doesn't want to do, but that the reluctant partner should be more open to giving the other what they want. So when I asked her why she doesn't let me ejaculate in her mouth, or allow me to give her standalone oral, she got very defensive, and didn't want to talk about it. WTF???
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