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My husband and I have always had pretty normal and tame sexual appetites and up until recently I wasn't bothered by it. Lately, however, our sex life just seems so stale and boring.
That can happen over time, which is why it's refreshing to mix things up and sometimes do other things.

Have you specifically shared with your husband, that you've started to find the sex a bit stale and boring?

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He's never asked to give me a facial, anal or cum shot, but I don't mind any of these things too much so I figured that would be a good way to spice things up, right? Wrong. He doesn't seem interested in any of them and I confess it's making my feel extremely unattractive and undesirable.
Unfortunately he may genuinely not be interested in such activities. That said I don't think you should feel you are unattractive and undesirable as consequence of the rejection.

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I always thought men liked to do these things and I'm a little paranoid that he DOES want to do these things, just not wit me. I mean, how many men DON'T want to give a money shot now and then? What is it about me that makes the idea of these things so unappealing?
Plenty don't, not all men are alike just as not all women are alike.

I think you would do well to realise that his reticence probably has nothing specifically to do with you at all.

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After months of playfully telling him to stick it in my ass we had a few failed (but fun attempts) at anal. I don't detest it, but I need to be drunk for it to be enjoyable and successful. I'm not saying I need to be drunk to have sex with my husband. No. But when I'm all done up and we've had a night out I tend to be in the mood more and I think that's a fair assessment for most women.
IF you want to go into the ins and outs of how to do this well, I am happy to share.

That said as someone who is quite experienced at this with different woman, I encourage you to do this while sober and without numbing creams. Simply because you are better off having immediate feedback if something hurts back there.

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I hope we're not experiencing that Madonna/***** complex in which the thought of cuming on my face turns him off, but on some twentysomething it's appealing because I'm his wife and she's of no importance. Maybe that's a stretch, I don't know... His response and lack of interest just doesn't seem normal. I don't think he's cheating, but I think he's just a man... And men want these things, don't they?
Since some relate that they would happily do this to someone they don't love, yet would not share this with those they do, You might be experiencing that.

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Do any of you NOT like to do these things? If so, why?
That's not me.
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From a guy who tried all of the above I would never ask my gf to try a facial,I've done it with past gfs but not it's not something I want to do with someone special to me.As for anal,lube is your friend in this situation.
I've been doing such things for 28 years with most of my sexual partners, and have always done such things with those I considered special.
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Some men enjoy those things and many women do not. It is kind of degrading to cum on a girls face like a porn actress who is paid to accept it.
Most of my sexual partners have happily accepted frequent cum facials.

Personally I feel it is a great thing to share with a woman who I like and or love.

The only women who I have been with that I didn't do (try) this with, were one night or not even one night stands. Or women who the sex on a first through fourth date, didn't seem to mutually work out well.

That said (according to her) my wife has never felt degraded when I cum on her face, which is something I have enjoyed with her quite frequently through close to 21 years.

As an alternative to receiving a facial, my wife will take it in her mouth and then slowly drool it out onto her breasts and then play with it. Or she will swallow virtually all of it and then just let a little bit out of her mouth. Much less frequently I will cum on her breasts or just get the hair on her head. Otherwise I cum in her vagina or backdoor, at the end of the day variety works for us.

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I never had a desire to cum on a girl's face.
My having a desire to do that, stems from experiences with my first sexual partner. Where she drooled it out onto her chin after I would cum in her mouth. Or sometimes when I pulled out to finish in her mouth I sometimes got her face first. So from when I was 17, it became something that I liked doing.

That said from experience, I do enjoy marking the women that I am with.

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I was doing anal 40 years ago before porn stars did it.
Anal sex isn't a new thing, and has featured in some pre twentieth century pornography. Likewise I started doing anal sex when I was 17, yet I hadn't seen it in pornography until a few years after that. Just like I was doing facials a few years before I also saw it in porn.

Some people do stumble upon this sort of thing without any help from pornography.

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If your so doesn't mind facials then try this.It is a bit rude.
If you are taking her from behind just as you are about to shoot pull out and spit on her back,when she turns around give it to her in the face.
Then run.
Well my significant other is fine with facials, to the point that she sometimes generously leaves it on her face so I can grab a camera and get a few pictures of her so glazed.

Yet I can't imagine why I would bother trying what you suggest. Considering the fact that spitting isn't my thing and I think spitting on the back sounds a bit dull. Plus there's no point running when she's up for it anyway.

I often take my wife from behind in the backdoor and will then pull out and give her a facial.

Or having done this so often I let go a bit in her back door, and give her the rest on her face so she get's it at both ends. The only issue with that is sometimes I won't get to her face in time.

Having sex with someone, spitting on them, and then immediately running away sounds more degrading than giving your partner a generous glazing.
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Were are more ladies like yourself???
In my experience, they're all over the place. You would pass many like that on your way to and from work and out shopping etc.

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I wish Mrs.CuddleBug was into those things and more adventurous sex, but she is conservative LD. Basically, like your hubby.
Have you ever told your wife directly and without ambiguity, that you want to give her cum facials and have anal sex with her?
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He IS a pretty low key. conservative almost boring individual, though. He always has been. It's starting to become an issue NOW and I don't know why...
If you choose someone like that, you're likely to get someone who is low key, conservative and almost boring.

The pornography a person might enjoy, may not correlate with what they want to do.
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Disagree. You are a woman with a woman's view, and not a man's view.

I am giving a man's view on this.

I am a man, and I know many guys who also are HD. Guess what? They are into those things and more. No surprise there. They wish their ladies were into that stuff.

Stereotypes come from facts. That's why they are stereotypes.

There has to be a reason why he isn't into her. She wants fun sex with him and he doesn't with her. Why? That's what I'm interested in learning.

You need to calm down already.
Well I'm a man, and despite the fact my sexual proclivities don't concur with @Maricha75, I agree with what she is saying.

Unlike you I have many years of doing all of that and much more with different women, yet I understand that one can have a high drive sexually, yet not want to do facials, anal sex and or enjoy the same.

There are also plenty of men and women who may want to try such things, yet in practice find that they're not into it at all. This is also supported by some of the men in this discussion, who have related that despite having done these things, they're not into it at all.

Until you try it for yourself, how can you be certain you will actually enjoy the experience as well?
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I know that some woman get off on being humiliated or being roughly taken but to most men, who love their wives, we don't enjoy abusing our woman. I love my wife and wouldn't want to shoot on her face. To me, I'd feel like I'm disrespecting her.
I love my wife and don't abuse her at all, yet I do enjoy cumming on her face and don't feel I am disrespecting her at all.

As to the fear of being considered sick, in my experience I've found there's lots of positive mileage in being very direct and upfront about such things.

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Anal is a different story. Taking her anally is extremely hot to me. There are many men who want to do more adventurous things with their wife but fear that not only will they be turned down but that their wife will think they're sick. I'd bet the majority of men fall in this category.
Is that the category of fearing to disclose such sexual interest, or of having a desire for such interests?

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Of course there are also men that sincerely don't want to try anal or have their wife swallow. If your husband is one of these men, you may need to curb your desire for these act by eliminating movies, books, or friends that are planting these desires in your mind. Continuing to plant these desires, will lead you to another man's bed to fulfill those desire. So if you don't want to find yourself become a wayward, watch what you allow into your mind.
I agree that there are some men who don't want to go there. Yet don't agree with the recommendation of suppressing ones sexual desires.

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You need to believe what your husband tells you. Not all men are into the same things as not all woman are in to the same thing.
Yep.

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What you see in porn is not the "bible" of what men expect woman to be or act like. Any man or woman that looks to porn for ideas or a base as which to judge the sexual relationship he/she has with his/her partner is denying themselves and their partner the intense intimacy and bonding experince that you get by creating a healthy sex life, and exploring each other's like's and dislikes while mapping each other's body to find what gives each other pleasure. You can't recreate porn, but you can make your own.
Pornography doesn't always drive such practices at all. I was doing such things and more, long before I knew such things featured in pornography.

In the modern era when it comes to human sexual practices, there's nothing new under the sun.
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I cant see what the attraction is, cant think of much worse than a penis being put there, what with the pain and the mess, when there is a great place perfectly designed for the penis already.
My wife has been doing this for circa two decades, due to a good diet and appropriate techniques pain and mess have never been an issue at all.

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Dont assume that all men want those things, they dont.
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I actually haven't found any evidence. Or real suspicions of cheating. I don't quite know where this paranoia is coming from. Boredom, perhaps? I just find our every day live so mundane right now.
He may not be bored at all.

Depending upon one's own sexual proclivities, fortunately or unfortunately some men and some women really do prefer a limited menu.

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Absolutely and it infuriates me he'd rather sit and smoke with a depressed old man in utter silence while they play games on their phones than spend time with his wife. It makes me bitter and unlikable. It actually makes me not want to be around him and is a big reason we are apart every Sunday. We used to trade off, but now I'd rather he go do what he wants to do.
That being the case with all of the rest, how long are you prepared to carry on with this incompatibility sans resolution?

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Sitting with his dad for a few hours a week doesn't make him/them codependent lol. As for my dad and me, both have physical limitations, so walking the grounds would not be possible. Walking on uneven ground, lime at the high school, is a no go for dad. Now, this wasn't how we spent EVERY day/evening of matching band practice. Sometimes, we would do a little shopping. But we talk nearly everyday, whether on the phone or just texting/messaging. So a couple hours of virtually no talking isn't bad for us.

Oh, and your example of tofu vs steak? Lol I would choose the tofu. I prefer vegetarian options over meat. 😂
And I would take the stake over tofu any time. I like tofu well enough. But a good steak beats tofu, IMHO. The point being that different people like different things. And that's ok. It's even good that we all like different things. More steak for me... more tofu for Maricha
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UnicornCupcake,

What in your life are you finding boring besides your sex life?
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Some guys don't like it with their wife...
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