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I don't think he IS LD. IF I could check his porn history (although he insists he doesn't watch it) I'm confident he'd search the stuff I'm talking about.
I feel like he does want to... I Just don't believe a 30 year old man doesn't... It's like he doesn't want to do it with me..

He IS a pretty low key. conservative almost boring individual, though. He always has been. It's starting to become an issue NOW and I don't know why...


The reason I say he is more LD, is because if he was HD adventurous, he would be into those things and usually in the mood and with you. I am HD adventurous and those activities and more do interest me, were as my wife is like your hubby.

There has to be a reason why he isn't into you.

Health? Size? There has to be a reason.

To me, those aren't odd sexual activities. They are fun and spice it up.

He is conservative, almost boring and doesn't want to do anything fun and spicy. Sounds like he doesn't want sex much to begin with. Maybe he has sex to keep the marriage going?

Or is he a secret porn addict all this time?

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CB, lack of interest in facials and the other things does not mean he is uninterested/virtually uninterested in sex. It means he has no interest in certain ACTS. You can spice things up, and you absolutely can be a "horn dawg" and not be interested in specific sexual acts. Stop putting words in her mouth, including insinuating he is LD. Not once did she indicate that he has little interest in sex, only that she THOUGHT all men like certain acts, which is NOT the case. The REAL issue here is that she doesn't trust what he says. They need to address THAT, if they are going to figure anything out.

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This guy sounds similar to Mrs.CuddleBug.

I am a horn dawg at times and that means I'm not a conservative, quiet, sexually boring guy.

I am not putting words in her mouth. I am giving my advice and if you don't like it, nuts to you.

Most men love sex.

Most men have high sex drives.

"Most men are visually stimulated", that's why porn is so addicting. The hotter the woman, the more we'll probably look.....

Men are simple.....hot woman, we look, sex. Simple.

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The reason I say he is more LD, is because if he was HD adventurous, he would be into those things and usually in the mood and with you. I am HD adventurous and those activities and more do interest me, were as my wife is like your hubby.

There has to be a reason why he isn't into you.

Health? Size? There has to be a reason.

To me, those aren't odd sexual activities. They are fun and spice it up.

He is conservative, almost boring and doesn't want to do anything fun and spicy. Sounds like he doesn't want sex much to begin with. Maybe he has sex to keep the marriage going?

Or is he a secret porn addict all this time?
Ugh. Wrong. Even someone with a higher drive is entitled to have NO INTEREST in specific acts. And, just because someone is more conservative, it DOES NOT mean they have little to know interest in sex! Can the stereotypes, man! She already stated that they DID try anal, and it didn't turn out well. That, right there, says he is WILLING to try different things, but certain acts are off the table for him. Yes, they do seem mismatched now. No question about it. But she doesn't need someone telling her that "if he was HD, he'd be into it". That is NOT the case, at all. And she NEVER said he isn't into HER. Again, you are reading a hell of a lot more into this than is actually there. He is not into certain ACTS, which SHE thinks he should be into... because he is a man. 😡

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This guy sounds similar to Mrs.CuddleBug.

I am a horn dawg at times and that means I'm not a conservative, quiet, sexually boring guy.

I am not putting words in her mouth. I am giving my advice and if you don't like it, nuts to you.

Most men love sex.

Most men have high sex drives.


"Most men are visually stimulated", that's why porn is so addicting. The hotter the woman, the more we'll probably look.....
SHE. NEVER. SAID. HE. DOESN'T. LIKE. SEX.

You absolutely ARE putting words into her mouth, tainted by your own experience with Mrs.CB. She has NOT ONCE stated he has no interest in sex. She has ONLY stated that he has no interest in facials/cum shots/money shots... whatever else you want to call it. And they DID try anal, and I bet he would try again, if she is loosened up enough, etc.

The one thing I agree with is that most men are higher drive. The problem here, is YOU are assuming he is LD because he expressed that he does not want to do specific acts. That, CB, is a categorically false assumption. So, yes, you absolutely ARE putting words into her mouth.

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Ugh. Wrong. Even someone with a higher drive is entitled to have NO INTEREST in specific acts. And, just because someone is more conservative, it DOES NOT mean they have little to know interest in sex! Can the stereotypes, man! She already stated that they DID try anal, and it didn't turn out well. That, right there, says he is WILLING to try different things, but certain acts are off the table for him. Yes, they do seem mismatched now. No question about it. But she doesn't need someone telling her that "if he was HD, he'd be into it". That is NOT the case, at all. And she NEVER said he isn't into HER. Again, you are reading a hell of a lot more into this than is actually there. He is not into certain ACTS, which SHE thinks he should be into... because he is a man. 😡

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Disagree. You are a woman with a woman's view, and not a man's view.

I am giving a man's view on this.

I am a man, and I know many guys who also are HD. Guess what? They are into those things and more. No surprise there. They wish their ladies were into that stuff.

Stereotypes come from facts. That's why they are stereotypes.

There has to be a reason why he isn't into her. She wants fun sex with him and he doesn't with her. Why? That's what I'm interested in learning.

You need to calm down already.

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SHE. NEVER. SAID. HE. DOESN'T. LIKE. SEX.

You absolutely ARE putting words into her mouth, tainted by your own experience with Mrs.CB. She has NOT ONCE stated he has no interest in sex. She has ONLY stated that he has no interest in facials/cum shots/money shots... whatever else you want to call it. And they DID try anal, and I bet he would try again, if she is loosened up enough, etc.

The one thing I agree with is that most men are higher drive. The problem here, is YOU are assuming he is LD because he expressed that he does not want to do specific acts. That, CB, is a categorically false assumption. So, yes, you absolutely ARE putting words into her mouth.

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Nothing else better to do again than nit pick apart posts you don't agree with. No surprise there.

And you're a woman only seeing it from a woman's perspective. That's 50%......

You're telling me, a HD adventurous guy, that those fun spicy things we all aren't into, conservative, quiet sexually boring and we'd rather view porn than have fun sex often with our ladies? No.

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This guy sounds similar to Mrs.CuddleBug.

I am a horn dawg at times and that means I'm not a conservative, quiet, sexually boring guy.

I am not putting words in her mouth. I am giving my advice and if you don't like it, nuts to you.

Most men love sex.

Most men have high sex drives.

"Most men are visually stimulated", that's why porn is so addicting. The hotter the woman, the more we'll probably look.....

Men are simple.....hot woman, we look, sex. Simple.
Just because people don't want or like certain sexual things doesn't make them LD or non-adventurous or boring in bed. There are HD people who try various things and are great in bed, but they would never do anal and don't want it on the face. Men should be stimulated by their wives, not porn.

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Count this old fashioned fart as one who doesn't like stuff like that in the least!

I find it personally obnoxious and more than disrespectful to my love interest!

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HD has little to do with types of activities, but desire to have sex in whatever configuration pleases you most. You want missionary 7 times a week? HD. You want a facial once a month? LD. IMO.

@UnicornCupcake, my husband doesn't enjoy any of the above. Especially facials. He's not conservative (at all...I had especially here and then I thought a bit and laughed) but to him, it doesn't feel as good as finishing inside. I trust that he is telling the truth and if he is not, he is only short-changing himself.


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I always thought men liked to do these things and I'm a little paranoid that he DOES want to do these things, just not wit me. I mean, how many men DON'T want to give a money shot now and then? What is it about me that makes the idea of these things so unappealing?
I think the most important thing I've learned in my marriage is don't listen to what "most" men want. Listen to your husband, without judgement and openly. Just like women are pegged into boxes we don't like, men receive the same treatment and it sucks just as much.

I don't worry that he's lying to me because a) he isn't a liar b) I don't give him a reason to feel pressured or judged when he is expressing himself. Never been like "ew gross, you are a pervert" to try to get him to not want something sexually.

My husband is not into any of your list. I trust that he isn't as I have no issues with letting him express himself verbally and sexually and talking about his likes, dislikes and would like to tries. I wouldn't categorize my husband as conservative, but facials and cumshots especially aren't appealing to his sexuality for reasons like: doesn't feel as good/is mostly for show/degrading in not a fun way.

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Maybe. However, fantasy and reality don't always collide, especially when it comes to sex and porn. Even if he did search this stuff, he might not be compelled to do it for other reasons.

The big thing that concerns me is how much you don't trust your husband's words which are also backed up by his actions. What is the driver of the second guessing?
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SHE. NEVER. SAID. HE. DOESN'T. LIKE. SEX.

You absolutely ARE putting words into her mouth, tainted by your own experience with Mrs.CB. She has NOT ONCE stated he has no interest in sex. She has ONLY stated that he has no interest in facials/cum shots/money shots... whatever else you want to call it. And they DID try anal, and I bet he would try again, if she is loosened up enough, etc.

The one thing I agree with is that most men are higher drive. The problem here, is YOU are assuming he is LD because he expressed that he does not want to do specific acts. That, CB, is a categorically false assumption. So, yes, you absolutely ARE putting words into her mouth.

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I know that some woman get off on being humiliated or being roughly taken but to most men, who love their wives, we don't enjoy abusing our woman. I love my wife and wouldn't want to shoot on her face. To me, I'd feel like I'm disrespecting her.

Anal is a different story. Taking her anally is extremely hot to me. There are many men who want to do more adventurous things with their wife but fear that not only will they be turned down but that their wife will think they're sick. I'd bet the majority of men fall in this category.

Of course there are also men that sincerely don't want to try anal or have their wife swallow. If your husband is one of these men, you may need to curb your desire for these act by eliminating movies, books, or friends that are planting these desires in your mind. Continuing to plant these desires, will lead you to another man's bed to fulfill those desire. So if you don't want to find yourself become a wayward, watch what you allow into your mind.

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My husband doesn't like being put on the spot; do you like this? do you like that? He prefers things to be experimental and natural. Sometimes he just doesn't know whether he likes something or not. And if he watches something in porn it certainly doesn't mean he wants to actually do it. BTW he has never been interested in facials as it is a complete turn off for him, he describes it as 'wrong' in the same way spanking seems 'wrong' (and I have tried). Watching a paid porn star do something and doing the same thing to your wife are 2 different things.

If you want to spice things up maybe you should go slow and gradual. The sex we have now is very different to the sex we had 20 years ago - it was an evolution rather than revolution.
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I really don't have any great interest in those things. I have had anal sex a couple of times and honestly enjoy a nice vagina MUCH more. I love the smell of a woman. Anus smell, not so much... Anal play can be fun though.

I find facials kind of more of a "porn" thing than something I would want to do in real life. If she wanted it, I would do it, but it wouldn't be a huge turn on.

I am adventurous and wiling to try new things. Those particular things don't do anything for me though.

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Nothing else better to do again than nit pick apart posts you don't agree with. No surprise there.

And you're a woman only seeing it from a woman's perspective. That's 50%......

You're telling me, a HD adventurous guy, that those fun spicy things we all aren't into, conservative, quiet sexually boring and we'd rather view porn than have fun sex often with our ladies? No.
That is not what I said AT ALL. I said men can be into sexually adventurous things and NOT want to do SPECIFIC acts. I never once said that men would "rather view porn than have fun sex often with [their wives]". Not once, CB. In fact... this may come as a shock... but, *gasp* not every man looks at porn, either! Even men who, you guessed it, love sex.

Yes, I respond from the point of view of a woman. A woman who knows her husband and his habits, what he likes and doesn't like. And I know for FACT that he has no interest in those things, and FACTtgat he doesn't look at porn, and hasn't in the 18 years we have been together. My husband knows I post here. I tell him about these topics and *gasp* his responses mirror mine, but from the mouth/fingertips of a man. So that shoots your theory out of the water.

Not to mention the other men on this thread who have said, essentially, the same thing I have. And each of those men have, at various points on the forum, stated how much they enjoy sex, and are adventurous. So... Another point against your theory.

Now, UC posted in the thread that she Pm'd me. I read it, and replied. You are incorrect in your assumption about his drive. It is for her to decide if/when she wishes to share the reason for her mistrust. But, it has absolutely nothing to do with his drive. @UnicornCupcake, I think @browser and I both touched on the problem, and you really should address it.



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He said he's not into it and yet you're confident that he is.

Why such a lack of trust in his honesty?



This is the real problem. The two of you are not sexually compatible. This is somewhere around the top third reason for failure of relationships. I think "lack of trust" is number two.
It could go further than lack of trust of his honesty. It might just be that the OP does not accept her husband for who he is and wants to make him into the man that she really wants.
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